The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

I have had one of my thoughts, so will need to lay down shortly! Not drinking definitely gets easier for me, the longer I don't do it. The little voice in my head is really small and weak, MOST of the time. But it is very sensitive to suggestion. Some casual remark about a glass of wine or a drink with friends can set it off big time. But it seems to burn bright then fizzle out (see how I did that fireworky bit) rather than turning into a full debating society,in my head, which used to wear me down, until I gave in and had a drink to shut it up . So I will keep on keeping on, because for me the obsessing was almost worse than the hangovers.

HEY Diabolik how are you!
It's Friday!! not Thursday

MissP I am so glad that I do not have an extra day until the weekend

And I do agree with you MissP if I had to name one thing that I like about my current life it is that there is so much space in my head now that I am not constant thinking about my next drinking session, planning when to get booze, checking that I won't run out, or worrying where I hid the previous session's empties.

How about a gentle trip for today? Let's not drive too far - we'll find a dewy meadow, surrounded by some autumn trees with a little stream. Those who are in need of comfort can sit in the cricket pavillion wrapped in rugs drinking mugs of hot chocolate. Those with bags of energy can indulge in an exhuberant run around the meadow and perhaps a game of rounders. Those of us of a contemplative nature can wander through the woods, absorbing the autumn smells and sensations, listening to the sounds of the stream. If they want, the boys can stay on the bus and read the sports pages in the newspaper. Then a short drive home, relaxed and ready for the weekend.

Morning everyone:)

Hi MP - im doing good how are you?

Good morning all,

Not a great evening, had some wine last night with my new bloke. Didn't get pissed though and didn't finish the bottle but still not ideal. I suppose the good news is that I am in work and I am not avoiding the thread... so it could be worse.

Loving your idea by the way venus

morning everyone!!, thanks for the positive comments re dd!, yes, i do think it shows that she feels that she can now go off, live a life of fun without the horrible background thought about what might be going on at home!
one of her friends turned up at 3 this morning, the soppy bugger thought he would surprise his mum on her birthday by coming home from uni for the weekend!, the surprise was on him!! , they have gone away for the weekend and he didnt bring his house key! , the funniest bit for me was the total indignation from him that his parents had 'just swanned off, without telling me' 'god knows where they are' ha ha ha!!!

btw venus, i think i will have a wander round the woods than back to the pavillion for blanket and hot chocolate!!, sounds blissful!!

red!!, nice to see you!!, i HAVE to give you a motherly nagging though!!, the others are right - you are soo very fragile at the moment, you need to be very careful and try to step beack a bit from the new bloke - i know that it must be wonderful to feel so wanted/attractive/sexy etc!, BUT, i really think you need a little time alone, you need to heal, to get your head a bit straighter! PLEASE take things slowly!! and look after you!!!

No worries re the nagging JWN. I know what's going on - it's just another way of avoiding reality. As this guy and I did not know each other previously, different friends etc then I don't have to talk to him about anything serious. He knows about my alcoholism though. (Kind of hard to hide that as we met when I was on a bender! Some people tried to warn him off me as well - how embarrassing.) I am giving myself until Monday to get my life back on fucking track because the whole thing is a bloody mess.

TA sneaks aboard with her new not so shamed but should be after last nights little outburst.

I've bought biscuits to dunk in the hot chocolate as my way of an apology.

Hello redmoomin it is lovely to see you on here again, and whatever is happening, please do keep on posting when you can. I really missed you joining us every day when you were at work.

I read that you're having fun and having a laugh. While all this is going on can you use this opportunity to break the link between having a good time and having a drink? Enjoy yourself, enjoy laughing with the new bloke, enjoy the attention you are getting and use it to make to feel good about yourself. So if you are having so much fun, why would you need alcohol? Why would you want to risk spoiling it?

red can you tell me what youa re going to do between now and Monday to get your life back on track? I understand that it feels like a mess, but I've never managed to sort any of my big messes out as quickly as that...

Do you mind if I ask whether you are still going to AA meetings? Is that one of things you're going to do over the weekend?

That is very true venus.

Hello drama I am not particularly wise at the moment but will snuggle down and wait with you.

What little outburst TA?

Hi Babes and Guys,

CONGRATULATIONS Hubba. What fantastic news. I hope you are not being too sick. I was never actually sick when I was pregnant, but felt sick until about 3pm. I used to think I would feel so much better if I could have a good puke!

I didn't post much yesterday, but was following your news. You are all such close friends, that I felt I would be being a bit snouty if I put my twopennorth in, as a brand new member, but gave myself a talking to, and thought you probably wouldn't mind.

Ta that feeling of thinking it would be better if you weren't here is nearly always the drink/hangover talking (not always obviously). I said exactly the same to my Dh last Thursday morning (only 8 days ago). As you will have seen, I a big old crash a couple of days ago, but I still didn't feel as bad as when I have a hangover. The support on here got me through, there is always someone around, which at times is a real gift from God, at at other times, is just lovely company.

Venus and JWN, I am with you on the nearly empty nest front. When my Dc went to uni, I cried all the way back (a very long way), and my Dc was very homesick at first , so it was really hard. Needless to say they are having a whale of a time now. My mum (fount of all knowledge) said at the time, I should be proud of myself for bringing up a child who is confident, secure in the fact thet we are here if needed, and able to go into the big, wide world, pretty much what other people have said on here.

Miss P you are right, the obsessing was definitely worse than the hangovers for me.

Well, I'll let someone else get a word in edgeways! bet you'll be glad when I'm back at work!

Hope you poor face is a bit better this morning mouse and that Nemo is better.

:)

Hi drama - drama is better than absoloute shame (and I know a bit about both). You did really well for a week, just repeat that again today. If you managed 6/7 days you can survive today.

Biscuits much appreciated.

venus I have bills that need paying and I keep ignoring. I need to speak to my ex-h instead of avoiding him. Also need to speak to my parents as I am avoiding them too. It won't turn my life around as such but will put things back on a much more even keel. Basically I am acting like an ostrich at the moment. Haven't been to AA for ages. No urge to go. Which is probably not very positive!

Strike out the "just" from lovely company. And sorry got your name wrong Drama :)

Thanks Red. I wish I knew why I do it, I have a couple of positive days & then something inside me will say "you need a drink tonight, you haven't had one latey" Its like I have no self control. Makes me so cross with myself.

What's your plans for the weekend? We are going to see fireworks tonight, my 2y old is very excited & need to find the video camera.

Red, think we all have had times where we stick our heads in the sand and ignore (or at least pretend to ignore) what is going on around us and what we need to do to sort out our shit, as you say bills to pay, fences to mend etc.

desire thanks for understanding. I think it's a trait many of us share. The most obvious manifestation being the urge to drown worries/ feelings/ anything with booze.

morning all - love the sound of today's bus trip. A walk in the autumn woods for me i think. Screwed up Wednesday night and had a midnight conversation with the toilet bowl [shame].
However, not a drop last night, in bed with hot chocolate by 9.30. This alternate nights, while an improvement, is still not good enough. Going for two in a row tonight.
Today i will not be drinking.

very good idea to face up to those things moomin They do not go away, and they particularly don't go away when you try to dissolve them in alcohol (I know that's not what you are suggesting, but I also know that it would be my favourite way of ignoring problems).

It takes some courage but you will feel better for having at least spoken to people.

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