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DH is in a league of his own and I am not happy with him at all.

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MrsBubsDeVere · 03/09/2005 10:19

For the first time in months, I am going out at midday for lunch with my best mate, we will be having a couple of drinks and catching up and we aren't intending to rush.

I have just mentioned to dh that asda shopping is coming between 3 and 5 just in case I am not back (we have to get there, get a table wait for food and have a leisurely lunch etc) and he went mad saying I had better be back to sort asda out when it comes because there is an england game on and he wants to watch it uninterrupted.

Bearing in mind, we have two dd's, so now I will not be able to enjoy lunch as much as I could because I know if I'm not back he will be shouting and balling at the kids and bad language will be flying, but I still don't see why I have to rush back, upon thinking back I think that this is the FIRST time I have been out for lunch without the kids this year.

I am ranting now lol and repeating things, but I am so bloody angry at the minute, I can't think straight.

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SoupDragon · 03/09/2005 10:29

Only time in a year, Cod. Bet her DH has had more time out than that with no thought to what it means to Mrs BdV.

Enid · 03/09/2005 10:29

think yourself lucky you are having your shopping delivered!

I am about to go and get mine with two fractious children

Bethron · 03/09/2005 10:30

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cod · 03/09/2005 10:30

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kelli22 · 03/09/2005 10:30

cod you are obv a man, 3 hours for lunch is nothing! lol

cod · 03/09/2005 10:30

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SoupDragon · 03/09/2005 10:30

What's Wednesday got to do with anything?

cod · 03/09/2005 10:31

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SoupDragon · 03/09/2005 10:31

Delievery take 10 minutes - imagine if she'd asked him to go to Asda with the kids and a shopping list.

cod · 03/09/2005 10:31

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kelli22 · 03/09/2005 10:31

i dont do my shopping on line so if it were me, he'd be going out to get the shopping nevermind taking off the bloke at the door.......

cod · 03/09/2005 10:32

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zippy539 · 03/09/2005 10:32

If this really IS an important match then something tells me that the ASDA delivery wont arrive during it...

Bethron · 03/09/2005 10:32

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cod · 03/09/2005 10:32

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serenity · 03/09/2005 10:32

Enid!

'he's already looking after the kids so you can go out to lunch'

Maybe she should offer him some babysitting money then

It's only a stupid match, so what if it's England? Is it a final...er no! I'd be fuming too Mrs BDV, and I definitely wouldn't be cutting lunchtime down.

SherlockLGJ · 03/09/2005 10:33

Zippy

So cynical, so young

cod · 03/09/2005 10:33

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SoupDragon · 03/09/2005 10:34

It's only V Wales too. Not exactly a top footballing nation are they? Argentina or Germany, the real "grudge" matches I could understand but Wales??

Go out and don't come back til after bedtime.

cod · 03/09/2005 10:34

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Chandra · 03/09/2005 10:35

Don't row about that, you don't need to spoil your lunch, if England plays more often than you go out with your best friend, tell him that if he wants you there, fine, then go and do as you please, if you finish by the time the game starts, fine, if not... well, what so bad about missing 10min of a game when he is asking you to half-cancel your day out???

munz · 03/09/2005 10:36

I think u're all being v unfair on MBDV here, I mena yes the england march is rather improtant, but so's her having time with a friend for the first time this year.

ppl shop online so they don't have the hassle of the check out/ children harrassin u to buy this that and the other (least that's why I do it online far easier and i'm too lazy) anyhow, 10 mins for them to deliver it, 10 mins for him to pack it away - he's only gotta pack away the frozen stuff and fridge bits FGS!!! (and he could do that in half time)

anyhow, if he's really not gonna compramise, either

a) meet ur bud earlier do a bit of shopping have a natter first then eat early natter some more then get home for 3,
b) do it this evening (go out ealy ie 6 is a good time yes) have a nice meal and a natter.
c) do it another day - althou next week I think crickets on.

alexsmum · 03/09/2005 10:37

I can't believe so many of you are on the man's side.he can't put the shopping away because he wants to be uninterrupted watching the football? Pathetic! What if the one of the kids hurts themselves? Is he going to say ' you'll have to wait for the end of the match before i phone the ambulance'?
The shopping might not come till 5 and the match will be over then. Or if it does come early, can't he do it at half time. Or alternatively can't he grow up and realise that no matter what he might think...it is just a game.

JoolsToo · 03/09/2005 10:37

everything stops for sport doesn't it?

I'd not go back at all if I were you!