Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

algee, so sorry! we are right here if you decide to come back!, we have loved having you here, i think of you as one my 'invisible friends' , hope you come back in the morning, if not, just keep lurking! take care!!

Come back whenever you like. You're not proud/ stubborn or stupid, you have a disease you need to treat.

We're here for you

Mouse hope you're ok

Very quiet on here today have bored everyone silly with my interview paranoia, sorry

Hi JWN, hope you're well this evening.

Christi

I'm grand thanks, enjoying an ice cold N&L! (nothing and lemonade)

How are you feeling now?

I did do level 2 of shred. I am pretty resigned to not getting the job. I'm trying not to be too blue but I feel really disappointed. I know I shouldn't assume anything, but I knew going into it that I was the 'frontrunner' and as we know the only way is down from there! I should have managed down expectations like they do before presidential debates!

christi, i well, thank you! had a busy day, got home and layed on the bed for '10 minutes', woke up at 7.30! oops!, i expect i shall be up for hours now!

i know its easy to say, but should you not get the job, i really believe thes things happen for a reason - a better job is just waiting round the corner for you!

mouse, sounds like you are doing great!, i really enjoy an N&T these days, i actually really enjoy this being sober lark! , just been reading a thread on style and beauty, am going to sort out a few clothes for the charity shop at the weekend, i think i may need to buy some smaller sizes! i think i have a few bits that i may put on ebay, some designer jackets that just feel too big on me now, that should help fund a bit of a shopping spree!

btw - im very glad someone asked what 'shreding' is, i was totally in the dark it sounds like bloody hard work to me!

Well, I have said all I can my lovely..... Let's hope that the fat lady has lost her voice!!

I'm not giving up on you getting it!!

Glad you did a Shred.....

Shred was very hard crazy jump thrust squat things and stuff.

Mouse and JWN, I'm glad you're not giving up on me! I've had a look online and there really isn't anything else here. Have to hope something comes up. I guess I'm doubly desperate because DH has lost his job. But it's the first interviews I've had since having children. So I guess not too bad.

Right Babes.....

I'm off to do the online shop now that DS has crashed. Poor little chap has just brought his last feed back in his cot.

Ho hum!!

Hot chocolate, shop and bed.

Night xxxx

PS - Be back tomorrow for Daaay 5!!!

Hello to anyone who is still around. And special hello to algee, I am assumuing that you are still lurking, and will continue to do so, even if you are not posting. Is it more difficult for you being sober when your dh is working away, and do you think it will be any different once you move?

You are right algee, the computer fairies on here can't sort your drinking out for you, only you can do that, but please keep on posting, whatever is going on. Do you remember an afternoon when you and I were both struggling? You really helped me out that day, especially when you posted "come on venus, I'll do it if you do it" or something like that. If it hadn't of been for that post, I might have been where you are now. So thank you, it was just the right thing at the right time. Being on here and posting might be helpful to you, and it it might just be helpful to others too.

I know it is hard algee, but please don't just give in to it, I don't think that is really what you want to do. Take great care of yourself, you DO deserve it.

venus - you are a very kind lady!, your posts are always so thoughtful, i am sure they help all of us!

Jesus, "very kind lady" makes me sound older than my Mum!

hi all daaaaaay 7 all over

sorry I havent read the posts, I cant keep up

Hope everyone is well

night night

Trinity, you don't need to keep up, you just need to keep sober. Night night.

sorry venus!!, i meant it in a good way!

well done trinity, good night love!

Hey all, I did not get chance to respond after my initial post on Sunday. I'm the one who went out with the BF to a concert, but came home with another man. My behaviour has scared me to the point I know I can never drink again. Thanks for responding to this, you know you are!

The thing that bothers me is that I have memory loss of two hours, I have no idea what I did with the guy who bought me home. I think I could have kissed him, but am pretty sure it went no further [I hope.....I just don't know]..

I have a history of this. Of going out, getting drunk to the point of no return and seeming to hook onto a man, enjoying his attention. In my normal state I am not flirty, I do not think I am gods gift, I am not even interested in men other then my BF, but when I am drinking if someone speaks to me or gives me the slightest bit of attention then that is it.

In my previous relationship I had a couple of incidences where I did sleep with other men when I was drunk. The next day I would wake up and be absolutley horrified. However my BF at the time could not care less that I had been out all night, or would even ask where I had been.

But this is the first time in 3 years I have behaved like this with my new BF, and it is the last time.

The reason I gave up drinking the first half of this year was because I gave up smoking. This meant I could not drink, because those who drink and smoke know the two go together rather well!

So I guess I am classed as a binge drinker. I just don't think I am 'chemically or mentally' able to just have one drink. Once I start, I become 'living in the moment' I want to just carry on and on and on.

I can recommend lime, soda water and bitters with ice, as an alternative to alcohol. I have one every day and it is far more tastier then wine or beer honestly!

Good luck to those who are taking this day by day. You can do it.

Morning everyone daaaaaaaaaaaaaaay 13 here

Up early with the DDs, silly stayed up watching Deep Impact last night. Silly silly silly!

Mouse is your DS OK today?

This thread moves fast - lots to catch up with.

Algee - hello to you if you're lurking this morning. I so hope you are alright, please be kind to yourself today.

Trinity - your day sounds fantastically busy yesterday. Do you find it helps with the not drinking? I've been keeping very busy to distract myself, but have had to avoid the pc at night as I usually have a big glass by my side.

Today is day 5 and I feel physically better.

MIFLAW and all others who are further along - is it normal for me to be feeling as if I over reacted and don't really have a problem? I feel as if because I have done four days I can't have had a problem so could start drinking again? Although I think my mind is working against me - it's like a wheedling voice syaing "See, you can control it so why don't you treat yourself to some wine for the weekend?"

Yet I know I don't want to drink so why do I keep thinking about it? Is alcohol a mental addiction rather than physical?

To be honest, I'm not looking forward to the weekend as I can't imagine Friday night sober.

Sorry for ramblings and bringing the mood down. I just need to have some strategies in place for later!

Morning everyone. Have very little time today but just popping in to say I am fine, back on the wagon and spotty as ever hurrah!

Toclearmyhead

Try just drinking at weekends for a couple of months. If you can't keep it to weekends, then maybe think again?

There is abstinence, there is harm reduction and there is social drinking. Total abstinence is daunting. Don't tell yourself you are powerless, or it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. And if you do have a drink or two, don't beat yourself up, or worse, think that you have failed to abstain and therefore might as well get drunk.

There are lots of solutions to this issue and nobody here is pushing either AA or any other system.

Ask yourself whether or not you drink to get drunk?

Forthe - I think I do. I dressed it up as 'enjoying a drink', 'nice wine with meals' - trying to put a civilised spin on it. I have been thinking about it this week after MIFLAW's comments on Monday and every morning I would think I won't drink then every night I would sink a bottle (at least )

Thinking about drinking tonight, if I play the film through, I know that one glass would not do it. To be honest, if someone said 'Have one glass of wine' I would think 'What's the point?'. One glass does nothing for me apart from making me want to drink it faster to get to the second!

I've answered myself I think - I will not be drinking tonight!

morning everyone

iam - sounds like you are doing a really good job!

glass - that voice is totally normal, ime, it is part of the illness, not sure if i am physically addicted, did not have the dts, or need a detox programme personally (probs only a matter of time before i would have needed physical help, iyswim), but mentally, oh bloody hell, that voice can be very loud!!
last night, it called VERY loudly, i told it to 'fuck the fuck off'! i was having FAR to much fun to get pissed!
i expect miflaw can expand on what i think, he has a much longer sobriety than me!

TRINITY - A WHOLE WEEK!!!! bloody well done girl!!!! , bet you feel pleased with yourself??

christi - i love a good disaster/armogedden style film

well, i am now waiting for dd to get home, she has been out all night (again!) i shall be very pleased when she goes back to college, at least she then sticks to some kind of structure, i am fed up with cooking meals that are not eaten, doing all the washing then finding she has been home and refilled the laundry basket, being called at 3am to be told she is staying at friends, losing all my plates and glasses and finding them in her room!, (her room is a whole other rant!)dh is driving me mad in that he gets cross that she takes advantage of me, but as she is not here for him to say it too, he then rants at me about the fact (twit!) oooo who would have teenagers!!
i think that i have trodden around her very carefully because of my past behaviour, i know she appreciates the fact that i am trying so hard to stay sober, but the ugly face of teenage selfishness seems to rear its head naturally iyswim? i love her dearly, but right now she is driving me mad! i think it is quite normal though and is the same for most families, from what i hear!

JWN - think I will adopt 'fuck the fuck off' as my mantra for the weekend :o

toclear - it does seem to work! , just dont say it out loud if MIL is about!

That is very honest of you! If you drink to get drunk then having just a couple of glasses will be just frustrating.

Didn't someone start a list of 'celebs' who are teetotal? To Jennifer Lopez, I would add Richard E Grant, who had never been drunk, and was ordered by the director of Withnail and I to get drunk once, for the character. Which he did, and that was for the only time.

I may be incredibly thick, but I have just read that alcohol is carcenogenic. Is that true? That in itself is fairly compelling, please could someone confirm?

There is lots of misinformation online, please inform yourself, and question everything that you read. The plural of anecdote is not, as we all know, data!!