am i overreacting?

[muffymk]

ok name changer here but i do not post very often..but hey ho

I have been with partner for 9 years we have 1 child and I have previous 3 from a marriage.

well my partner has a history of cheating once with a hooker, a woman he works with and a girl from the internet. well thought we sorted it out.

received letter today for him but i opened it as i had a 'feeling' anyway it was a letter from a bank confirming that he now has new bank account??

well i questioned him on why and he told me that he didnt want me monitoring on what he spends????

1. we have joint bank account and he pays bills and so do i.

2. he did have his own account but he wanted to change it to joint

3. monitoring??? when he said this my alarm bells rang

I told him to leave and he has ...to quietly as he never left when i found out about his cheating..which is a lot worse

am i paraniod?? i feel so sad that i wasted so much on this bloke

lol god AF you make me laugh xxxx

no he says he hates me

i asked even was willing to give us another chance this morning(someone give me a slap)

and he told me no that he doesnt no what he wants

i asked him if he would please delete my number

now i get repeated texts even tho he says he deleted me

said by email that he hates me

im tryin hard to stay calm but im screaming inside

(and breathe)

Another call for a great, topical song

He's playing a cruel game now, like a cat. You need to show you ain't no mouse.

lol fantastic

i used to love that song

xxx

god he keeps sayin its all my fault

i wiped all communication from him

now he says i cant do that as we have a son

the first time he has mentioned him in 4 days

muffy, stay put, he will use any trick in the book to get to be the one who decides whether you stay together or not, when he can make up his mind that is....[rolls eyes emoticon].

stay strong, and in control, do what you need to stay sane, but don't show him any weakness. you are doing so well.

why are you offering him chances ?

he has just flung it back in your face

wake up, woman

interesting that he hasn't mentioned his son

this will run and run unless you put a stop to it...he won't, he will just find another stick to beat you with

stop talking to him, stop listening to him, he is speaking with forked tongue

muffy - stay really strong, this emotional pressure won't last long - sounds like he's basically an idle sod and if he's not seeing results he won't keep it up.

Concentrate on your family - have you got something planned for the weekend?

im out tonight with my friend and her sister and i bought a new dining table so i pick that up tomo

maybe i just really need to hit rock bottom

why do you think that? You can get through this perfectly well without falling apart, keep posting and you'll be fine

i dont know

i just keep crying

and bein a wimp lol

You're not a wimp - a wimp would never have been able to carry those to huge speakers...

would you believe i teach fitness and self defence too

ffs

i need my arse kicking

keep talking like that, and you'll friend will do it tonight

you need to build up your emotional self defence, muffs

how do i do that???

someone please tell me

well

i asked him again to see me(kick me)

he said he will meet only regarding son and maintenance

i said. right i will contact csa i do not want to see u

then he comes back with ' but i was gonna text u i want us to move two steps forward but u kick off again'

he is fuckin with my head isnt he?

well i um told him i hope he enjoys being a macdonalds dad

and breathe

its so hard

i loved him soo much but he never loved me did he...not the way i want.

he has hurt me beyond belief

i think i am at rockbottom now

i never felt good enough for him

i always felt second best to something - i dont know what

Muffy - just read the whole thread.

Please don't ask him again.

I know it's hard and I know it hurts - but please don't give the wanker the aatisfaction of thinking you are there for him to torment.

You felt second best because you were to him - not because it's all you are worth. To him you are second best to a single life fucking who he wants, someone who will do all the drudgery and be there when he feels like a bit of home comfort - well, he has well and truely shit in his own box this time (I hope!!).

He is not a good role model for your kids.
You accepting him treating you like shit is not good for your kids.
Your relationship is not good for your kids.

You are doing them a huge favour by getting out of this relationship.

Hang onto that x

i am i really am

i just keep thinkin of the good times and it kills me.

i have deleted him now and im thinkin of changing my number-i have contract phone so i hope they wont charge me

i cant believe i gave him so much power over me. im gonna try and get rid of all his pics etc tomo and change the house about a bit so i can look around and not think of him

i have made appointment at hairdresser on fri
for a change of image and i have lost 4lbs-whoop whoop

i need to change and hopefully in time find someone who treats me like a princess/queen

thank u for replying

Your last two posts are brilliant! YES, change your number - move stuff around, put the pics out in the rain, and deffo GET YOUR HAIR DONE! Maybe ask a friend to help you pick out some new clothes to show off your new waistline :)

You know, when I look back on the so-called good times with my ex, I always remember there was something off about him even then. He was an arse - but I was a blubbering wreck when we split. I wasn't really missing "him" though, iyswim, I was missing who I thought he was.

Keep treating yourself like a princess, Princess You deserve the best you can offer yourself!