Don't know what to do

[wearingaway]

I'm sitting here with a black eye and a gin and tonic.

Last night we fought. He turned the electricity off so I pulled his hair. He responded.

I can't bring myself to end it as I'm terrified of being alone. I'm dreading the questions at work on Monday.

I'm not asking for sympathy, this mess is my fault. I'm the bad guy here. How to I cope?

You pulled his hair. He punched you (I assume). Hair pulling not good but not comparable to a punch IMO.
How are things with him today?

your the bad guy cos a man punched you in the face?

how do you work that one out?

Cope with what? You were both in the wrong. Are you both able to apologise and promise it won't happen again?

If you leave him it doesn't have to mean you will be alone. You just have the opportunity to meet someone who won't abuse you.

were you both drinking?

why was the elctricity turned off?

I deserved it, that's how.

He still loves me, he's never done it before. He's out with a friend but due back in an hour. I'm knackered.

He turned it off to spite me in the middle of an argument. Not very important in the grand scheme of things. I'm an idiot.

you deserved being punched in the face?

i just can't see a scenario where someone deserves being punched in the face.

agree with custy
sounds like you should both go to anger management, but NO youm did not deserve it

He already does.

How do I cope now? He's brining friends over soon and I just want to hide. House is a mess.

leave the house a mess and face his friends with your black eye.

What HMC said.

already does what? Go to anger management? Tell him he needs to repeat a year.
TBH though you sound like you have full on arguments - is that usual? In my worst arguments with DH we have yet to pull hair or turn off electricity.

That's terrifying me.

Yes, he's already getting counselling.

I agree with custardo - let him explain to his friends about why you have a black eye .

So I have to face ritual humiliation too? Suppose it's fair.

No - If his friends ask you what happened to your eye then just tell them to ask your (D)p/h . He should be the one feeling Humiliated IMO .

or greet them then go out before questions start

don't want to go out and be stared at. Just going to have to grin and bare it. Almost wish he'd finished the job.

If you want to go out you could wear sunglasses if that would make YOU feel less stressed

Stop this.

You can put make up to cover it, wear sunglasses. You shouldn't hide away. You should tell your H not to bring the friends back as you need to talk.

Have you got children?

Oh well, he's come home a brought me some ice for my eye. I'm hiding in the bedroom for the day. How does it get to this?

Is this the first time you have both been violent in an argument ? If so then maybe you could go to relate , but if this is a regular occurrence then maybe you should leave him .

No, it's not the first time. Maybe the third of fourth in around three years. Twice in the last month though.

We were supposed to be TTC. Hahahaha.