How do you feel about prostitution?

[BillieH]

Hello everyone, I have name changed for this(no sinister reason) but i do post on here from time to time.

Anyway, I would love to know what your thoughts are on prostitution. I don't mean political views and I dont really want to get into a discussion on whether girls are trafficked, pimped, druggies. Just what you think as a whole.

I am talking about girls who willing become escorts or work in massage parlours under the guise of 'masseuses' when really they provide extras.

What do you think of men who see them? Are that losers, sad and lonely, 'sex addicts'or what? Would you think your dp/dh was cheating if he saw a prostitute.

I ask just out of curiosity, I do not think my dp has ever visited a prostitute! Also, apparently 1 in 10 men see prostitutes. Do you agree with this. If this is true what hope do we all have eh?

My take is that i belive some girls use their looks to earn money an 'easy' way. By easy, I mean that they do not have to train for yrs to get a decent paid job, or they do not have to work 9 to 5 in an office when they can earn a wks wages in a day.

I have asked my own dp and he beleives that there is something missing from a relationship if a man sees a prostitute.Obviously its different with a single man. He also thinks that some men have issues sexually with their wives/partners and are inhibited. Therefore, that is why they pay for sex acts that they can't ask for at home. These are exactly my thoughts.Anyone agree or disagree?

I'd like your thoughts or experiences!

Nodecent - have you got a wife who "doesn't understand" your male needs?

Dittany, you're my heroine!

(swoon)

Granny No Name - by your use of the word "female" you revealed yourself as a man so bugger off back to Punternet.

Happywithlife? Posting style sounds like a man to me.

Ladies, remember that the prostitutes on Punternet have ordered their sycophant males to come and invade (I'm sure they'd prefer the word "penetrate") Mumsnet, we have to be on our guard against the Punternet trolls and floozies.

If you think I am not a granny, then it shows just how wrong you are in your judgements.

I stayed at home while my children were growing up and did all the mumsy things like everyone else did in that era .......... just because I did that doesnt mean I have no opinion or what I say is wrong.

You are right dittany re there being more eloquent postings than yours but many of the females on here are just following like little sheep and echoing everything instead of saying something original for themselves. For me that shows lack of intelligence.

If you are actually a woman - Have you really got such a low opinion of men, do you think of your husband, your brother, your father in those terms?
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Actually it is you that has such a low opinion of men, the things you have been calling them on this thread when as we KEEP pointing out to your these men ARE your brother, your father etc etc

Yup, we hate the punters and pimps.

The real message should be that prostitute using men are pathetic inadequates with a vile attitude to women and womens' sexuality.

its not a deep sense of hatred either for the women or the 'profession' - what i hate is the thought that a man would be so low as to take the last bit of dignity from someone so desperate - thank god its not all men, only a sad few!

with the vile punternet men,

You sound just like the vile men on punternet (funny that).

And so much more that was just off this page.

So who exactly are these vile men that you keep banging on about, I am sure you will say no one that you know, well it is 1 in 10 of the men you know and probably the one you least suspect.

Elisabeth...you have no idea what you are talking about.

i have to say nodecent, for a 60 year old granny you do seem to know an awful lot about the sex industry!

its strange to believe that there are still people in the world who think a mans 'needs' will take him to whore or that women are still sitting at home playing 'wifey'!

anyway, must be off, i have to go and iron my frilly pinny before hubby gets back from the pub!, at least, i think thats where hes been - after all, i did cry and beg him not to come near me this morning when i saw the size of his poor swollen cock!

Why do many of the mums on here feel so threatened by people who are willing to voice their opinion even tho it does not agree with your own.

So, the guys on PN abuse prostituted women, but said women can "order" men to post here? EA, you're not making sense.

I dont claim to know any more or any less than any other female on here re the sex/adult industry. However I have probably lived three times longer than many of the posters on here and with age comes more experience with life. I have lived my life the way I wanted to and not had to judge anyone. Why dont some of the mums on here do the same?

And most the men on Punternet have never resorted to the verbal abuse you are showing so why can you not do the same?

I'm not hiding my position, I don't have one, simple as that. I am simply taking part in a discussion which I find interesting. I have given my opinions, just not as violently as some - does that render me dishonest?
For what it's worth, I am a single mother (yes Elisabeth, a MOTHER), I am not and never have been a prostitute, but I do not condemn people for what they do in life.
If my partner (if I had one) used a prostitute it would end the relationship. I'm actually more perturbed by the hatred flying around this thread than the subject matter though.

Dittany? why do you think that women cant have a mind and opinion of their own? You are doing more damage to the female population on here with your rantings. Not all females are 'mindless morons'. Many of us have held down very prominent positins in society and we dont have to condemn others.

Soon this thread will reach 1,000 posts and then it will close.

Going back to the original OP and the question "Hw do you feel about Prostitution?", I think, the answer loud and clear, is that we HATE it and even more we hate the men who purchase the prostituted women who are their victims.

Punterphobe and proud.

You speaking on behalf of everyone now EA?

NoDecentNames....I agree totally. There is so much nastiness directed at women here BY women, it's supposed to be a support forum but it's not, certainly not on this thread.

I think it would be more accurate to say that some of you hate prostitution (and indeed, prostitutes themselves, EA.) Some don't really care as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult - and I actually think they're in the majority.

And some people have their own agendas.

And some of you just hate.

and I actually think they're in the majority.

I must admit that is what I have taken away from this debate, there are a few shouting louder than others and dismissing anyone that does not agree with them, in their minds the figures are massaged somewhat, pun intended.

I am pleased to have seen the far more that have come here with an open mind and intelligently added to the discussion, probably would have seen more if they were not so frightened of being shouted down.

I don't give a crap about the 'industry' itself, I just don't understand why there is a thread about it in the relationships section of Mumsnet? I mean, unless you're having some kind of relationship issue, which you're not (or at least haven't mentioned), why is this thread here?

FFS, all of the self-confessed prostitutes here seem absolutely DESPERATE to justify what they do to a bunch of strangers on the internet. Why?! Just accept that some people seriously disagree with the concept of a woman selling her body, and the concept of men who believe a woman's body is a commodity that can be bought.

If I found out that any of my male relatives viewed women in that way (as a commodity, not a human, just a thing, which you can buy and 'use' as you like), I would think they have serious issues. Luckily, as the statistic points out only 8% of the male population takes part in this kind of thing, the chances are slim.