Just a question really as I am curious..

[TLESinChristmasStockings]

when does harmless flirting stop being harmless?

yes, a disingenous woman who flirts with her female friends partners is just a pain in the arse, tbh

not really hurtful

just a bit sad and needy, and should be viewed as such

Can I just direct you to this thread, for some more answers to your question...we are basically having the same convo and it's not going anywhere because you keep changing the story.

Night night

AF,

I do have female friends, as I have always said not as many as my male friends. Some of my male friends I have known since childhood just as with the female friends.
But most of my female friends were made in adulthood.

I also have female friends who are not invited on "lads" nights, yet I am. My male friends don't see me as a flirt. We all have open honest relationships with eachother, we know eachothers partners and some of the families.

My dad was a flirt, he could phone directory enquiries and by the time he had finished the call would know about the lady on the phones life. Because he would chat....was it flirting ? well I am not sure, my mum always says he was a flirt and how it made her laugh. She was never offended by him or his ways.

I am like my dad in many ways. I don't make a concious or unconcious decision to flirt/chat/laugh I just enjoy myself and I guess as I have said it can and has been misinterpreted as me flirting when actually, I dont see it that way.

yes, I see how this thread will go

OP will change her stance, when she gets a hard time

just like the last occasion this exact same thread was posted, by her

OP...if people keep telling you that you a flirt, they are probably sick of you

get a grip, and grow up

OP, count how many times you actually used the word "flir" in your last post

it is quite telling

Flight, no they never said I was a flirt actually. The chat was about how one woman thought her husband was having an affair as she had heard him "flirting" with someone on the phone.

After a while we just all agreed everyone has a different view on what is or isn't flirting and what is and isn't harmless flirting. I only asked on here as I was curious of other womens opinions.

This was not intended to be about me, the OP was when does it stop being harmless.

flirt

fuck this t key

AF, I don't flirt with female friends partners. Never have done actually.

answer to Op: it stops being harmless when it is harmful to someone....

Bored now....

swap your T for my C which keeps jamming

Lyd, yes I agree. So in your opinion when would that be to yourself say?

you say you go out with the lads

are you saying none of them have partners ?

or is the fact that those partners are not your friends tantamount to free rein for you to critique them ?

do you not get it ?

Lady, I don't see how me having a drink/pool/snooker etc is flirting. I already said I worded it wrong. I do the same with my female friends and male friends......I don't think I flirt with my female friends.

so you "don't flirt" with the partners of your friends

what do you call what you do with men that are not the partners of your actual friends then ?

TheLadyEvenstar Tue 28-Sep-10 01:47:08
'Ok so the scenario is simple

I go to the pub, laugh, joke, dance,flirt, buy drinks for and have drinks bought for me.

Then I go home to DP and our 2 ds's.

There is nothing in any of what I do other than fun...so why do so many friends (some are wives of male friends i drink with) of mine think I am being unfair to DP???

He trusts me and knows I am a major flirt...heck thats how we met.

So what is it other women have a problem with ???'

That's from your other thread.

You said that you have been told you are a flirt. Who told you you are a flirt?

LITR, we are going in circles

I vote the [fbiscuit}

AF,
I did reply that I go out with them and I know their partners/wives/boyfriends etc. I don't ever criticise the partners of my friends. I have on many occassion given my male friends a females perspective on a situation.
I am friends with them as well and do go out with them but it is different. Some of my male friends have been friends since we were children, some since we were teens, others from when we were both single. A couple are also ex boyfriends from my teen years. One of these is DS2's godparent along with his wife.

FWIW, my DH would give you the swerve

I wouldn't have to tell him to

he would just see "uh-ho, needy man-pleaser alert" and edge away carefully

HA AF, I bicuited this one ages ago but mine didnt have a santa hat on

this again?