How do you feel about prostitution?

[BillieH]

Hello everyone, I have name changed for this(no sinister reason) but i do post on here from time to time.

Anyway, I would love to know what your thoughts are on prostitution. I don't mean political views and I dont really want to get into a discussion on whether girls are trafficked, pimped, druggies. Just what you think as a whole.

I am talking about girls who willing become escorts or work in massage parlours under the guise of 'masseuses' when really they provide extras.

What do you think of men who see them? Are that losers, sad and lonely, 'sex addicts'or what? Would you think your dp/dh was cheating if he saw a prostitute.

I ask just out of curiosity, I do not think my dp has ever visited a prostitute! Also, apparently 1 in 10 men see prostitutes. Do you agree with this. If this is true what hope do we all have eh?

My take is that i belive some girls use their looks to earn money an 'easy' way. By easy, I mean that they do not have to train for yrs to get a decent paid job, or they do not have to work 9 to 5 in an office when they can earn a wks wages in a day.

I have asked my own dp and he beleives that there is something missing from a relationship if a man sees a prostitute.Obviously its different with a single man. He also thinks that some men have issues sexually with their wives/partners and are inhibited. Therefore, that is why they pay for sex acts that they can't ask for at home. These are exactly my thoughts.Anyone agree or disagree?

I'd like your thoughts or experiences!

Apologies you do not work for a wage you do it for the love of it?

They're not my type either Sabrina, but they like to tell us they know better than us how we feel. I just thought it an interesting comparison.

My wage is not about my equality with a customer/client, it's not my body. So my product is for sale and has value, not me.

I personally love the ones that tell me that I cannot possibly be making money because I am not a size 8-10, or age 18-20 or charge too much, I am very surprised some of those have not joined this forum!

What is your product Posie??

Ah, well, I am a size 8 to 10, but I'm a granny, so it's not possible anyone (er, a grandad, perhaps? ) would want me, either.

So what do you sell, Posie?

Mind you, Sabrina, that type are a bit intimidated by women who speak their own minds, they'd be too scared to join in here!

I think drum banging is their thing, narrow mindedness, unable to accept differences, they would be well at home on here!

To be fair, there are many lovely MNers on this thread who haven't yelled and screamed at us, and who are prepared to listen to us, and so learn that the "myth" of Happy Hookers is no myth at all..

Actually that is not fair, there are many many woman on mumsnet that are far from like that :)
Just a few that hate any woman with a difference of opinion to theirs, even the venom towards the non prostitutes that have dared post a difference of opinion were appallingly treated!

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Posie what you know about our incomes? But if this gives you some sense of value and superiority despite its Hycinth Bucketesque aspirations, bully for you! However, it amply demonstrates the condescending patronising attitude of someone like you who passes judgement on choices of other women who may not have the luxury of smug moralising on prostitution. It is a damn side easier to look down from some imagined ivory tower. A lot of women find themselves in a situation of suddenly being the sole provider for their children. Some assess the choices of trying to compete in a job market that does not exactly favours mothers and where there aren?t too many well paid part time roles. Some decide they try and keep their reasonable comfortable lifestyle by working a few hours per week in the sex industry as escorts and still have the luxury of quality time with their kids.

"Those women listed are murdered women, all prostitutes. A little recognition from the woman who loves sex workers wouldn't go amiss."

And just what may possibly contribute to the actions and the self justification of the men who commit these crimes, but the very hatred displayed here toward women such as us. We're worthless, evil and immoral; scum of the earth that 'deserve' to be eradicated....is that it?

And Posie, do you realise when talking of your worthy cake baking, you referred to the women coming to the hostile (sic). A Freudian slip me thinks!

Can we have a roll call of the two (non-prostitute) women a week who are murdered by men who claim to love them? (according to Women's Aid, and I have no reason to doubt them)

Make sure you copy The Vicar in on the recipe otherwise he will never forgive you!

Just a thought, if you ladies on here bake cakes for poor unfortunate prostitutes, and pity them and consider them victims of men, why are you not baking cakes for us? Why are we not afforded the same treatment?

Sabrina, obviously as happy hookers, we are mythical creatures.

Like unicorns.

Hence no cakes. :(

Posie is a SAHM (as far as I can remember) so actually the money she has is made entirely by her husband. Not going to get into the whole 'marriage = prostitution' thing but it is a bit too ironic that she is going on about 'having more money' than a prostitute and that money being somehow better, when the only reason she has it is because a man has given it to her... How much money prostitutes make is irrelevant, Posie, I do not know why you keep mentioning that you have more

And I think any economist will tell you that we DO live off the exploitation of others day to day. Who exactly do you think made your computer? It wasn't a happy cottage-industry worker in the Cotswolds getting paid a decent wage for working a fair amount of hours in a day, was it?

PosieComeHereMyPreciousParker Fri 12-Nov-10 18:16:34

My wage is not about my equality with a customer/client, it's not my body. So my product is for sale and has value, not me.

So what's her product then - her Dc? How much does she sell them for?

Sorry everyone I stayed away a bit from the computer as I was busy throwing out a few old dodgy vases to make space for all that loot (stolen husbands, virtue, morals, innocence etc)...

To OP ...I think its actually very sad..

That is very interesting point quizling regarding the source of Posey?s wealth. Likewise, I am not into passing judgement on how people come by their money. It makes you wonder so if the intense condemnation and dislike of her freelancing ?sisters? does not stem from a deep seated fear of losing that regular source of income. Or perhaps if she had a widowed wealthy male relative she ought to think about whether or not it would be better for that person paying a small containable proportion of his wealth on service providers instead risking a full time contractor = gold digger who would cheat her out for so justly deserved inheritance.