am i overreacting?

[muffymk]

ok name changer here but i do not post very often..but hey ho

I have been with partner for 9 years we have 1 child and I have previous 3 from a marriage.

well my partner has a history of cheating once with a hooker, a woman he works with and a girl from the internet. well thought we sorted it out.

received letter today for him but i opened it as i had a 'feeling' anyway it was a letter from a bank confirming that he now has new bank account??

well i questioned him on why and he told me that he didnt want me monitoring on what he spends????

1. we have joint bank account and he pays bills and so do i.

2. he did have his own account but he wanted to change it to joint

3. monitoring??? when he said this my alarm bells rang

I told him to leave and he has ...to quietly as he never left when i found out about his cheating..which is a lot worse

am i paraniod?? i feel so sad that i wasted so much on this bloke

its 3 now

stop pickin on me !!

its hard but i see his text and its all push me pull you. he is 40 fgs he can be someones elses crisis now. im tired of it

you can choose to be pushed or pulled

it is in your power

good morning muffy, you sound like you are doing well, yes,honestly, it is very hard and it hurts, but you are not giving in.

good on the weight loss and new hair, need some new clothing too, and a babysitter to show the lot off in a club.

you keep ignoring him, you'll see desirable is nothing, you will became the perfect wife he can't afford to lose, note this is not a tactic to get him back, it is what will happen... and then it'll be your turn to say: no!

enroll a friend to help redecorate, new colors, new furniture if you can afford it, i think a new bed is in order, treat yourself as you deserve, will set a brilliant example to your kids.

and let him talk to others i can imagine the conversation
' oh yeah, well, it is certainly not my fault that i lost my wife and kid due to my cheating... and other bad behaviours, like trying to get a secret bank account to hide money that should be supporting my family'

i have gone into sadness again and crying

i wish it would stop

xx

Muffy

Your older kids said it all really didn't they? More cons than pros!

Feel how you need to feel right now...

But do NOT give that cocklodger one ounce of satisfaction by crying in front of him, texting him back or anything else!

Try to remember that you are grieving for the relationship you wanted to have, not the arsehole he really is.

Stay strong!

You will have sad days that's normal.

But do not give in to them.

Remember he is a horrible man and you don't need him messing up your life anymore. Stay strong!

im trying im trying xxxx

Keep reading the link I sent you about what a cuntbag arse he is. Ugh. Then build your wishlist for your future man and relationship

And just hang around on here to distract yourself and keep yourself strong.

hey,

You are coping with the situation like everybody else would do........maybe better considering the circumstances

Fact of the matter is there is no quick fix to get over your relationship other than the fact you WILL get over it.

It will make you a stronger person and in some ways change you as a person.....you do not see this right now because its all brand new.

Of course he is going to blame you for the reason as to why he left, because he is a complete birthhole and its his justification to himself.

Just take things one step at a time, you deserve to be loved and treated with respect as do your children xx