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Original poster

He made me feel like a prostitute.

72 replies

wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 07:37

Vile man.

I had a short term, mostly sex fling a few months back.

I dumped him, he went off, saw someone else for a short while, that didnt work out and then surprise surprise he started contacting me asking if i fancided a shag.

I told him no. He left it a week and asked again, i said not right now and basically its just escelating.
He keeps texting me pics of his cock and telling me about his ' hardening man area' WTF!!!
laughing at him does not seem to discourage him.

He text me yeserday morning, a pornographic text. At 6.30am and also asked if he could come round for a quick shag before my children wake up.

I said i was busy and up with my children already.

He text me at 11:30 last night, another rude pornographic message. I said, ffs, go watch some porn or something. To which i got the reply' fine, whatever'

I text back not the be pathetic, that he was out of order texting me so late and that i was not interested in rude text tennis.

So, then he replied that i could just say it all in one message and then he would leave me alone!!

WTF!!!!

I went back with i am not a text wank service.

And he said he knew that

and i said that please do not treat me like one

and he replied with 'fuck you'

Seriously. What a wanker.

OP posts:
lou33 · 30/09/2010 10:21

I have had unsolicited cock shots before. I have told them if they ever did it again i would put it online with their name. I then told them v firmly never to contact me again.

You need to be v blunt about this. Tell him you are not interested and to stop contacting you. Then do not reply again. Any response will give him the impression that you are.

SheWillBeLoved · 30/09/2010 10:21

I wonder if you enjoy the attention from him in some way? Anybody who definitely did not enjoy this sort of constant well... harassment is what it is, would have told whoever it was to never contact them again, and blocked their number. They wouldn't have said 'No, I'm busy'.

Just a thought!

chippy47 · 30/09/2010 10:23

Another fine example of the male species. When I was single the obvious way to win someones affection/get laid was to send them a picture of my cock - oh hang on a minute I am mistaken as doing that would be fecking ridiculous and guaranteed not to actually work in any way whatsoever. He is a complete knobcheese. Block him and ignore him. If he continues take the pictures to the police -I am sure unsolicited cock pictures must break some sort of law.

Original poster
wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 10:52

Ive said more than just no im busy.

Ive been saying no in many ways for about 2 weeks.

No im busy
no i dont want to
just no

he just keeps on trying.

He also makes you then feel very guilty like you are being mean to him. And always says something like ' i feel really down about myself now, and its your fault'
which is why ive been saying no and then a reason.

Never once have i said yes, later.. and please send me a pic of your cock in the meantime.

Im just going to ignore him totally as i think if i reply in any way at all he takes it as a green light.

OP posts:
Tippychoocks · 30/09/2010 10:56

Aren't cock shots becoming common? I know lots of people who have many, many cocks on their phones. I'm with Shirley, I would die

OP, ignore him. Tis the only way.

ShirleyKnot · 30/09/2010 11:00

unsolicited cock shots makes me larf.

ShirleyKnot · 30/09/2010 11:00

The phrase rather than actual cock shots obv.

justabit · 30/09/2010 11:01

I think that you do have to take the advice given above. My experience is that if you try to say no nicely they don't hear the no, they just hear the nice bit. If he has texted you today I really think you should text back and say that if he contacts you again you will report him to the police. Then if you can you should block his number so that you know that any text/call can't be him and you won't be all upset by the ringing. These things can escalate very easily, he is now getting angry with you. Not to be dramatic but you don't want him trying to contact you in any other way.

perfumedlife · 30/09/2010 11:07

I think you are enjoying the attention, and feeling desirable because he is always asking for sex.

Easy and simple way to deal with him is delete all texts without reading, or block his number. The fact you did neither tells me you love it.

WhenwillIfeelnormal · 30/09/2010 11:10

Have a look at your own language for the solution to this conondrum. You say he "makes you feel" like a prostitute and "makes you feel" guilty.

No he doesn't. You choose yourself, to feel these things. A short sharp "No. Stop contacting me" is all that's needed here.

But do have a think about how on earth a tosser like this, can induce guilt in you.

proudnglad · 30/09/2010 11:16

WELCOME TO MUMSNET

Original poster
wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 11:18

not being funny - but lots of people make people feel a certain way because of their actions/words.
you would have to be a really tough to go through life totally devoid of any feelings becuase of something someone has said.

I am not enjoying the attention. In any way shape of form. Ive just been saying no nicely.

I think you are all correct and like i have done so this morning, im just not going to respond.

OP posts:
Rindercella · 30/09/2010 11:24

Why don't you block his number? That way you won't even know if he has sent you a message and you won't be tempted to read it.

thedudesmummy · 30/09/2010 11:25

Change your phone number

thedudesmummy · 30/09/2010 11:25

Change your phone number

ange8 · 30/09/2010 11:27

And why do you feel guilty when he says that you are making him feel bad, so you try to soften your 'no' by adding an explanation? You could reply - 'good, you should feel bad - you are harassing me and acting like a wanker'. or better still, as others have said, don't reply at all.

Hullygully · 30/09/2010 11:27

Marry him. He's a keeper.

lou33 · 30/09/2010 11:43

Not all phones can block individual numbers. Mine cant.

You cant say no nicely to people like him op. I wouldn't worry about his feelings, he clearly doesnt care about yours

msboogie · 30/09/2010 11:47

hardening man area wtf?

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 30/09/2010 12:34

I would reply just once more saying. "I have told you that I'm not interested. Any more texts, calls or pictures of your pathetic cock will result in me calling the police."

And then block (if possible)

Actually go to the police if he continues. I imagine some police might be willing to have a quick word about harrassment. He would probably faint with terror.

Cartoose · 30/09/2010 12:40

My first thought on reading the OP was "block him". I can't understand why you didn't just do that right away. Just do it now.

Cartoose · 30/09/2010 12:42

Oh, just read lou33's post. I thought all phones can block numbers. So, can you block him OP?

Original poster
wellthatswonderful · 30/09/2010 17:19

i cant block numbers. ive tried my network about it and they said i cant without paying or something.

Im just not going to respond at all. Ive had a 1 more text this afternoon. Im sure if i totally ignore him he will get the message.

OP posts:
CerealOffender · 30/09/2010 17:22

i have a really old phone that doesn't do pictures. i am so missing out on the cock shots

talie101 · 30/09/2010 19:29

He sounds like he just wants attention or a reaction from you even if it is negative. By replying you are giving him just that.

Don't respond to any more texts, he should get bored then and disappear. Give him a few days and if he continues, send one last threat of informing the Police that he is harrassing you and then no more.