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Original poster

For anyone who remembers me, here's an update.

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onlyjoking9329 · 14/09/2010 20:35

I don't spend so much time on MN these days, the kids keep me busy and I have a busy social life now.
I'm happy to report that after a few difficult years for me and the kids, things are all rather fab here, I've been seeing Tom for a year now and we are getting married Grin
the kids are doing really well abbey and Bethan are now at sixth form and seem happy there, Elliot continues to do very well and keeps us all smiling.
Tom has a fantastic relationship with the kids and they all adore him, Tom is comfy talking with the kids about their dad he understands that steve will never be forgotten.
I am very very happy and at peace.
The mad/evil inlaws are keeping out of our lives for which I am thankful.
Thanks for all of your support over the last few years.

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crossingborders · 14/09/2010 20:36

That is lovely to hear, So glad you have all found happiness.

notnowbernard · 14/09/2010 20:37

I don't 'know' you, OnlyJoking, but I certainly remember your story

And I am very happy for you Smile

BecauseImWorthIt · 14/09/2010 20:37

Lovely! I'm very pleased, but especially that your in-laws are leaving you alone.

CarGirl · 14/09/2010 20:38

That is so lovely to hear x

bellavita · 14/09/2010 20:38

Of course we remember you!

What wonderful lovely news. You and your family deserve to enjoy life and happiness again.

Good news about the inlaws!

xx

SecretNutellaFix · 14/09/2010 20:40

OJ, I am so glad you are all happy.Smile

notwavingjustironing · 14/09/2010 20:42

I often wondered what happened to you!

You won't know me from Adam, but I did follow your story and I was humbled by your bravery.

Wishing you all every happiness.

xx

CharCharGabor · 14/09/2010 20:44

Fantastic :)

TrinityTheLonelyBrokenRhino · 14/09/2010 20:45

Fantastic to hear OJ Smile

bumpybecky · 14/09/2010 20:50

you don't know me either, but I remember you and your bravery

it's great to hear that you're all happy :)

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onlyjoking9329 · 14/09/2010 20:53

It's hard to believe that steve died over two years ago, I will never forget the support we had for the 17 months he was ill, the evenings didn't feel so bad when I had MN supporting us.
So many kind people reached out and held our hands, so many people sent lovely things for us all, the kids still love looking at the fab memory blanket that some MN knitters made for our family,Macmillan were very pleased with the money they were given, lots of MNetters worked hard sorting surprises and shopping for us all, at a time when things were unbearably difficult and the inlaws were only making things harder, MN was a lifeline to us, so thank you all.

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pooka · 14/09/2010 20:53

Oh I am so pleased that you're all doing so well and that there is happiness in your lives again. :)

Gigantaur · 14/09/2010 21:00

that is one of the most lovely posts i have ever read OJ.

i cannot be happier for you.
you deserve every happyiness

midnightexpress · 14/09/2010 21:00

Aww that's great to hear OJ, so glad you're all doing well.

It's funny, reading your OP, I'd forgotten all about the evil inlaws, although I remember your story very well. I'm sure that goes to show something very important, though I can't think what it is Confused. Possibly just that I have a rubbish memory since I had the DCs.

SoupDragon · 14/09/2010 21:02

Fabulous news! Congratulations :)

notwavingjustironing · 14/09/2010 21:03

Two years? Oh my goodness.

Where's Littlelapin when you need her?

RustyBear · 14/09/2010 21:04

Lovely to hear from you again, OJ. I always think of you when I see a trifle!

tibni · 14/09/2010 21:05

So pleased for you all, thanks for sharing your happy news

gibbberish · 14/09/2010 21:06

So so pleased for you OJ. You of all people deserve every happiness. And it seems that you have found it.

There is a little justice in the world after all.

Lovely to see you btw Smile

suzikettles · 14/09/2010 21:06

That's great news.Smile

FiveGoMadInDorset · 14/09/2010 21:06

What great news, I can't beleive your girls are old enough for 6th form. Tom sounds a very special man.

weegiemum · 14/09/2010 21:07

Congratulations OJ and thanks for updating us. Its nice to have something positive to read.

You and your family have done so well, and its so great to hear that Tom appreciate how blessed he is with you all!

Wishing you all every happiness.

Northernlurker · 14/09/2010 21:07

Good to hear things are going so well. If anyone ever deserved to feel 'very,very happy and at peace' it's you. Smile

squeaver · 14/09/2010 21:09

That's funny - a mate of mine was telling me about a Macmillan Coffee Morning she's organising today and it made me think of you, OJ.

Very happy that you're happy.

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onlyjoking9329 · 14/09/2010 21:10

Time moves so quickly in some ways but slowly in others, we did trifle and sky lanterns on the anniversary in June.
Toms parents both died years ago so no MIL or FIL for me, he has two kids and lots of family who are all very lovely to me and the kids, it's nice to be part of a big family again.
The kids lost so much when their lovely Dad died, it's great to see them happy again.
I tried to put some new photos on here but can't do it from iPad.

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