All New Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 9

[WarriorQueen]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity

Oh Sov thats awful - what LC said especially that this doesnt necessarily mean forever wait and see

Happy Birthday GooGoo

Sov, for you. It will pass but how horrible.

Serenity further challenged here by water coming through ceiling. And other things today too sh** to mention atm. But, have just walked for 2 hours and now enjoying coffee shop therapy. So serenity a little restored. I recommend walking in snow and photo taking - may even temporarily stick a couple on my profile for you to see. WQ (where are you) our cameras on our phones are fandoodabbydoo

I love snow pictures Happy. I got a gorgeous shot of dd in the snow last year with her fur trimmed hood. I think its what the snow does to the light that makes photos so good, post one on your profile. Sorry things just keep piling up on you atm but you always sound so upbeat in spite of it

Well I have pulled myself together especially after reading Sovs post which was a suitable reality check about whats really important.

Failed my mock Exel exam and I know I will have to keep plugging away if only I wasnt so hopeless at maths !!

Looking forward to the weekend dc are with xh and have a couple of nice things to do and hoping to do some Christmas shopping.

Fake tree v Real tree ?

Afternoon all.
Sov - much love, your ex is a word I can't say or post on here. And the others are right - your kids have you and the situation may change.
Happy - water coming through ceiling? You are amazing to be retaining serenity. I salute you.
Citydoll - thanks for the cake - I appreciate that.
Thanks for all the birthday messages. Got a text at midnight from exbf "Happy birthday x". Great. Never had such a shit one tbh. No kids, no friends around. snowed in on my own. Just cried my eyes out. 38 and a complete failure. And I should have things in perspective - you girls are going through far worse.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsYJyVEUaC4

Sorry you arent having a particularly good birthday. Maybe you could write a list of all the things you would love to do between now and your next birthday now you are an empowered dumpling

Seriously I love a good list and they say writing things down makes them more likely to happen...

Hope you can have a nice glass of wine tonight and relax

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GOOGOO.......I just pmsl at that clip, I'm still laughing. xxx
You're not a failure......you have been failed. Big difference.

Getting....REAL TREE !!!!!!!!!!!!

Sov....
I think when an H walks out on his wife he automatically walks out on his kids too. He leaves the whole family, no matter how you dress it up. My DC certainly know that their dad left them every bit as much as he left me. It's sad/shit but it's true, unless the wife was so awful in someway that he couldn't stand another second of her and I'm sure that's not the case with any of us.

All of our exes have failed their children and should be utterly ashamed of themselves.

Patience that sounds really unfair and it must have been a harrowing time. Sounds like you deserve a medal coping on your own like that.My x was v inconsistent and could be really kind and helpful but 5 mins later a real nasty piece of work and sometimes he would disappear when ds 1 was tiny. I blamed the hash. He did turn around with ds2 and ds3 and had me convinced for some time that it was all working well til the betrayal. He also had the knack of making me feel that I asked too much so I always did the lionshare which was demoralising. 1st time we split he was v obviously putting his needs way above mine and our ds1 whereas this time he seemed to be the model husband/dad. Not sure which is worse I'm dealing with it better this time and realise what a shallow manipulative guy he is.
Sov Your x is way beneath you and is just copping out. I hope you feel better about this soon. He is the loser here not you.

This made me smile and think of you googoo

Thanks for all the kind words everyone my head is still in bits but yay it's nearly bedtime then i can focus better, will be back soon

ok - compared to everyone else's problems this is bloody trivial but here I am again going round in circles. I met exbf on guardian soulmates site. Someone suggested to me that it wouldn't be long before he was back on there so I've just looked. And yes, his profile has been on there since Monday. His description says "I've been without a companion for 5 years now".
I feel physically sick. The past year has meant nothing to him.

Oh Googoo haven't been on here all day but just seen your post and had to reply. I'm sure I said he was a prize idiot when you first joined and he truly is! Go and grab yourself a glass of wine and stop torturing yourself with looking that guy up on fb or Guardian website. He's a fool. There's someone out there waiting for you he's worth a million of him.

Shall we do a DJ Happy night tonight for your birthday?

Come here Googoo with a large glass of wine and turn it up loud

Oh yes and the rest of you lot when you've put your little ones to bed, as I'm currently a lone voice on there And I'm filling the thread with 80's music. LOL

I am there but I don't know how to do the clever music thing that Tea is doing!!!!

Mwaaa ha ha ha and Citydoll has done it. Excellent choice.

Quick post. Thanks for music posts last night BTW.

Sorry but cannot join tonight as cousin has come to help with DS. She is a top lady.

Waves and love to all.....

ok tea you are a lovely lovely lady. just having complete meltdown here. knackered with crying and still feeling sick. will be on your VERY lovely thread soon

Oh lovely Well hopefully my thread has cheered you up a little. I'm very cross on your behalf with how he has treated you You're a top dumpling!

I'm dancing on the other thread it's great

Hi there cant dance as I am beached on the sofa after one too many White Lindor which are meant to be for dcs advent calendar but Santa got the munchies

googoo my dear I think he sounds horrible, does he have a goatee beard or facial hair just out of interest? Sounds to me that in due course you will realise you are well shot of him just wish I could zap you ahead to that moment

Awww come and play Getting?

Just got in from an unbelievebly boring evening out. My bed and sky plus are calling me so loud it's deffening and my doggie is waiting for me up there who needs a man ?

Googoo, your 39th will be much better. Your ex is a twat of major proportions. What a tosser, he's pathetic, you're SO much better off without him.

"I've been without a companion now for 5 years" That just sounds lame and creepy to me. Makes himself sound like old man Steptoe, all vile and smelly with bed sores. All he'll attract with that line is a few pittying glances.

You'll feel better tomorow. Stop crying before you get all puffy.

Night all.xxx

Oh My God.........white lindor........my very fave ahhhh yum.xxx

night night Pink - you're right :)
getting, are you dancing or what? reckon I've got another half hour in me
and tea - that's one of the best birthday presents I've ever had - strange but very true. too kind for words and I've only been on here a week. you rock lady!
and ps getting - yes he has a goatee!!!!! haha!

I've eaten nearly a whole choc orange tonight and I don't even like em - my boys bought it for me. and sewed me a card. :)

Oh that's lovely. So sweet of them. I've consumed a large glass of mulled wine and 2 large baileys tonight.