The Brave Babes Carry On The Charabanc Trip - Leaving The Booze Behind!

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Hello and welcome!

This is thread number eight!

The Brave Babes are all at different stages of quitting the booze. Some have stopped, some are thinking about it and some are just cutting down.

They are full of support and wisdom for those of you wishing to climb aboard the Bus or Charabanc!!

The Babes aren't an exclusive club, they never judge and they don't charge for advice either!

So, come meet them. I'm Mouse, by the way, and I've been sober since August 2nd 2010, something I would never have even considered without the support of these threads.

Here are the first seven threads, if you want a bit of history.

JWN's original thread

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Thread seven

Enjoy the film Silver. I'm heading off Clothes shopping with DD.
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Have agood afternoon hippy and silver.

Hippy, I noticed in a previous thread that you mentioned minimising / hiding the level of your drinking. Good time to get on the bus, that kind of stuff only gets worse, and at the end of the day, your own body knows exactly what you put into it. No kidding it

Am so disappointed. I screwed up. 2 large glasses of wine from the free bar. It was halfway through the evening. I gave in. Enjoyed them at the time and had a fierce craving for a third but we came home.
I am quite sure I cannot "do" moderation.
Perhaps it was too early for me to go out. The temptation and desire to drink (surrounded by merry, drunken revellers from a wedding) was too much for me.
Hanging my head in shame today but on the plus side, even more determined to not drink today.
The shambolic mess I morphed into last Sunday as disgraceful.

I will not be going down that road today.
Going to clear up after lunch, watch the X Factor, dance round with DD1 to the music and read the papers.
Thank you for your ongoing support brave babes.

Yes, luci I also think that it is very difficult to do moderation, but well done for not messing up too badly. And especially well done for going home before you had a third. I assume that you and dh were agreed on that approach.

Just don't use your diappointment as a 'reason' for having any more

Have a good and sober day, and enjoy it, and be glad that today you are not as messed up as some of the guests will be this morning.

luci!, dont be ashamed! just try and remember why you want to give up and for today

WE WILL NOT BE DRINKING!

have a sunday afternoon hug!! you are doing fine!, just keep on keeping on and it will come right in teh end!

Luci - that is brilliant!! Really, it is!! Well done. A free bar and you only had two glasses of wine and took yourself home before you had a third.

Fantastic.

And I'm so pleased that DH stuck to the plan too. It would seem he wants to help you which is a huge bonus.

I'm so glad that was all you had.

Luci Be proud not ashamed - you did fantastically (spell someone) well - to have 2 glasses and resist the third shows more self control than anything. You can take things slowly you know - as Mouse always says - take it at your own pace - think back to before you joined this thread - you would no doubt have been totally pissed by the end of the night - so you had a couple of glasses - so F**ckin what - think about how far you have come and the milestones and achievements you have made - forget it and move on

And to the rest of you - Kung Foo Panda was a very good film and used a quote that we should all remember

YESTERDAY IS HISTORY
TOMORROW IS A MYSTERY
TODAY IS A GIFT

and we should all treat it as just that - just for today.

Right got to peel the F**king spuds now and put joint in oven - FFS why do I do this to myself!!

Hippy are you still there ?

Hello Luci, a wedding reception would be quite a test for me and the fact that you held out until mid evening and then stopped after two large glasses is pretty darn good I think. Ok, so none would have been even better but you didn't abandon all intentions and I expect you can account for your evening. I want to send a little well done.

SAF, sorry you are feeling down today. Your description of feeling over exposed really took me back and that paranoid churning over of what was said. Be gentle with yourself today, it is all a learning curve.

JWN I have been wondering what it is you have been baking - inspired me to make some very gooey and massively fattening brownies.

Silver I love the quote, had always thought Kung fu panda would be rubbish.

Hope all other babes are having a good day. x

Silver - you are bonkers for agreeing to do a roast on so little sleep. Here, have a Mouse hug ((((( ))))).

Beef casserole is in, log cabin is almost up, well the walls are.

Bread is made, farmhouse loaf. Great for ripping and dipping in the casserole gravy!! I am a slob I know!

Dd has done all of her homework and Nemo is hooked up for his next feed.

I have a cup of tea and the workers are having a well deserved break!!

Kung Fu Panda is good, Jack Black is funny!

And tonight we have another X Factor.

I WILL NOT BE DRINKING REGARDLESS OF X FACTOR BEING ON!!!!!!

Negotiating time on the computer is not easy with 2 teenagers in the house - I think my posts are always going to be very disjointed...unless it is the morning of a non school day of course.
It's scarey how much time I have spent thinking about not having a drink today - Knowing that I will be knocking back a few large glasses of wine come early evening keeps me going all day. I have already poured the half bottle of wine down the sink, but the thought of watching X Factor stone cold sober is slightly alarming!

Thank you for the positive comments. I am not sure I deserve them though. If DP had not said "come one, we'll say our goodbyes to the happy couple, we're going" I am sure I'd have been wrecked and in a complete mess by the end of the night. For me that first sip is the trigger.
Thank God we left when we did. I need lot's of safe, boring nights at home with DP and the kids (and Inlaws downstairs and saying nothing to wind me up) to get me back on track.
Luckily that is what is planned for the near future.
No drinks so far today. For a weekend I have passed my "dangerous" time so I am going to be ok for now.
Your support means so much, it really does.

hippy!!!!!

We'll all have to come up with another coping mechanism for X Factor won't we!!

Like not watching it!! But DD does and I let her. It's only on for a few months!

Luci - but he did say that and you didn't argue back that you wanted to stay or go back via the free bar swiping a glass as you went!

Nor did you go to the offy! Job done in my book lovely.

Well done. You have got this far. You should be very proud or yourself. xx

It's another of my secret vices! - i pretend it's just because DD likes it, but she often gets bored halfway through and I'm glued to the TV till the end.

Luci - take the compliments - you managed to just have 2 glasses and to leave early with a gentle nudge in the right direction - no shame in that.

I only like X-factor when it is at these early stages, when 50 people are leaving at once and there are mass tears and wailing (and still some quite funny bad singing and dancing). Once it gets to the later rounds where there is individual voting, I hate it, cannot stand the tension and the sense of how awful it must be for the ONE person voted off.

Well we celebrated our anniversary with fizzy water in Champagne flutes and I swear we were high as kites! Bollocks I have spent the last twenty years needlessly poisoning myself! Today we went to see Eat,Pray,Love which was ok. I am really happy that I didn't drink, I want to fill my life up with loads of positive non drinking memories, like last night, IYSWIM

Fantastic MissP. Those really are the memories that you want to keep.

I wanted to go to see EatPrayLove tonight (especially 'cos of the India bit) but dp is being very disinterested and I am being passive aggressive - it's too late to go now and I am pissed off with him (he would have gone if I'd organised it all and said what time in was on etc, but I'm fed up with organising things this weekend).

Venus believe me it is only because of the occasion that DH surrendered! The Expendables would have been his first choice

Feck it - I'm off to bed - dd knackered after last night - and me - every time I say something slightly not what she wants to hear i get "YOU HATE ME" screamed at me . Nothing new to most of you i lknow - but it wears you down - and now I am making hot choc for her ....ffs someone give me strength - and that won't be GOD or AA. My friends on here more than enough.

good night sweet babes - not working tomorrow so hopefully we can talk then

Oh yes - forgot to mention my period started - could this be the reason I am so FUCKING ANGRY

Any thoughts M?

Love to hear them if you have

Night babes

sweet and peaceful dreams - don't forget scotland tomorrow xxx

Silver - sounds like my DD after a sleepover.

We actually put a stop to them for a while as after one where she had apparently been up half the night, DD gave the front door a kick mid tantrum and went through the glass (with bare feet!)

According to my mother, it must have been a weak point and she had been unlucky (I would have been belted for less but DD can do no wrong..) However, joiner disagreed and said that the door was reinforced and he had no idea how she managed it! My DD can be the loveliest girl ever unless she's tired and then she is something else.

Hope all is well after a good night's sleep all round.

Luci, well done! You stopped and left before any damage was done and I think you did realy well. It was obviously important to DH that you went along and I'm sure he appreciates that it was difficult.

Been shopping, cleaning, decorating all weekend and have not long finished. A waste really as the weather was so nice and back to work tomorrow unfortunately.

Hey looking nice to see you.

Silver - sounds like you have had a day from hell to match the night you had. Sleep well lovely. xx

That's the end of my first day on the bus - feeling anxious about how my life looks without the comforting fog of alcohol, but I know that I will feel so much happier with myself when I wake up tomorrow. Onwards and upwards!

Well done hippy

I promise that it changes. Your outlook on life through sober eyes isn't that scary once you get used to it.

Night. Sleep well. x