Affair

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Just found out that my wife has been having a relationship with the builder. While I have been working hard to pay for the building work she has been dropping the kids off at school then f**cking him in our bed. I cant describe how I feel it just feels like a physical pain like some one has stabbed me and I don't know what to do. I feel humiliated and who can I talk to .. I couldnt tell my friends not even my best friend as its so terrible and makes me look like an idiot.Any advise welcome as I moved out last night and really dont know where or what to do next.

I thnk she is very fast, pl

PFV- people don't usually have affairs if all is hunky dory at home. You can kid yourself, but that's true. At the very least they are getting attention and a buzz from sex with someone new. Some men and women can't resist the temptation.

And just because you were hurt it doesn't mean you have to be downright rude just because another poster- me- says something which touches a nerve.

It's irrelevant what has happened or not happened in my life- and it's none of your business. I was giving an impartial reponse which is why I went on to include the link to the Relate site on affairs.

this thread has gone very slow now...

i guess the consensus is that this was all complete bollocks then...

who knows, tst

OP could be having a fistfight with the builder as we speak

and appearing on Jeremy Kyle on the morrow...

Remember ladies, if you think it's a troll, don't call troll, call MNHQ like what I did.

PurplePeony I don't think anyone would deny that "At the very least they are getting attention and a buzz from sex with someone new." but that does not equate to being unhappy in their primary relationship.

I cannot understand why you want to deny what plenty of posters have admitted on these boards (that they weren't unhappy at all) or to ridicule what others' partners have admitted. I do wonder whether you're kidding yourself and are projecting your own justifications (which might be true in your case) on to others.

And I'm baffled at why, when I have seen you being wonderfully compassionate on other threads, you chose to be so cruel and insensitive today, not just to the OP, but to other people who have been hurt by infidelity.

PurplePeony

"Getting attention and a buzz from sex with someone new" priceless. You lack maturity, which isn't a mark of old age btw but a mark of someone shallow, selfish, totally self absorbed whose only concern is novelty. The only thing you get from your type of personality is grief. And your certainly dishing it out by the bucket load on this thread. What a waste.

There are guys who get off on this sort of scenario. BBC documnetray on alternative lifestyles showcased it a few years back. I cant remember the word for it, but the OP was trolling for sexual kicks. He has basically outlined his fantasy.

Or maybe the op was a 'she'? Either way a poor excuse for a human being. I suppose the lack of background info was a clue. I guess most people would have supplied some info on what their marriage had been like until now. What a sad individual

PMSL @ Footlong, didnt exactly get anything to help 'him' along though did he.

SolidGoldBrass as always is spot on.

Footlong: Yes I know. I couldn't help wondering if this was Harlesden Syndicate getting into the digital age at last...

I thnk you can most of you rest easy. TBH from what I know of this particular fetish, for him to get his jollies we should all have been telling him that it was no more than he deserved and his wife was only shagging the builder because he (the OP) had a tiny willy. I don't think outrage and sympathy push the right buttons for this type of person.

celticfairy if you are still reading, can I ask where it was stated that I felt those things to accuse me of? I did not say that I had , or that I believed those reasons to be acceptable. You have jumped the gun somewhat with your slur on my character.Are you not able to distinguish between a geberal point and a personal view?

You might like to know what my friend's late counsellor said when she talked of men who had affairs ( she was over 80 and an eminent psychotherapsit in London having worked with women clients all her life ). She described men seeking affairs as wanting "fresh cunt."

Sadly she died a few months back, otherwise yo could have argued it with her.