He is in pieces, didn't expect that reaction

[domeafavour]

Just one of the threads here
solicitor cancelled today and friends cancelled on sat night, so was actually going to try to get through Christmas, but just had huge row and I told him I had had enough.
He knows I mean it and is now begging, saying he will do anything.
I think he is only saying it because he has realised he will lose his son, but he is broken.
I know there is no good time for these things, but he has seriously had a shit week.
Talking about staying at home alone for Xmas and skyping ds when we are at my parents.

help me be strong and stick to my guns. My resolve is weakening.
I know this is manipulation but it's working.
I'm so tired.

he is a misogynist twat

sent photos to his mates ?

how fucking juvenile...has he the maturity level of a teenage nobber ?

"as far as he thinks" ??

it doesn't matter what he thinks...his opinions are meaningless

Hi

I've just got home - it's FREEZING out there and not much better in here - just whacked the heating up!

I hope you have/you will do as AF said.

Is there anything stopping you going to your parents tomorrow?

You can tell him he has a few days to pack up his things and be out by the time you get back.

No matter how pathetic he's being, it's all a game and as soon as he sees he isn't winning he'll be back to his usual ways.

Just keep telling him that it's pointless discussing anything, it is over and there is nothing he can say or do that will change your mind.

chip...is it cold out there ?

I hadn't noticed

Cheeky cow!!

It is colder here than it has been so far this winter I think.... brrrrrr

Ok I am going home tonight until new year, during which time he is going to find somewhere to live.
Talked for 5 hours and he knows it's all his fault. He is devastated, but also very dramatic, oh and he fell down the stairs in the middle of it all
I'm exhausted, but ds and I are very much looking forward to going home.

Just read your thread, well done Dome. Hope you have a good time. Don't worry about next xmas, a lot may have happened by then and if your H cannot do more than 2 hrs with your DS do you really think he will do xmas? He's just saying stuff that he knows will get to you. You have done the right thing.

fell down the stairs ?

sorry, but that is hilarious

does he think he is starring in some Eastenders stylee drama ?

have a good xmas x

How did he fall down the stairs?!

Well done dome - hope you have a great christmas and that he is gone when you come home.

I was putting ds to bed and he was coming down the stairs with a couple of presents and just skidded down. The carpet is new and a bit slippy. I actually fell myself the other day.
I do think it was real, but oh the drama.
He's such a grade a tosser.

Domeafavour - I'm really pleased that you have talked to him and got it all off of your chest. I'm even more pleased you are going home tonight. I hope all of your family will be really supportive & that you and DS have a lovely Christmas. Hopefully by the time you get home H will be sorted and you and DS can enjoy living in a lovely calm environment.

thanks chippingin, I did get a lot of my chest. I think that was why I felt like I had to talk to him
He dared to say that he had been trying recently, and I just let rip. Told him I was disgusted with him, sick to the bottom of my stomach about the stripper incident.
Told him he was a crap father, gave examples and a pathetic excuse for a husband, with examples.
he also has to prove he is trying to be a better person before he gets to spend proper time on his own with DS. Counselling and change his stressful job. they are the conditions.
He is suitably defeated and shamed right now, but I am under no illusions as to how long it will last until he reverts to his bolshy bravado.

Ummm - what part of 'trying' was the Stripper? If he hadn't been trying would he have gone for a prostitute instead? FFS

I'm glad that you aren't falling for his 'defeated & shamed' act and I'm so pleased that you can see it's only a matter of time until he reverts to being a complete wanker.

just when I thought I had sorted it.
He just phoned me at work, to tell me he had filled the car with petrol for me, and packed some presents he had bought.yeah, yeah
and then started talking about this holiday we had planned, and how his friend has said we can go and visit for a weekend in Jan. wtf?
and then he said I should come back on Tuesday to go to work.( there will be nobody at work)
Basically ignoring every plan I made last night.
didn't take long did it?

you pushed him didn't you

admit it

dome...are you at your parent's now ?

ah..so you haven't gone yet

dome...when are you going ?

get in the car, and bloody go, will you please

at pushed him!
no, I'm in work
leaving tonight

Incredible.

WHat did you sy to latest round of fantasy?

say

er, I put the phone down!

The only thing you could do really!
Strewth. Talk about Not Getting It.

Oh well, nice of him to fill the car & put the presents in :)

You can tell him what a deluded duckwit he is later

I mean FGS - ...

Hey, I just had a thought, he isn't one of twins is he? It's the only logical explanation.

yeah, that would make sense!!

It's good to be home. But ds is really poorly bless him. Horrible cough and temp. But also very excited to see gps.

I hope you have a lovely time, dose him up and hopefully all of the excitement will help him to ignore feeling crap - it's the theory I'm working on anyway.

You have done really well. I hope you have a lovely time with your family and that you feel loved & supported through this.

Have a lovley Christmas
Chippy
x