Chin Up and Tits Out for the Recently Ditched No. 10

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity
:) :(

Hey Where - nice to see you on here! Yes - this thread is now huge AND a great source of comfort. Did you read Kate's post the other day? Her university age daughter is back for the holidays (she also has two little girls by exh) and he rang to say he'd crashed the car in the snow (he was fine btw). Older daughter said "I didn't realise Karma was a visit?" Haha! Feel as smug as you can. I have an exh who is dressed by his 21 year old gf. Needless to say he looks ridiculous. :)

paing a visit that should say. Damn these fairy lights - should put normal ones on too when typing!

Hello lovelys

Still feel like death warmed up right now. So I'm not keeping up on here at all as I feel so ill. Still in my pjamas, the kids are dressed and well fed but I'm lying on the sofa feeling sorry for myself. I would ask H to come over and help but the OW is down at the moment

My new mobile phone arrived today it's a nokia E5, looks a bit like a blackberry, and I can piggy back off my wifi and check mumsnet, facebook etc whilst still sitting in the lounge with the kids. Oh dear could be quite addictive. Well once I feel a bit better...

Poor Tea - nothing worse than being ill when you are looking after kids on your own. Big big hugs.
Oh and don't bother looking on fb. It's the root of all evil you know! :)

I love fb, but I'm very good at deleting people I do not consider good friends

Ah Tea neither am I, neither am I.

lol. Chicken kiev, chips and peas for the kids tonight. Quality fayre I offer ;-)

just doing this on my mobile but it actually takes longer

Sovereign - yes, the phrase is familiar that he 'felt sorry for me each time he wanted to dump me, but THIS time he doesn't. He says - I just want rid of you, I hate you, you are mad, an alcoholic (rubbish, he used to be), pathetic, clingy..........

Hi gettingeasier-sounds very similar. But, I have always had to jump through hoops, and yet he remained 'unobtainable'. So, not a new thing, the way the balance of the relationship always was from the start in my case. I made a mistake once with an ex, prior to our marriage, and so we started married life with me permanently in the doghouse; he never let me out of it. And, it was probably like that, although I never noticed it, before my mistake.

Arrrggh - just been back to the house to store xmas food in 'our' freezer...new bedding, cheese, chocolate and wine for 2..and he spent the weekend at a wedding.

£4 a week for each of the girls he's given me. What an prick he is.

I am fuming

Wherecan I am relying on karma

Deluded good way of putting it "Unobtainable" thats what mine was and to be obtainable he had to be drunk which in hindsight was probably why I colluded so much with his drinking.

Something patience said a while back was that we put these men on pedestals but they are just blokes not gods and I think I put xh on a pedestal far too much where by contrast he put me in the gutter

goo you rebel letter home from school. Enjoyed reading the contrast between you and your ow

Hi lovely ladies.

What twunts these xhs are.

Anyway we will rise above them with our chins up

Today was a bit of an ordeal, all not concluded with DS but looking like a fairly positive outcome. More discussions to be had post xmas.

For all of you with DCs I say much better to be rid of these twunts when your kids are young if possible.

Glad for you Happy and I hope you can enjoy some respite over the festive season.

Thanks Getting et al.

Not out of the woods but do feel ready to party hard at xmas I think.

Can stop playing I'll stand by you by the Pretenders now .

And thank you to the dumpling who kept me busy with texts during proceedings!

WCIH, Karma seems to be paying my X regular visits, nothing is going right for him lately and i am soo pleased about it :o they will all get their comeuppance eventually :o

New years eve i either usually work (barmaid)or spend with X so this year i am going out and partying with friends :o bought myself a lovely top to wear a little bit teasing but nice :o

Getting, i went out today and bought a present each for X off DC and a card, nothing flash just socks, boxers, choc and smelly's, i will not be signing the card or the pressies DS1 can write so he will do it all there will be nothing from me :o
Will call him again later and see if he wants to come talk tonight about DC but am not hopeful just shows to me how important they are to him that he cant make the effort

Kate, i'd have took the wine and chocolate with me when i left :o

I didnt know that my relationship was in trouble with X till we split the last time in july, sure we argued and he used to beg me not to leave him as he loved me and DC and didnt want to lose us, that was an argument 1 week before the final split, sure was a quick change of heart, but then i thought our arguing was because we were passionate about each other, apparently not
I am not going to keep looking back over it and asking myself why as i just dont care anymore and i hope that he is lonely for a very long time to come and that one day he regrets the choices he has made because even if he came begging now i would happily say no and close the door in his face, after what he has done and said this month alone my desire to have him back has disappeared and been replaced with the knowledge that there is better out there for me and when i am ready i will find it, in the meantime i'm gonna have me some fun :o

Happy, put all thoughts of what is to come out of your mind and enjoy the next few weeks definately party hard :o

Pleased today is over for you, Happy. Hope you can put it on the back burner and relax a bit over xmas.

Well at new year I will probably be here making sure dcs stay on the rails.

Can't do link from phone posting but I'm thinking Shaggy and Oh Carolina for my first bop.

Hi all,

feeling too fat and lazy to post, can't stop stuffing .

been reading thread and just sit here nodding and shaking my head in weary empathy regarding the effing twunts we once said "I do" to.

Wish I could have seen just 2 years into the future cos I'd have said "No I fucking don't, you slimey, cheating little wanker. Now PISS OFF"

Bought my xmas tree from a man round the corner a couple of hours ago. He said he'd bring it at 6.30 ish. I'm sure it's 'knock off' though so we shall see if it turns up !

Sort of hope it doesn't. CBA with it all.

Glad things are ok ish with DC1 Happy.

Mine are with exh atm with him playing happy fucking famillies and me here eating everything in sight, GRRRR

He'll probably be giving them a roast with all the trimmings, ahhh what a lovely dad, not.

My lovely dumpling friend who lives on her own 2 hours from me slipped on the ice yesterday and fractured her skull. She's in hospital. Please send good vibes if you think it'll help. She has such a shit time, I'm so upset for her.

This Too Will Pass

This Too Will Pass.

Hello Getting, I think you've gone well beyond the call of duty sending exh school reports etc. He's getting too comfy and cocky for my liking. IMO, if he wants them in future then he should arrange to get coppies from the school.

Must be so difficult re your children with exh and you on your own. (I'm new to all this and finding it v difficult).

Lets hope it gets easier for all of us who found the men we thought we knew and loved turned out to be selfish twats. xxx

Called X and he's coming over to discuss DC, i was all light and airy on the phone so hope i can keep it up, am dreading it all and not really sure what i'm going to say tbh but he due in about 10 minutes so in his time that means an hour so will have to start thinking

I just CBA really why does he have to make things so difficult? why cant he just say yep i'll be well balanced and reliable for DC and have them then, then and then

Just dont want no more drama forgot to buy more wine when i went shopping lol

Will probably be back later take care everyone x

My four year old just went to the loo and said "Mum, poos are a bit like dumplings aren't they?" and I said "Certainly not! Dumplings are lovely, lovely people". He looked at me very strangely!!!
Starting to feel very sad about exbf but also I think I have more peace in my heart now, after months of knowing that he wasn't really into me. I still miss him, which is bloody ironic, as he ain't missing me and I know he's a wan*! Just thought before, though, I've come such a long way in a month. This time next month it will be even better and it will keep getting better...for all of us.
Happy - not sure what's been going on with your DS but I'm pleased you feel more at ease about the situation for now. Lots of love to you - you are very strong coping with everything that life is throwing at you. Great attitude about partying too :)

And Sov - don't give him an inch. His behaviour has been/is appalling and he completely disrespects you. You are also unbelievably strong and you really REALLY deserve better than him. Keep strong :)

Pink - love and thoughts to your friend - how awful for her.
Glad to see Where and LC on here - lovely dumplings.
SO GLAD THIS THREAD EXISTS, SO GLAD.

And this is a wonderful prints site going to get myself the Tess of the D'Urbervilles one in the New Year