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can i start a thread for us mistress's??

168 replies

meandmrsjones · 02/10/2010 16:30

how many on mumsnet are there?
ive noticed with good reason that they are very badly thought of on here - just from the threads i have read
im not what you call i full mistress as of yet we are yet to sleep togther - neither of us are single and we both have kids and responsibilities so not not wish to upset our partners but we feel so drawn to each other,he is all i can think about
would just like to her others experiences and if it ever worked out for the best ?

go ahead and flame

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Mummiehunnie · 03/10/2010 20:35

Your poor children and the poor children and their poor mother of the man you are planning on rescuing you!

Have you ever considered counselling for your issues?

Lust only gets you so far in life!

loopylou6 · 03/10/2010 23:39

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CowsGoMoo · 03/10/2010 23:48

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sometimegirl · 04/10/2010 00:24

Ah leave her alone!
She was blunt and unthinking in her title is all.
Bloody holier than thous.

sometimegirl · 04/10/2010 00:26

And as for you CowsGoMoo....why did your husband leave you?? Have you asked YOURSELF that question yet??

Silver66 · 04/10/2010 00:34

owch - the whole thread just makes me go owch. there are always two sides to every story. not agreeing with anyone but i think some very harsh things said. owch.

jameelaq · 04/10/2010 00:36

hormones, oestrogen, history, gender, pessimism, aversion to risk, umm anything I have forgotten? (cats, bitchiness, hypocrisy)

sharbie · 04/10/2010 00:36

i think you are being wayyyyy too harsh on op and really ..... are there really no 'other women' on here??????

needafootmassage · 04/10/2010 06:18

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celticfairy101 · 04/10/2010 10:28

I agree with swallowedAfly.

There is a succint and non abusive way of getting your message of disagreement across. Everyone knows that children are the ones that suffer in marriages that end due to adultery. However resorting to name calling and slut shaming is not the dignified approach.

We are better than that.

Hullygully · 04/10/2010 10:32

I am a mistress.

It is her fault because she has let herself go and doesn't respect or look after her man. I give him what she can't and won't. And I wear sexy undies and do saucy talk.

MoralDefective · 04/10/2010 10:49

Maybe she's let herself go BECAUSE she's married to a cheating git.....why doesn't he leave her if she's so bad?

Anniegetyourgun · 04/10/2010 10:51

Er, I think Hullygully is making a point here, rather than telling us her life history...

(at least I hope so)

MoralDefective · 04/10/2010 10:52

SorryBlush

celticfairy101 · 04/10/2010 10:55

Oh for goodness sake hullgully. Please stop being inflamatory.

A good place to go to get the flavour of the other woman is the British Second Wives website. There the other woman talks about such savoury things as never having children because who in their right mind would want to push out a melon! Also they talk about their husbands children in a not very nice way. Very revealing. And yet it's full of women who are deeply insecure. They just want to please their partner all the time and most (those who are intransigent in their views) do eventually give up.

Does the man let himself go? Does he respect his wife and look after her? It's a two way street relationships.

Hullygully · 04/10/2010 10:56

Inflammatory?

For that?

Wow.

celticfairy101 · 04/10/2010 11:03

I wear sexy undies and do saucy talk.

Because this is meant to wind women whose husbands have left them for another woman up. There's no other reason for it. And it's unecessary.

It's not a basis for a sound relationship either. Given that there is much pain surrounding a divorce or adultery it's a flippant remark to make.

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 04/10/2010 11:14

don't be hard on the OP,she will figure out eventually what she has to do ,she will have to make the choices,either good or bad,and she will have to deal with whatever outcome,

OP,i hope you are ok,MN is a good place,many people have been helped,and i hope you find the answers you are looking for,only not the hard way,listen to your voice of reason,you know whats right and wrong,if you want to have an affair,go for it,but be prepared for all the hurt and pain that comes with such things,it never ends well,,

MoralDefective · 04/10/2010 11:31

HullyGully..i apologise for reacting...reading it properly i don't think you were trying to wind anyone up,i think you were being sarky about so called mistresses trying to justify their behaviour....

loopylou6 · 04/10/2010 11:52

Did go a bit over the top with my post I meant what I said but wouldn't normally be so crude. However I was pissed and having recently been the shoulder to cry on for someone who's H Has been having an affair and seeing the destruction then seeing someone who is asking for support with her inevitable affair...

sandsad · 04/10/2010 12:09

Love this thread!

Thanks for making me feel a little bit more shit about my recently unfaithful husband.

Sexy undies and dirty talk? Sure that counts for soooo much more than love, stability and family. Can't help it that I slightly piss myself if I don't get to the loo. Its the fact I've given birth to his four children and it's knackered my body. Or the fact that I get up in the night when they need something rather than bother him. Or that I support him to the ends of the earth in his career. Or that over the last two months I've been aged 10 years by his betrayal.

Yes, I'm a fucking mug for having faith in someone for over a decade.

And my son's heart was broken when we told him we had to split up.

Before I hide this thread, I'd like to tell you to fuck off.

enjoy your fling. Remember you are writing this into your children's history. They don't deserve it.

"My mum and dad split up when I was XX"

Christmas is coming. You won't have them every year to see them open their presents.

They may get a step-mum. They may even like her.

But enjoy, won't you? Hmm

WhenwillIfeelnormal · 04/10/2010 14:56

Sandsad. Not wanting to speak for Hully Blush but she really was taking the piss I am sure and was just trotting out the tired old lines that many OW use to justify their awful behaviour. I don't think any intelligent woman would believe any of that old nonsense, so re-read Hully's post with a smile. She is taking a swipe out of the very people who have hurt you.

Hullygully · 04/10/2010 15:02

Thank you, Normal

and sandsad, I am sorry you are having such a horrible time.

sandsad · 04/10/2010 17:04

Bless you WWIFN, and Hully - I totally get that Smile

Its at the OP and the generally distasteful bad thread choice. I'm sure this is the wrong place this.

I can imagine the conversations about how he will leave his wife one day soon, and how the Mrs is a fat frump who has let herself go, how exciting the sex is yada yada yada. All those old chestnuts.

Perhaps there should be a thread - for the deluded!

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