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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Vineyard.

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Mouseface · 06/11/2010 21:09

Welcome to the Bus! Smile

I'm Mouse and you'll find me snuggled sat at the back where it's warmest!

If you're sober, drinking, or somewhere between the two, you are more than welcome on board.

No judging, no cliquey groups and no closed minds here, oh no! Chances are, no matter how bad you may be feeling right now, one of the Brave Babes will have been there too!

So, come say hi.

And, to read the last thread and other journeys so far, follow this link

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DramaDramaDrama · 09/11/2010 23:09

venus when I was at a very low point on Monday some kind person here explained the running your film in your head.

I have so many of them shamefull times I am counting on that film to be my enough.

I'm a very twatish drunk - enough said x

HeadlessLegless · 09/11/2010 23:10

Hello, just clocking in so to speak. I am off to bed now, I HAVE NOT HAD A DRINK. I am feeling a bit calmer then yesterday. As someone said to me earlier, I have to start to forgive myself and take one day at a time.

Sleep well lovely ladies, see you tomorrow.

jesuswhatnext · 09/11/2010 23:11

well, im off to bedfordshire - got a busy day tomorrow, i have to put my 'sales' hat on and try and win some new business, wish me luck! Hmm, its bloody tough getting it in!

goodnight lovley babes!!, see you in the morning!!

jesuswhatnext · 09/11/2010 23:12

WELL DONE HEADLESS!!! Grin YOU ARE BRILLIANT!!

DramaDramaDrama · 09/11/2010 23:16

Night venus

headless It's such a nicer feeling knowing we are going to bed like sensible grown up adults Grin

JWN night night & good luck tomorrow.

Thank god day 2 is over, bring on day 3!!!

Fortheverylasttime · 09/11/2010 23:38

WELL DONE HEADLESS. You absolutely do have to forgive yourelf otherwise you will continue to beat yourself up and that could turn into a reason to drink. Vicious circle.

notevenasparkler · 10/11/2010 06:43

Just a quick hello before I tear around and rush out to work - another long busy day today. So much better to be facing it on day 3 of sobriety. Here's to more evenings of nice normal activities. Hope all the Brave Babes have a good day.

venusandmars · 10/11/2010 08:18

Good morning to everyone. Today the weather is bright and sunny, rather crisp and the last of the autmn leaves are glowing red and amber. This morning I can look at the brightness without wincing and be glad that I have made the choice today - I will not be drinking.

Whitenapteen · 10/11/2010 09:06

Morning all - bright, autumnal day here too so washing on the line and homemade chicken pie defrosting for supper. I'm with Venus and everyone else who decides 'today I will not be drinking'.

JWN good luck with the sales work. Mouse hope you have forward progress on getting that troublesome tooth sorted.

Everyone else - have a happy and contented Wednesday.

MsGee · 10/11/2010 09:15

Morning Lovely Babes and Blokes,

JWN if you are off to Beds you will probably pass by the vicinity of the Gee home, so I shall wave intermittently out of the window just in case... Grin

I also loved the 'polishing a turd' line!!

It is true though, my skin is much better since I stopped the boozing. I didn't lose much weight because I had intense sugar cravings for erm, 2 months (or is that just me being a pig and nothing to do with drink?). But I did lose the bloated tummy and people have said that my face is thinner (although I had a Very Fat Face before - think Moonface from Enid Blyton). Also I had the worst eczema on my eyelid (ouch) which had been there for three years (since pg with DD). Nothing cleared it and now its gone.

And I feel calmer about life. More in control. More able to take the shit and think that the good is deserved. I feel less horrible and useless.

I once heard a friend talking about ending a particularly nasty, complicated relationship and she had the motto "no new contact = no new pain". And something about no contact not opening up the gates to heaven but releasing her from hell. I sometimes think that our relationship with drink is the same. Life will not automatically be great (something I really struggled with - I thought it should!) but it does take away a whole heap of shit from life.

And forgiveness has to be part of that. The further you move away from the booze, the easier it is to see the decisions you made in the past as coming from someone who was ill, hurting and who needed help. Not just someone who fucked up or was unworthy.

We are all ill, hurting and need help to get through this. We make mistakes but its not a reason to beat ourselves up, its just part of this journey (its not meant to be linear for everyone). We are all worthy - of love, kindness and sobriety.

So lets give ourselves a break for today. No drinking = no new pain, hangover, shame, self loathing.

MsGee · 10/11/2010 09:18

ps to add to autumnal note, the view from my new office is lovely, a tree with yellow leaves, which float down with every gust of wind. And one next to it which is the same tree but who has lost all its leaves already.

Now that I have noticed that I feel bad for the leaf-less tree. Shit.

RedMoomin · 10/11/2010 09:24

Good morning lovely Babes,

JWN good luck with your sales today!

mouse hope you're in less pain.

headless well done you!

vagabond lovely to 'meet' you.

venus, MsGee, white, noteven, forthe, drama good morning!

Big apologies to everyone else that I have not mentioned.

Mouseface · 10/11/2010 10:08

Good morning fellow bus dwellers.

Feeling much much better thank you to all wh asked. Smile

Welcome vaga Smile

JWN - repeat after me 'Look into my eyes, look into my eyes, not around the eyes but into my eyes, 1,2,3 and you're under. You WANT my company to work for you Mr Client, you NEED my compnay Mr Client, your business CAN'T EXIST without our help Mr Client..... And you back in the room, would you like a pen to sign that contract with?' Grin

It's great to see how many Brave Babes didn't drink last night, even though there were plenty of wobbles!!

And talking of wobbles, I have managed to put a half stone on through stuffing my face with all things soft and sweet over the last few weeks! Grin

Time to pack that in, I do NOT want to be MouseFATface for Christmas thank you very much.

And it's great to see the bus so busy! Smile

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RedMoomin · 10/11/2010 10:30

Thanks for the bacon roll! Slept in this morning so no time for breakfast. You're a lifesaver!

desiretochange · 10/11/2010 10:32

Morning everyone, have decided not to count days but every day that I don't drink is a bonus:)

Mouseface · 10/11/2010 10:36

desire - morning. I don't count days anymore but that's because I am 4 months in so days are far to hard to remember!! Grin

You have to do what works for YOU.

How are feeling today? Any brighter?

Red - norty, you should always have breakfast! Even if it's just a biscuit as you rush out of the door!

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Mouseface · 10/11/2010 10:37

Drama - how is Littlelegs today? Any better? Is it worth popping off to the docs again?

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Momentarynamechange · 10/11/2010 10:38

Good morning peeps
Another one here who won't be drinking today Smile
Having real trouble getting going in the morning these last few days. Huge relief not to have a hangover but feel like I'm moving slowly underwater. It's not actually that unpleasant, just a bit unproductive!
Reading about all the benefits of not drinking makes you think, it's a no brainer isn't it!
Sun is shining here tooo. Hope everyone has a happy day today.
xx

ZanyWany · 10/11/2010 10:42

Morning everyone. Thanks to everyone who has posted about the benefits of not drinking, as you say threesteps its a no brainer but good to have the obvious written down to inspire you to start on day 1

RedMoomin · 10/11/2010 10:59

mouse have had some chocolate biscuits at work. Not the healthiest of breakfasts but never mind.

threesteps I often experience that underwater feeling when I stop drinking. It will soon be replaced by a lovely feeling of well-being and energy.

Morning zany. Welcome to Day 1. Choose not to drink!

Morning desire I am also not counting but that's because I keep slipping. No horrendous binges of late but a few drinks here and there nonetheless...

desiretochange · 10/11/2010 11:11

Feeling ok today Mouse, going to embrace the "take action" route:)
Red, really is good to have you back on board:)

RedMoomin · 10/11/2010 11:27

Thank you desire! It is so good to be back.

witchetychicky · 10/11/2010 11:29

Morning all
MsGee - thanks for taking the time to post your thoughts....thinking about my relationship with alcohol as being like walking away from a destructive relationship with a person is helpful....that's 2 bad past realtionships I am leaving behind in one go...no point in doing things by halves though is there!

desiretochange · 10/11/2010 11:30

Might have to change my name to Desi-Red when I get hair overhaul on Saturday:):)

RedMoomin · 10/11/2010 11:34

Morning witchety lovely to see you sounding positive.

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