So just phoned DH at work and they said he has theday off!!!

[memoo]

Which is news to me

He left as usual this morning.

This is not like him at all, he is the most honest, trustworthy man I've ever known, so what the hell is he up to?

Phone his mobile but no answer

Don't panic, don't over-think. Speak with him when you see him and take it from there.

If his colleague knew it was you, I would call back and say 'we were in such a rush last night this morning, and didn't get chance to discuss plans for today so I'm not sure what he had planned - is he off, off-site or should I be phoning the hospitals?'

Hoping it's all fine and innocent! Sure it is.

I do sometimes phone him at work but not very often.

His collague definately knew it was me so there is no way he is just really busy and just not taking calls.

Have text him but no phone call yet.

Sorry such short replies, sods law that DD is really playing up just when I could do with 5 mins to think

Blu, thats a good idea, was trying to think of a good excuse to ring back

IF he was up to no good his colleague will have texted him 'your DW rang', and may well have left him a message 'call your DW' anyway, so he will know meemoo called work.

My first thought was has he had an accident, not suspicion of messing around!

Anyway, hopefully there is a straightforward and non-worrying answer. No need to assume otherwise, particularly. Wat time is he due home?

trouble is if his collegue is in the know they will be able to alert him of your calls and then he will have time to come up with a good excuse.

I know i have too many bad experiences on this but i still think it is best to play things close to your chest - if it does turn out to be totally innocent (which i really hope it does for you) you will be able to feel a bit silly yourself and not have alerted your h to the possibilty that you are are paranoid.

this would freak me out... good luck memoo, hope all okay.

if he had had an accedent then surely his work would have asked where he was too. Especially if they were expecting him in anyway, and the person knew it was you calling - they would have been worried too.

I can't get hold of my DH either at the moment and he isn't answering my email.

If he has had an accident, why would work say he had the day off?

DH did this - went off two days in a row to an airshow. THen came back home each evening and made me feel sorry for him 'doing overtime'! Even had the cheek to insinuate I had sort of 'okayed' it as he said overtime was going (money was (still is!) tight) but did I really need him at home instead? I braved the extra days alone, pregnant and suffering terribly with depression for the greater good, and he was off having a good time. Sorry to hijack - if he is generally good I am sure it'll be fine. Can you check back payslips to see if the holidays etc. are ones you recognise? I still do this 5 years on to make sure DH hasn't taken more sneaky days off (he has). Or ring back and ask if he had holiday booked (under the guise of thinking maybe you have forgotten a joint appointment somewhere), or rang in sick (under the guise of you are worried incase he is ill on way home).

I often register my collegues as simply not here, rather than knowing if they are off sick, elswhere, day's leave etc. Though I could look it up on the staff calandar if someone wanted to know details of why they weren't around - (and were entitled to know)

I guess it depends on the workplace and how much the colleague would be expected to know.

He has just phoned! Said he is on his way home and will explain when he gets here. Baby crying so was really hard to talk to him with her crying in my ear. He said he is only 10 minutes away so he definately isn't at work as its a 30minute drive.

Good luck memoo - hope it's easily explained away and nothing for you to worry about

Good, at least you don't have to sit around worrying about where he might be, I hope there's an innocent explanation. The fact that his phone was off when you calls suggests he was in some kind of meeting or appointment, maybe he needed to go to the doctors and didn't want to worry you.

Hope its something positive .......

He had an interview, didn't he?

let him do all the talking
watch very carefully for any signs he is not being totally honest.

I would worry that if it is inocent why he couldnt trust you this morning.

Do let us know anyway

Oh that is good. I hope it isn't anything bad. Make the point you were worried not accusing him.

Oh masses of good luck memoo, am sure it's all innocent. Keep calm x

oh dear, what does he mean "he will explain"? Did you tell him you had phoned work or had his collegue phoned him to say you had called?

Hope you are ok x

That sounds like something positive.

but if he is only 10mins away why did he not tell you he was on his way home anyway???

If it was an interview - was he ever going to tell you?

I would be more worried that had you not phoned what would have happened.

Please do take care - but good luck too.

hopefully he was at camerlot picking up the lottery winnings? x