The Brave Babes Carry On The Charabanc Trip - Leaving The Booze Behind!

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Hello and welcome!

This is thread number eight!

The Brave Babes are all at different stages of quitting the booze. Some have stopped, some are thinking about it and some are just cutting down.

They are full of support and wisdom for those of you wishing to climb aboard the Bus or Charabanc!!

The Babes aren't an exclusive club, they never judge and they don't charge for advice either!

So, come meet them. I'm Mouse, by the way, and I've been sober since August 2nd 2010, something I would never have even considered without the support of these threads.

Here are the first seven threads, if you want a bit of history.

JWN's original thread

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Thread seven

Hi Jesus things sound more settled for you at home this week.

You posted recently about not liking the smell of wine anymore. I had exactly the same experience. I was thinking about it when i posted this evening to aglass. Everything she wrote about enjoying the smell and flavour of wine is exactly what I would have said, but tonight at least, I do not think that. I think it smells sour. Maybe all that fizzy elderflower or lime and soda has changed my taste buds, maybe I was just fooling myself all along.

gettingeasier, I dont have much of a story except that I drink too much and have done, off and on for years.

Lately I have felt old and tired (more than usual) and coincidentally (or not) have been drinking more (half to one bottle most nights for a few months with some breaks)

I am also getting fat.

I have decided I need to get healthy and as part of that have stopped drinking alcohol for now. SO far so good. I dont see me giving it up totally and forever, and yes, i know the bit about one day at a time ...

JWN - OOOOOhhhh get you!! Ya fancy pants!!

Nemo is ok, had a God awful night. Up for ages and often.

My lie in tomorrow so you may not see me til noon!!!

DH gave me an eternity ring this morning , it was wrong, didn't go with my wedding and engagement rings so it has to go back. That made me sad.

And my new Jasper Conrad glasses are scratched and need to go back. So not a great day but hey, worse things happen at sea!!!

Lots of horrid things outwiegh what has happened today!!

Bed for me.

Night gorgeous Brave Babes. Another day done. WELL DONE!!!

venus - hope you are ok lovely lady. Sleep well xxx

X posted venus

I'm ok in the grand scheme of things. I'm the same re new places. Don't move my cheese, it needs to be where I can find it!!

hi venus - yes, things are so much better here right now, we have been talking A LOT, and it seems to be working, thank god!, dh is laughing a lot too, which makes my heart sing!, sounds corny, but i love him a very great deal and his happiness is very important to me! dd is settling in well at college, making new friends, going out a lot, when she is home though, we chat and spend time together - she did tell me today though about the chef at the pub where she works, apparently he is in hospital with liver and kidney failure due to his alcoholism, she MADE me listen to her, gave me all sorts of dire warnings etc, dh and i think she is still very scared that i will drink again all i can do is show her a day at a time that im serious, and hope that she can learn to relax about it a bit, i hate the thought of her worrying about it, it must feel very lonely for her at times.

dh is drinking a beer right now, im finding that beer smells fine and i enjoy an odd becks blue, but wine smells simply foul!, my mouth feels sort of fresh and clean, i dont want to spoil the feeling iyswim?

aww mouse!! an eternity ring!! what a lovley bloke!! , enjoy your lie-in!, see you tomorrow!

An eternity ring mouse how lovely.

My dp said he gave me an eternity ring already - it was my wedding ring, 'cos that is forever. It was rather a romantic thing to say, but it meant that I didn't get any new diamonds.

gingerwig good decision to be healthier. I haven't experienced any dramatic weight loss but I feel much better and I don't look puffy and blotchy.

ginger!, i have lost over a stone, my skin looks better, my hair is actually starting to feel thicker and my eyes are bright and sparkly!

im taking my beautiful new bod off to bed now! , got a busy day ahead tomorrow, dds new bf is coming for dinner , so have to put him though the 'grilling! ha ha! so goodnight lovley babes, see you in the morning!

sleep well!

getting - my ex husband was an alcoholic - he died last June at the age of 38. lesson for us all there. I am having very bad suicidal thoughts at the moment - no idea why - i just want it all to stop

Silver is there someone there with you?

Am I right in thinking that you have lost your librium tablets?

Are you drinking?

Sorry, that sounds like an inquisition, just wanting to get a picture of what is happening.

god - sorry - not going to top myself - bed instead - nite nite x

Good. Have a nice sleep.

Silver - here for you. You can get through this. And, you want to. Imagine us there with you. Just for tonight.

We'll all be with you tonight and tomorrow and keep you safe.

I'm going to email you my number.

Sleep well and keep calm. xx

Well I hope everyone is looking forward to a nice lazy Sunday. It is raining here, but I am looking forward to a nice day - my sister is coming up from London (to visit our parents) so we will have a good old chinwag.

Thanks for your support Babes - I'm OK - it was wierd just suddenly started thinking really bad thoughts last night - might have been not having the librium for a day but i have got some now - need to get off that shit if that's wahat missing a dose or two does to you - seeing GP tomorrow xxxx

mouse - I just e-mailed you again from a different address xx

Hello would like to join you ladies on here. Basically been consuming more wine than is good for me, put on too much weight, relying on booze too much to relax, now want to have a baby and need to give it up.

jesus I hope I will be posting a similar comment in a month or so. Too much vino has had a not-so-good effect on my overall look.
my main motivation is wanting to conceive, but whilst I'm not actually pregnant, I am finding it hard to not succumb to the "odd glass won't hurt" philosphy. Unfortunately 3 and 5 are odd numbers!

ginger I've been pretty much the same, sometimes a bottle three nights in a row, other nights sharing a bottle with partner. Am now a stone and a half overweight :(

morning all! - silver, nice to see you this morning! , i hope you have a better day today, be a bit kind to yourself and take it easy!, wish i could lie you on teh sofa with a nice cup of tea, a cosy throw and gentle film on the telly!, have a little doze, sleep is a great healer!

venus - have a good day with your sister!, i always wanted a sister and i have been so lucky that my brothers and my dhs brother have married such great women! we get on like a house on fire and if we all get together its a riot!

mouse - hello my lovley!, hope you had a lovely lie-in!? (dont answer if it got a bit, 'you know'! )

morning kat! - sounds like you have good motivation for stopping!, getting rid of teh extra weight will be a massive boost before you get pregnant - may i ask, is this your first? - one of my sil had to lose a huge amount of weight before conceiving, she has polysistic whasnames! , took her ages but i now have a super little niece and nephew!

have you got a plan for today?

Yeah it will be my first. I conceived accidentally earlier in the spring but unfortunately miscarried and drank quite a bit after that to "cope" with my feelings. But I can't use that excuse anymore really, need to get healthy.

Today I am going to go to the supermarket and buy the food and shopping I need for the whole week so I will have no good reason to visit my local convenience store (where they have chilled white and rose) during the week, except perhaps for a pint of milk. Then I will have healthy food in the fridge and if I stay out of Budgens, and don't have wine in the house, the temptation might be easier to avoid. The shop is unfortunately only a short walk, but will try to be strong!

Morning all.

Welcome Kat.

JWN - I got my lie in, alone, after being up all night again with my confused child! Nemo is a fish, not an OWL!!!!

I'm exhausted so am doing nothing but cooking dinner today. And having a nice hot bath later before falling into bed.

Silver - have emailed you back, glad to see you are feeling better, you had me worried last night. xx

SAF - I'm a diet coke addict which is way worse due to the aspartem (?). I can't stand full fat coke though. Too sweet for me.

Hope you are all ok today.

Thanks JWN

So deeply sorry for worrying any of you last night - a combination of the wrong things. Am taking it easy today.

Hi Kat - welcome aboard x