DH is in a league of his own and I am not happy with him at all.

[MrsBubsDeVere]

For the first time in months, I am going out at midday for lunch with my best mate, we will be having a couple of drinks and catching up and we aren't intending to rush.

I have just mentioned to dh that asda shopping is coming between 3 and 5 just in case I am not back (we have to get there, get a table wait for food and have a leisurely lunch etc) and he went mad saying I had better be back to sort asda out when it comes because there is an england game on and he wants to watch it uninterrupted.

Bearing in mind, we have two dd's, so now I will not be able to enjoy lunch as much as I could because I know if I'm not back he will be shouting and balling at the kids and bad language will be flying, but I still don't see why I have to rush back, upon thinking back I think that this is the FIRST time I have been out for lunch without the kids this year.

I am ranting now lol and repeating things, but I am so bloody angry at the minute, I can't think straight.

This isn't just about the football game though - I get the impression he's aggressive and selfish pretty much all the time.

Er... no, beety, sometimes it's not that easy.

bloody cheek, i reckon. He can watch the match, how long does it take to get the shopping in???? He'll just have to keep half an eye on the match while he sorts out the shopping. Really selfish of him. You go and enjoy your lunch he'll just have to cope. He's made me very for you but my dh would be the same.

Presumably he KNEW you were going out for lunch today. And also KNEW the match was on. So tough, he's organised it this way, he'll have to cope. Go and have your lunch and get back whenever it suits you.

When you take out all the time necessary for you "equal partner" to play golf, watch sport, work late, "network", catch up with work at home etc etc and you have no readily available family/friends/babysitters, non-schoolage children... believe me, it's not that easy. Good for you if you can organise things but not everyone is that lucky.

(personal rant!)

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There is football on today?

"But are we not equal partners in our relationships"

hahahahahahahaha! In theory, yes.

he can just take it in, refuse to have it checked when delivery people are there, turn volume up loud whilst he puts freezer stuff in so if he hears anything exciting he can rush back in. No problem at all. Don't rush back

Enjoy your lunch and do NOT rush back.

He IS being selfish.

Then shopping comes all he has to do is accept it, and put the frozen stuff int he freezer, and maybe the odd fridge stuff away that can't wait (depends on temperature). Rest can stay in bags till after his precious game. Would take 5 minutes max, probably 2.

Bet he'd expect you to do it if the roles were reversed.

It's a football game, that's all. Tough. I hate all this life should stop for a bit of sport.

Luckily I have a DH who isn't into football (do have the golf & cricket to contend with but not as often).

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God you deserve this leisurely lunch out if you ask me. Am really shocked that he does not feel capable of watching football and dealing with Asda? What an overreaction on his part!!!
But then I consider myself lucky that my sport mad PTI DH has just said yes there is an England match on tonight, you might want to get a DVD to watch (we are two hours ahead and have one TV channel here). Hope you enjoy yourself.

Hopefully Mrs BDV has now left the building!