All New Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 9

[WarriorQueen]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity

Hi all,

Happy, I'm so sorry about your dad, hope you're ok.

Googoo, that clip was very funny.

Getting, I'm so pleased for you I really am, but I'm very too.

Mumfun, glad it was good on sat night, would like to hear some details tho

Love to you all.

I so don't want any snow, pleeeease don't let it snow here, I can't bear it.

Hi Pink

Queencat, are you doing that to hurt yourself or are you doing it as a release IYSWIM ?

It needs to stop now, it really does. I know it's hard as it's a bit addictive but it would be very damaging to your DC if they saw what you've done. You need to break the habbit. Chuck out whatever it is you do it with and next time you get the urge you need to fight it. Sit on your hands, go out, eat, whatever. Distract yourself. It's important to stop. You will and can get on with your life but only when you stop being so destructive.

Go to the nativity and bask with pride at your dc. Never mind your twunt not being there as long as you are there.

All of us lovely dumplings are filled with rage just as you are. Recentley I had a rage which lasted for 5 days. In the end I wrote (scrawelled) a 13 paged letter, complete with tear stains, I ranted and raged my words out on paper and sent it to the rellevent person and I tell you the burden of rage lifted and I instantly felt better.

It was an old friend and I just needed to tell her what I've been going through as he'd only heard the version that exh told him.

All I'm saying is that you need to direct your rage somewhere else. You've been hurt enough, don't add to it. Be strong and beautiful, and a good mum. Love yourself, you're very loveable and your're doing yourself such an injustice.

Hi Tea, and sorry you feel so crap. There's nothing worse than a sore throat.

QC self destructive I meant.

glad you liked the clip. trying to make myself smile! Sov - hello. I'm from north northumberland - even more geordie than the geordies (altho I was often called posh at school!) Haha! Yes, we DO do it like that. But cos I'm a bit posh I wear a coat nowadays, even on a night out in the toon!
I tell you what, after the day from hell yesterday, I'm feeling quite free today. Spent a whole year trying to impress a bloke and act cool and now I can just be my crap normal self again. I'm sure I'll have bad days but today has been a real start. :)
Hi Pink - glad you liked the clip. I'll post some more on here when I find them if that's ok.
Happy - I've been thinking about you today - lots of love

And Pink - just read your previous post to QC - very wise words. I threw out my anniversary present and last year's Christmas present from exb yesterday. It felt very good. If he's been there I'd have thrown them at him. All part of healing and regaining some control/self respect.

Hello Pink too :)

Really liked that clip Googoo.

Tea -hope the cold lifts a bit for you soon!

QC -I dont know anything about cutting but I know there is an alternative - so please try to find it and get some support -from GP or other thread or RL.

Hi all

Skimmed thread only....

QC hope you are feeling ok, have you been to the doc today? ((hugs)) hoping you can talk about the problem IRL with someone that can help. Obv talk with us too.

Tea, hope you are starting to feel better.

Pink, good words for QC.

Getting, so glad you found seeing XH ok.

All ok here, sad about dad. He was a great dad. I was fairly close to him. He is at peace though so all good. Some challenges with DS1 to face this week so I will be praying on Wednesday.

Waves to all.

Stay strong Happy - thinking of you and will say a prayer too

Thanks GooGoo.

BTW, XH has now told me where he is going to live and I am awaiting news still on financial offer - fingers crossed.

for Queencat ,
a friend gave me this prayer about 20yrs ago and i have kept it with me ever since ,it helps me through tough dark times and maybe it will help you to ,please think of it as a gift from a friend ,looking after yourself like you would a best friend is the best gift we can give ourselves ,

Let nothing disturb you ;
Nothing frighten you ,
All things are passing,
God never changes,
Patience obtains all things,
Nothing is wanting to him that possesses God.
God alone suffices.

ps miss out the lines with God if its not for you ,[not meant to be heavy]i just found it gave me hope that i would get through things and find happiness and calmness again and it always got me through x

Waves to all. Have been trying to catch up on thread for past few days & failing dismally! Have loads of assignments for college so not much free time atm. All going good with Norm . Also put emotional stuff with person last week behind me & we've met again & just continued on as normal tg . Will have to be extra vigiliant not to react to people as it really does rob me of my peace of mind .

Happy, really sorry to hear about your dad, sending you lots of virtual support for funeral & arrangements etc. Will also be praying for you that challenges go well with ds on wed ((Hugs))

Queencat,it really sounds like you need some rl support. Is there anyone at all that can offer some practical or emotional help atm? ((Hugs))

Pink, letter writing always a good idea

Tea, sadly your xh's relationship with ow was prob never going to survive!

Mumfun, glad you had good day out at meet up.

Getting, that is fantastic about being able to be cheerfully detached with xh . You've arrived!!!

Maybee, you are sounding v good, hope all's well with you & dc's.

Sorry will have to leave it at that until I've time to work further back on thread

lol @ getting

I'm feeling sooooo Christmassy today.

i have got my tree up

I have at least ordered my tree....got some lights flashing tho

liking the xmas music btw

and Starting, not too much work please - all work and no norm will make Starting a dull lady (and that could never happen!)

btw I've had some roll ups over the last few weeks! chastise me please - too many nights out on the town for me that's the problem

ooo the old ones are the best

dreaming of an Xmas DJHappy night - need to schedule Xmas party I guess. Will consider further next week!

need to cook dinner for my lovely DCs

Lets do a DJ Happy Chrimbo night soon x

oh those hits they just keep a coming