How do you feel about prostitution?

[BillieH]

Hello everyone, I have name changed for this(no sinister reason) but i do post on here from time to time.

Anyway, I would love to know what your thoughts are on prostitution. I don't mean political views and I dont really want to get into a discussion on whether girls are trafficked, pimped, druggies. Just what you think as a whole.

I am talking about girls who willing become escorts or work in massage parlours under the guise of 'masseuses' when really they provide extras.

What do you think of men who see them? Are that losers, sad and lonely, 'sex addicts'or what? Would you think your dp/dh was cheating if he saw a prostitute.

I ask just out of curiosity, I do not think my dp has ever visited a prostitute! Also, apparently 1 in 10 men see prostitutes. Do you agree with this. If this is true what hope do we all have eh?

My take is that i belive some girls use their looks to earn money an 'easy' way. By easy, I mean that they do not have to train for yrs to get a decent paid job, or they do not have to work 9 to 5 in an office when they can earn a wks wages in a day.

I have asked my own dp and he beleives that there is something missing from a relationship if a man sees a prostitute.Obviously its different with a single man. He also thinks that some men have issues sexually with their wives/partners and are inhibited. Therefore, that is why they pay for sex acts that they can't ask for at home. These are exactly my thoughts.Anyone agree or disagree?

I'd like your thoughts or experiences!

and for the record, msmont, I was speaking to another poster when you decided to start picking on me

so don't get arsey when I respond in kind, eh ?

Elisabeth, you are sounding quite mad

I dont get arsy dear
you do !
I cant be bothered to pick on you aww poor anyfucker being picked on by the nasty whore
GROW UP!

You Mumsnet posters are all bigoted, narrow minded frigid stuck up cows......

I do not believe a word of what I have just typed above; I am solely doing what you have just done - made a groundless generalisation.

then why did you start addressing me, msmont ?

seriously, you deliberately tried to wind me up...did you think I wouldn't notice ?

I haven't called you any names either

Escort Karin? Yet another whore. They're all coming out of the woodwork now.

Elisabeth, what are you trying to achieve ?

Give it up, there is no need for that

no not yet but I am sure you will x

msmont, I won't

AnyFucker? Are you a man on a woman's forum?

Some prostitutes do pay tax, actually

If someone becomes addicted to cocaine, it's a bit pointless to blame the cocaine. We're all grown ups.

I think what alot of you are all forgetting is that not every client is a married man.
What about the disabled people that for one reason or another cannot find a partner. Are they to be denied the closeness of being with a woman due to their disability or deformity? Some of us prostitutes actually have a high number of clients that fall into this category. We bring them the only sexual contact or closeness they can ever hope to have. Why should they be denied?
30% of my clients are diabled or deformed to quite a high degree. I would also say another 30-40% are elderly, widowed and lonely. Again why should these men be denied the closeness of a woman.
Alot of you seem to think our job is about 'suck & fuck' when infact alot of us actually offer a more gentle, affectionate experience. I do not even have sex, oral or vaginal with quite a few of my clients, I am more of a sensual companion for them.
Ok yes, I am sure some of my clients are married and I wont make excuses for them but as I do not ask about their personal lives I never know.
As fot the Wg's comments about looking after your man, that is complete BOLLOCKS.
A cheat will cheat regardless of what you do. It is the variety they like. The not having to settle for just one woman.
The usual excuse of my wife doesnt do it enough for me is pure shite. I am sorry but you either choose to be monogomous or you dont.
These men just need to learn to be honest about it.

As for me yes I am a hooker. No it was not my first job choice but without going into too much detail, it was the only viable option open to me. Lets just say my ex left me and my kids with no home and £80,000 in debt (gambling) he took his own life 5 years ago.
If it wasnt for escorting, we would probably still be in bed and breakfast living on next to nothing wih huge debts hanging over us.
As it is, I have cleared all his debts, have a good home and can fit my work around my one son still at home. I am home for all school holidays and weekends. If he needs me I can be available day or night.
Please dont tar us all with the same brush as some of us are not brazen about our work, nor are we hard faced bitches that defend the job.
To me it is a means to an end.
I am quite fussy who I see and will not see anyone who is even slightly disrespectful to me in anyway. Yes I sell my body but my soul is fully intact.
Yes I am a member of punternet although I dont post as I find the men vile and the women grovelling to them makes me want to vomit.
No one has to sell their self respect as well.

Elisabeth, you got me

Well why don't you go and book one of the prostitutes on here then?

ElisabethAlice I just had to double check that it was 2010 lol, I suddenly thought I had time travelled to the scene of a medieval witch hunt with you leading the committee.

Ironically, you sound like a small minority of very unpleasant men I happily avoid as clients and in general who indeed despise all women, including prostitutes on account of their own sense of inadequacy.

I have a website and pay for advertising. I do not stand at the end of your street soliciting. Men who wish to book me will search me out. As for undermining other women, the only evidence I can see is that of the kind of posts I read by you and those that seem to share your hateful views. I don?t steal husbands, I don?t have the space to have them clutter up my lovely home. I probably take my sexual health and that of my clients far more seriously than many ?civilian? women. I am part of society whether you like it or not. Your morals do not represent the law.

I have and still work in a position that reflects my extensive academic qualifications. I speak 4 languages. I attract intelligent men and women who book me for longer periods because I can engage them intellectually. For them the brain represents one of the largest sexual organs. I make a decent wage because I offer a service, I keep my body lol. The misery in some marital homes may most likely stem from the kind of aggressive, disrespectful behaviour displayed on here.

Personally, I do not offer ?facials?, not because of prudery but because of health and safety reasons. I pay tax in my non sex profession as well as a self employed independent escort. I do not know you and can only judge you based on your behaviour on here. It speaks for itself.

I'm about to go to bed, but just wanted to say that I have read many threads on here detailing the utter heartbreak and pain inflicted on women picking up the pieces after discovering thier partners have cheated. You can say they'd do it anway and that it's just a job but you play a part in that heartache and the pain of the children involved.
If you are happy with thay then whay can I say? This is a board used by many betrayed women, why not take it to feminism?

Elisabeth

Even if there was no such thing as prostitutes, the kind of men who use them while attached would just find another way of getting what they want. No one is to blame for the break up of a relationship except the person in the relationship who broke it (sometimes it's both of them)

msmont

I feel we have been at cross purposes here. I apologise for being arsey with you.

Can we agree to disagree ?

Oh dear, isn't it funny that the harpy harlots always try to wrap up their immorality whith a sheen of denial? "We only offer a service", "We don't steal men". Of course, you don't, dear, I'm sure the photos of whores with their tits hanging out and their fannies thrust into a man's face have no impact in appealing to men's baser natures.

The lies whores tell is never ending. No woman who was educated and spoke four languages would ever think of becoming a prostitute.

Millions of poor women prefer to starve rather than sell their bodies.

Prostitutes are doyennes of moral iniquity.

No honest, decent woman would ever think of being a prostitute.

I want to make a date with Elisabeth, though

Elisabeth, have you been recently dumped or something?

dear elisabethalice
why do you hate sex workers so much?
what harm have they actually caused you?

of course we can anyfucker
its only a messageboard after all
:o)

punterpride? another man? oh dear, the punters of punternet seem to have gotten orders from the prossies to come on mumsnet.