Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

Wasindie

'Shredding' is hell on earth, here

She is one of the fitness gurus from Biggest Loser IIRC.....

She is nails and it kills but she gets results and fast!!

Glad you had a lovely time at the park. I love fresh air and will be taking DS off to the castle to feed the ducks once his feeds have finished, one more to go before bathtime!!

I get that sun-shiny pint crave too - ice cold lager or Magners over a pint of ice. YUM!!!!!

IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!!

That's lovely that you got out to the park today. Your poor DP, I think I would still be refusing to get up never mind leave the house!

Cravings are totally insane and hit you when you least expect it. They come and go but tend to get less and less. MIFLAW would probably have a good point of view long term sobriety... Don't think any of us are there as yet ha ha!

Thanks Wasindie...... you too with the MOT!

What a lovely thing to say about DP! CAn I ask how old the twins are?

Definitely gets less over time. Most days I don't even think about drink except in the context of an AA meeting.

Also you start to see the difference between a craving (an almost physical feeling of NEED for a drink) which can be really hard to conquer and the thought of a drink ("mm, sunshine, why don't I have a pint of Stella?") which is much easier to overcome.

Hi everyone, all sounding good today. Mouse, the twins were born about the middle of thread 2, I think, so very teeny tiny still.

I am off again in a bit, going for tea with my elderly parents, so I'm in for grace before dinner, a full 3 courses, lots of politically incorrect chat, and a virtual repeat of everything they told me last time I spoke to them

MIFLAW

I think that's how I feel now that you say that. The whole, 'Mmm, Stella would be fab sat out in the sun'. But weirdly, I could just as easy ask for a J20, chock full of ice, in a tall glass with a straw.

I'd NEVER entertain that before. Pub = alcoholic drink. Always.

Also, confession time - when I got married, the music after all the signings, was the theme to the Stella advert!!! I walked out of the service to that!!

I decided that it should be Stella time as soon as we'd done!!

God, so many pointers that I didn't see!

Sounds loads of fun venus, enjoy it!!

Thanks for the definition there MIFLAW, I think I say 'craving' when I actually just mean 'would quite like'!!

OK, lovely Babes, have wonderful evenings all round. As usual, catch up tomorrow x x

Hello, still no news, they said that they liked the presentation, thought I had the right 'soft' and 'hard' skills, except weren't sure how much guidance I would need at the beginning because it is a different role from one I have done before. They thought I was charming and personable. However, they are not sure exactly how I would fit.

Reading between the lines I am wondering if there is someone with more experience in the exact role, who would be less hassle to fit the team, or whether they want to go for someone with more spark and spirit like me.

God knows.

venus

Have a lovely time. Gosh, they are tiny aren't they!!

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Christi, I'd say that was pretty fab feedback. Everything about YOU was good, your presentation, your personality. It sounds as though the only question is about whether they (are their job) are the exact match for you. And however pleased you would be to be offered the job, it wouldn't feel good in the longer term if it wasn't the right fit.

And you know if they did choose another person with more experience in the exact role, you know the boss is going to spend all their time saying I wish we'd appointed Christi .

If this is not the one for you, with good skills and good interview skills (which you must have had), you will get another job. The right job.

Bye Moomin, take care, no more trips xxx

CTS

'they are not sure exactly how I would fit in'

Ok, cynical head on here...did the recruitment consultant say that to you? Did he/she give you the above feedback?

...at the risk of annoyingly ignoring today's posts, just dashing on to ask if you're ok venus? Day one in the house without dh?

Sorry to all others, need to go.

Yes, recruitment guy said something along the lines of what kind of fit I would make with the team, how much guidance I would need at the beginning?

Mouse, maybe it wasn't guidance it was whether I would be autonomous enough from the beginning?

Do you think it's bad news Mouse?

The other guy he had put forward to the job was told a straight no. I think there was someone else from another agency though as well.

CTS I'm going to change to calling you Christi if that's ok....

Sorry for the delay, bathtime!

Anyway. Please do not take the following as 'this IS what's happened' just possibles IME.

1. The candidate put forward from the other agency, has been offered the job and they are waiting on a decision. You are 'being kept warm' until they know. And will then be offered should they decline.

2. As it was a panel interview, they need to go over any potential creases to be ironed out, ie training you, if you can hit the ground running, how you'd fit into the current dynamic.....etc etc.

3. The recruitment guy has no real idea and is just trying to keep you sweet until he does.

The reason I say this (3) is that his feedback seems a bit 'build you up/knock you down' - gives you a positive, then a negative.

4. Someone on the panel may have a few questions regarding your experience/personality/approach/? and they may need to talk to other people about this.

OR - my favourite......

5. They love you and are arranging a training programme, drawing up a contract, requesting a medical/refs etc!!

It's not a straight no. THAT IS WHAT YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON!!!!

Please don't assume that I'm right about any of it..... I've no idea who the agency is so can't comment on their service to you, this is just what I have experienced.

Are you ok? xx

mouse you're good.

I think that genuinely (3) is unlikely, as the recruitment guy knows them quite well, and I do believe his feedback.

Maybe it is (1), oh dear. That makes the most sense doesn't it. Maybe other candidate will consider over the weekend and I'll have to sweat it out for that long.

(2) or (4) are pretty strong possibilities

If it were (5) I'm sure they would just have said yes today.

It's not a straight no as you say, I just feel pretty down about it. I really really worked for it and there are very very few other jobs out there in this field where we live. And I don't want to move. And other people manage to get jobs and despite my work and seemingly doing well at interview I didn't manage to nail it. Fucking depressed actually. The third interview was FOUR WEEKS after the second one because each of the panel was away during July so I waited a really long time for this.

OH and mouse I got a phone call 90 minutes after my first interview saying they loved me, that they wanted to expedite the process of hiring me, were worried I'd get poached by someone else... la di dah di dah... I must have not come across as well in that third interview, hey.

Woah!! Hold the phone......

This is your third interview? Why didn't I know this, did you tell me? Sorry!!

Right, forget points 2, 3 and 4.

Keep 1 and 5.

I guess it's between the two of you. When did your chap say he'd know more? Can you ask him outright if it is just you two?

Oh babe, it's bloody hard for you. I wish I could hug you!! I always hate when it drags on for weeks on end, it's so hard to keep candidates motivated!!

Stay positive. Yes, easy for me to say, this isn't my life. I think that if it was a 'no' you'd know by now, if they had major reservations, you'd know that too........

I am going to keep EVERYTHING crossed for you lovely!! Please, keep posting! I'm here for any ranting you need to let out!! xx

The first interview was a one-to-one, the second was a 90 minute personality test over the phone, and then this third one was the panel. So I guess if the panel had concerns that could bring 2 and 4 back into play

I did ask agency guy outright he says he doesn't know what the timeline is and he doesn't know if it's just me left in the running. Why would HR give me such specific feedback on a question I answered - something about reassuring a client to stay invested despite poor performance. As well as the other points I said above.

Really sorry to everyone else for this major hijack. Very very boring for you. But I feel like crying.

At least I don't feel like drinking.

How is everyone else doing?

Rather nervous about moving on to level 2 of the shred which is what I am meant to be doing now.

Go and Shred but do level 1 so you can kick Jillian's ass, get in the shower, stick the kettle on, grab something sweet to eat and read or watch rubbish tv.

Tomorrow is a whole new day! xx

drinking. Beeen drinking since 3.45, classic danger time. I was pretending that lovely online people could help. You have...but I need real flesh and blood help. I konw that, though I know that I probably won't ask. Too proud/stubborn/stupid. Whatever,it's down to me not you to navigate me through this. Thank you though...my 5 weeks of lurking after JWN posted initially helped in that I was following without contributing, but then I mangaged 3 weeks without drink! Best I lurk again for a while...I'm too paranoid for this online malarkey anyway!
Love to you all, look how much better my typing is when I'm drunk!
Sorry.
Love to you all...'xpect I'll come back all shamefaced tomorrow, but scared of becoming addicted to my computer fairies...wish you lived in my loft!

algee

Sweetheart.

I have no words of wisdom for you.

Take good care and come back when you're ready.

We'll be here.

xx