My DP is extremely selfish when it comes to the bedroom department to the point that I am little more than an attachment that operates her vibrator for her while she lies on her stomach and demands I talk dirty.
Very very oacassionaly this does lead to a shag however again this is on her terms and always in the missionary position.
Normally however the vibrator session leads to her in floods of tears demanding a cuddle and telling me how much she loves me and pleading with me not to leave her.
We have been together for a little over 4 years and to start with we did have proper sex, (we were at it within an hour of meeting) although looking back that was normally on her terms. At one point we were getting experimental but when she realised that she was enjoying it she put an end to that.
When we met she was married (and still technically is) to a complete pig who used to help himself on a weekly basis under the threat of a good beating. to the point she had to prove to him that she was having her period. She has subsquently with my support thrown him out and even taken out injunctions etc.
However he is still holding up the divorce proceedings and generally causing her a lot of stress.
All of which I know can affect her sex drive however my patience is beginning to run thin as the selfish attitude is all pervasive as it effects everything including me working and thus the cashflow.
We live together with 2 of her 3 children (the oldest one moved out after her GCSEs and lives with her father as she was on the verge of being thrown out due to some.... erm... challenging behaviour patterns)an everytime some work comes up for me (I am self employed) she makes it very hard for me to actually do it either faking illness or just trying to mess with my head (I hasen to add that with out going into detail that if I do a weeks work it is worth an average of 1500 - 2000 quid).
I am exhausted by all this and am rapidly beginning to think that I am too nice and remembering the old saying that "nice guys never win"
Please can someone give me some perspective here.