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Original poster

He made me feel like a prostitute.

72 replies

wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 07:37

Vile man.

I had a short term, mostly sex fling a few months back.

I dumped him, he went off, saw someone else for a short while, that didnt work out and then surprise surprise he started contacting me asking if i fancided a shag.

I told him no. He left it a week and asked again, i said not right now and basically its just escelating.
He keeps texting me pics of his cock and telling me about his ' hardening man area' WTF!!!
laughing at him does not seem to discourage him.

He text me yeserday morning, a pornographic text. At 6.30am and also asked if he could come round for a quick shag before my children wake up.

I said i was busy and up with my children already.

He text me at 11:30 last night, another rude pornographic message. I said, ffs, go watch some porn or something. To which i got the reply' fine, whatever'

I text back not the be pathetic, that he was out of order texting me so late and that i was not interested in rude text tennis.

So, then he replied that i could just say it all in one message and then he would leave me alone!!

WTF!!!!

I went back with i am not a text wank service.

And he said he knew that

and i said that please do not treat me like one

and he replied with 'fuck you'

Seriously. What a wanker.

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Lauriefairycake · 30/09/2010 07:41

what a charmer Hmm

Next time be more rude to him at the start - some men need to be told more firmly. In his head you will have encouraged him by saying "not right now" - That means LATER in his mind and laughing at him - in his head "ooh, she finds me hilarious"

Try "Fuck off you sad wanker, I'm not interested right from the beginning.!

SweetnessAndShite · 30/09/2010 07:42

Why are you diginifying this with any sort of reply?

Tell him you want no further contact with him and if he doesn't stop bothering you you will report him to the police for harrassment. Then follow through.

....And choose your flings more carefully next time.

megsophandemma · 30/09/2010 07:47

I agree you should have told him where to go when he first started the messages.

You need to ignore any further contact. Ignore, Ignore, Ignoreeeee.

Original poster
wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 07:50

no - laughing at him, i said that was odd and he was weird.
I just assumed constantly saying no ( in many forms) would be enough for him to realise.
ie- no. Im busy right now
-no i dont want to
-no i cant

  • no dont be ridiclous
  • no go watch porn.
-no, i dont want to play text tennis with you.

To me thats all NO.
Saying no - i am not a text wank service.
no - do not treat me like one.

thats no.

If he contacts me again im just going to say NO. DO NOT ASK AGAIN.

thing with flings is you dont really know the person before do you. It was only a few weeks fling as well, so not long enough to get to know someone either. I feel pretty shit that i slept with someone that clearly thinks lm nothing more than a sex worker.

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Bast · 30/09/2010 08:03

Try 'Do not contact me again'.

You haven't actually been that assertive and some people just need to be told.

sarah293 · 30/09/2010 08:06

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Plumm · 30/09/2010 08:12

A firm no, or just igno him in future.

Tortington · 30/09/2010 08:14

id have told him to fuck off the first time i saw a cock picture tbh.

LoveBeingInvitedToTheVIPSale · 30/09/2010 08:17

You're being too nice.

Hullygully · 30/09/2010 08:18

Don't you want him then?

BelleDameSansMerci · 30/09/2010 08:25

Hully Grin

Best thing is to just ignore him in future. Don't reply to anything. Don't even open the texts. Just don't engage.

PosieParker · 30/09/2010 08:27

Text him and say you are finding his texts harrassing and intrusive and if he continues you will report him.....or get his number blocked(which I think you can do).

Squitten · 30/09/2010 08:33

Why on earth don't you just block his number? Problem solved

Jux · 30/09/2010 08:38

Get lost or I will call the cops might do it.

swallowedAfly · 30/09/2010 08:43

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Rollergirl1 · 30/09/2010 08:50

If he contacts you again just ignore. I'm wonderinf if there's not a little bit of you that actually wants him to carry on texting and that's why you didn't tell him to bang it up his arse right from the start.

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wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 09:02

Theres really not a little bit of me that whats him to carry on.
Hes just a bit of a pathetic winer and makes me feel guilty. When i dumped him he went on and on at me for ages about how bad he felt and it was my fault etc...

So i just thought if i kept saying no he would get the message.

Appears not.

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SkylineDrifter · 30/09/2010 09:19

I don't understand why you even bothered to reply in the first place. He's trying to wear you down, and if you carry on replying, he may just do that.

Ignore anything further that comes from him, and get him blocked on your phone.

ShirleyKnot · 30/09/2010 09:21

If someone sent me a cock shot I think I would just actually die.

I would be dead.

Original poster
wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 09:25

i did die - a small -part. i have no idea what reaction he thought that was going to get.

He has already text me this morning. I just going to ignore.

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Rindercella · 30/09/2010 09:25

You've tried it the nice way. Now block his number. Do not engage any more with this man and save your energy.

Taghain · 30/09/2010 09:58

As above, block his number.

As a rough guide to translation:
Not right now means Yes, later to a bloke.
I can't means I'd love to but it's impossible just now, try later.
And laughing at his texts means you're amused.

Ragwort · 30/09/2010 10:01

Why aren't you blocking his number?

catsmother · 30/09/2010 10:09

Block him. You are feeding a troll by replying at all because he'll translate that as a glimmer of hope.

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