I'm a loving Dad who needs a female perspective!

[MadDaddy]

I've just signed up to mumsnet out of shear desperation (no jokes!) - DW and I have been having some problems recently and I could do with a female point of view! Bit nervous about the response you might give me... be kind!

I love my DW endlessly and would never consider having an affair, or leaving her, but we're struggling with increasingly differing sex drives. Most of the time I can cope with it ok, but at times the lack of intimacy between us makes me feel so lonely it feels like I'm being ripped apart.

I've tried talking to her about it but it never goes well and more often than not ends up with one, or both of us, in tears.

I could sit here for hours psychoanalysing the situation but figure it'd be better for me to just try and answer your questions and comment on your ideas as and when you post them.

Please help - just feeling low.

OP -To add my voice to many - Offering women private sex advice after they have posted honestly and openly about their private feelings and issues in order to help give you clarity regarding what is going wrong in your relationship? Yeuch. I wouldn't want to either. I started off reading this thread thinking it was really useful and genuine, and at the point when I read that I started feeling more than a little bit sicky.

You may believe you have the best intentions in the world, but IMHO you are either a bit daft or a bit of a creep. My advice is: Stop getting off on trying to channel Marjorie Proops and concentrate on removing your wife from the pedestal you have put her on immediately and begin to think with your heart and not your cock. And stop congratulating yourself all the time.

*hands getorf a can of wd40

Understand your pain with teens though *sigh

I am still laughing he offered to discuss his and others sex lives in private, he couldn't have been serious...could he.

MadDaddy- Some good advice on here already. Additionally try playing some sport together/ensure that you are both physically fit.

I can relate to some of your posting: try to create other focal points in life e.g. training for a 10k run. In the end you may have to accept that libidos may not be perfectly matched....your sex drive may level off in your 40s ...in a way I am looking forward to that calmer phase of life when you kick back and accept the world as it is.

Keep up the good work at home and don't allow sex to become a relationship weapon...it will otherwise end in tears. Good luck

...sometime spending more time as a couple with friends helps...so how it helps to change the dynamic of a couple and lightens things up