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Original poster

competition........who has the worst relationship on mumsnet

69 replies

stitch · 29/08/2005 11:56

i keep reading about other peoples troubles. makes me think. but want this to be reasonably lighthearted discussion.

so come on, fess up. who has it the worst?

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dejags · 29/08/2005 12:30

mercifully not I. although there are times when I want to kill him he is faithful, loving and for the most part kind.

paolosgirl · 29/08/2005 12:37

Ditto, dejags. There are times when I really hate him, but mostly he's pretty fab and definitely my best mate.
Times I hate him:

  1. When he's refusing to accept he's wrong about something, he will bang on and on and on about it for days if necessary.
  2. When I ask him to do something, and he says "yes, no bother" then doesn't do it - then the next time I ask him to do something, he gets on his high horse and says "why do you go on - you know I'll do it if I say I will". Er, no you won't.
  3. He is the most disorganised person in the world, but will not accept that he forgot to pay the bill which is why we've bank charges. Oh no, it's always everybody elses fault
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stitch · 29/08/2005 13:10

hmphf, come on, doesnt anyone want to own up to horrible relationships?
shall i be the first? my dh wishes i was dead, then he'd get the insurance money, and have no nag in his life. but he is too honourable to do the deed . and would feel bad for his kids losing their mother.

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jampots · 29/08/2005 13:13

wow stitch - thats pretty grim.

My dh is just horrid and arrogant, and selfish and sexist.

Nightynight · 29/08/2005 13:17

me! we're ex though, does that count??

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stitch · 29/08/2005 13:17

maybe im being a bit overdramatic, in his opinion, but yes, he wishes i didnt exist.
cant blame him for being arrogant though, or sexist, except when it comes to me, so that may just be him being annoying towards me.

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stitch · 29/08/2005 13:18

nope, as you are over him, and living in bliss now! unless he is still making your life a misery. then it does count, but we need details.

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Nightynight · 30/08/2005 08:57

no, we are not yet financially divorced, so I still have to jump when he says jump unfortunately.

He can turn any situation into blaming me, and according to him, our divorce and all our problems are my fault.

misdee · 30/08/2005 09:00

i think i neglect my dh, i dont see to his every need, and i dont see him every day

nah, we get on fine, absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that shite.

Toothache · 30/08/2005 09:04

Mine has got to be up there with one of the worst at the moment. We have argued every day for the last few weeks. Sorry.... I know that this is supposed to be lighthearted so I won't go into the details.... if just know that I look at other people and see the bonds they have and I look at my DH and I just feel numb.

stressedmummy · 30/08/2005 10:15

Mine too!
I know that feeling very well toothache.

sweetkitty · 30/08/2005 10:19

Don't think we are too bad but like everyone else theres times I could happily strangle him.

My biggest gripe is he is a complete w*** when he's had too much to drink.

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stitch · 30/08/2005 10:26

toothy, i know the feeling well. sad isnt it.
but i think the worst is the mumsnetter whose husband is screwing her around financially? cant remember he r name, but she might disagree.

god, why did i start this thread. life's miseries cant be dealt with in such a way.

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Toothache · 30/08/2005 10:34

My (d)H doesn't even give me a hug unless I point out to him that I am human.... and I am female.... and I am his wife.

compo · 30/08/2005 10:35

my dh doesn't want a 2nd child because he is too selfish to turn his study into a bedroom

stressedmummy · 30/08/2005 10:37

I have even felt envious of OAP's who seem to look very together!

Toothache · 30/08/2005 10:38

My H calls me names...... sometimes in front of the kids.

stressedmummy · 30/08/2005 10:41

What kind of names?

Toothache · 30/08/2005 10:43

Whatever spills out of his mouth when we argue. Weirdo, Cow, Tit, Psycho.

stressedmummy · 30/08/2005 10:46

Nasty
I get the weirdo one a lot too.
He says I have become a weirdo since going on MN.
It is really bad to say these things in front of the kids.
You had a thread about him a while back didn't you?

Toothache · 30/08/2005 11:06

SM - I've had quite a few threads about him. He is so selfish. He seems to think that the excuse that he's "really stressed out with work" is an acceptable reason to treat his family like shit. He couldn't even cope with booking the car in for a service on his day off last week.... He went mental when I asked shouting about the fact he had had a busy day and was too stressed to phone. I had to book it in yesterday as I was on holiday. I don't even drive. Pig.

expatinscotland · 30/08/2005 11:08

Model agent Eileen Ford once gave Jerry Hall some advice the latter admitted she took on 25 years too late.

Dump bad men.

Toothache · 30/08/2005 11:22

Expat - Never that simple though is it? I'd have to stop work to look after the kids.... then I'd lose the house as I'm the main breadwinner and selfemployed so get no money for time off.

DH at the moment earns barely enough for himself to live on if he rented a flat.

Everything is in my name.... including all the debt....

My family wouldn't help me.

See, never that simple.

I'll just keep hoping that he'll become a normal husband at some point.

fuzzywuzzy · 30/08/2005 11:30

TA whilst your hoping couldn't you not slowly transfer the debt into both your names, or add dh on too. Then if things come to a head you are both liable not just you???

Nightynight · 30/08/2005 11:31

Toothache ... are you me???
sounds EXACTLY like my situation, except that we are actually divorced now. But the financial side is taking ages to sort out, and meanwhile, he's got everything and Im still handing over my salary each month.

sorry stitch - no way this thread can be light-hearted!