As great a forum as this might be for sorting out some kid issues, it's still the web (pretendy world) - and the web is the last place I would turn for relationship advice. Sure, I might skim the internet for similar situations to my own for voyeuristic reference only, however, I would never put my story out for evaluation as, try as I might(not), I'm very unlikely to tell the full story - although I might throw in the odd "I know I'm a pain too..." type nuggets to give it a more reasonable flavour.
Would anyone accept a divorce hearing or the results of a counselling session where only the evidence of their DH was allowed, none of it was ever verified and the jury was made up almost entirely of like-minded men.
I am not saying that stories are true or otherwise, however, the web is a great place to skew perspective in order to allow us to keep doing whatever we're doing that's not right. Problem is, when kids are involved this isn't good, as indirectly supporting someone's problematic or possibly problem-inducing behaviour impacts directly on the kids.
Although not as many, there are men's website's where we can have a good moan about our other halves, however, I and most men avoid them like the plague. The thing that tends to run through most mens' heads as they look at them is, "Don't these people have mates better placed to give them advice. If not, why haven't they got any proper mates?" The answer is generally yes they do have friends, however, those friends know a bit too much of the whole story to give the answers they're looking for.
We all have friends who do this - complain about their relationships, but in the back of your mind you're thinking, "I could never live with you, you're way too annoying self-obsessed and rude - you just either don't know it or don't care." These same people reinvent themselves on the web, soak up the sympathy and use it as an excuse to never change.
A few stories may be the whole truth, some not, however, I tend to fall on the side of generally not believing the versions I see on the web as I find it unpleasant to broadcast very personal problems to the world without allowing the accused to state their case. It does give a less than favourable insight into the character of the poster.
That said, without people spraying their personal business all over the web it would be a duller place - so what they hey!
Before we jump ship on the back of ill-informed advice, we need to look at these sobering facts which are as relevant to men as women.
First marriage 50% failure rate
Second marriage 72% failure rate
Third marriage 84% failure rate
Fourth marriage 92% failure rate
If we don't seek and act on genuine unbiased advice which forces us to be honest with ourselves, we're most likely to repeat the same mistakes, wrecking our own and more importantly the lives of others along the way. If a relationship is, however, abusive and that abuse is genuinely disproportionate to anything you may have done - the time for talking has passed. Don't waste your time on the internet, get out of the relationship asap and seek support afterwards.