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Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Mouseface · 30/07/2010 23:47

Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

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MoominMags · 06/08/2010 09:35

Good morning all,

algee - lurk or post just keep around and keep reading. Maybe you could try some more AA meetings? I know that you found them hard/ weird but it would definitely help if you attend. Come back when you are ready but I will miss you!!

iam - some of what you were saying with the flirting etc could have been written by me! During my last binge I have some missing time and I was definitely with some random bloke - who brought me home. How similar to your story?! I cannot be 100% sure what happened but to say DH was unhappy is a total understatement. It's only now, 6 weeks on, that things are starting to be normal with us. I feel sick when I think about it.

Good morning to mouse, trinity, venus, JWN, toclear, forthe, MIFLAW, christi, cat, glass and wasindie. Special hellos to those who have not been seen for a while. Kate, are you ok? chinkof, wrinkly, frank, gloup, ido, lightbulb, hazel, notwoozy etc etc. I know there are many others - thinking of you all! (Sorry if I have missed anyone - I haven't as yet created an alky spreadsheet, ha!) x

TrinityRhino · 06/08/2010 09:35

daaaaay 8 Grin
morning all
be back later

Fortheverylasttime · 06/08/2010 09:38

This website is work a look. I know 2 people who have given up smoking on his advice, not sure how it works but it has worked for 2 rl people I know re smoking.www.peele.net/

MissPerrier · 06/08/2010 09:42

Hi I posted way back on the first thread> Thanks to you lovely computer fairies it will be three weeks for me tomorrow. So much of what you guys say, could be me talking! (though mainly to myself).
JWN I love 'fuck the fuck off" have been tempted to use it for all sorts of things, not all alcohol related!! Re Teenagers I have 2 DS's their bedrooms are definitely enviromental hazard areas, and should have yellow tape across the door and warning signs! Thank you for starting this whole thing off, I think it will have touched a lot of people.

venusandmars · 06/08/2010 09:49

JWN, Oh yes teenagers! DD2 has not yet grasped that laying in her bed until lunch-time then getting up to watch 5 episodes of Come Dine With Me is not a very good strategy for getting a job.

Clear-head, read any of the posts on here from people who have been sober 6 months, 11 months, 6 weeks, 7 days, 2 days, whatever.. and you will see that if they have given in to the voice that says "oh go on", the result is not pretty. They get pissed, feel crap, feel remourseful, feel guilty, feel hungover, realise once again the awfulness of being an alcoholic who ccan not seem to drink in moderation.

Don't worry now about not drinking at the weekend, concentrate on how good you feel today, now. And as others have said, if you want a drink, go right ahead, and see what happens.

One of my favourite ways of fooling myself was to not drink for a couple of days (so I KNEW I wasn't an alcoholic), then have just one drink. After that one drink, I knew I was fine, and could have stopped if I'd wanted to, so it was OK for me to have another. After the second glass, I felt fine, and could have stopped easily if I'd wanted to, so I gave myself permission to have another drink. And so on until the end of the bottle, when I'd be saying, Oh no, I have a problem, I can't stop, I want another one. I NEVER chose to stop after just one drink (even though of course I could have, if I'd wanted to Hmm).

Have a good day everyone. See you later.

MoominMags · 06/08/2010 09:49

Hello MissP! Well done on the 3 weeks! Have you got any tactics or strategies you can share with anyone who's struggling? (You must have escaped my notice on the first thread, I will add you to my mental spreadsheet Grin )

MoominMags · 06/08/2010 09:50

Morning venus, I think you described so many of us (if not all of us!) with that description!

Mouseface · 06/08/2010 09:58

Morning Babes!!

Iam - hello, hope you are well!

Christi - DS is the same, it's part of his conditions. And BTW 13 (as in the number of dry days) is NOT unlucky for you!! Fingers crossed for some news on the interview. xx

venus - you are wonderful.

JWN - my mantra, which has been banded about on other threads, is 'fuck the fuck off you fuckity fucker' far more extreme and to be used with caution!! Grin

Toclear - yes, re the thoughts of 'I don't have a problem' I'm on day 5 but last night I thought, 'one drink won't hurt', and then 'Oh but it will Mouseface, yes it will'!!

Trinity - yay for a week!! Well done.

Glass - the wagon always has room for one more, budge up Babes!!

Forthe - hello, hope you are ok too.

Moomin - morning.....what does your day hold? Busy at work?

algee - here if you need us, no judgy pants worn here! xx

I'm on day 5 today and feeling fab. But tired after another rough night with DS.

Sending strength to those who need it.......keep on keeping on!!!

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Mouseface · 06/08/2010 10:00

Sorry, missed out MissP - hello! Well done on 3 weeks, that's fab!!

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jesuswhatnext · 06/08/2010 10:02

morning moomin!, do get on with the 'alkie spreadsheet' my poor old brain needs some help remembering all the fairies names! Grin

morning to you missp! well done on your 3 weeks!

venus - i think we must have cloned dds! Grin (its a good job we have no idea what those beautiful little babies turn into! dont tell wasindie! Grin)

Toclearmyhead · 06/08/2010 10:03

Yes moomin - alky spreadsheet would be most helpful for my frazzled head! :o

jesuswhatnext · 06/08/2010 10:04

yes - algee, if you about come and say hello!, would be lovley to hear from you!

jesuswhatnext · 06/08/2010 10:05

morning mouse!!

venusandmars · 06/08/2010 10:08

Algee, if you don't feel up to saying hello, just come and say "urghh I feel really crap" Wink. Seriously though, we're thinking of you out there.

jesuswhatnext · 06/08/2010 10:12

venus - what are planning on cooking this weekend? i have some rather lovley homemade chicken stock to use up, am looking for a bit of inspiration, getting fed up of using it for soup!

MoominMags · 06/08/2010 10:12

I just hate the thought that someone new will post and none of us notice or we come across as really cliquey bitches! WE'RE NOT!!

I went to a meeting last night - and it was AWFUL. Ugh. It wouldn't have been so bad but as well as going with my returning friend we took a newcomer with us - she was totally bewildered and we spent the whole journey home trying to undo the damage done. As with any group of people you get extremists/ fundamentalists and the main sharer was one of these guys (AA nazis I sometimes call them!) Hopefully she won't be put off for life!

MissPerrier · 06/08/2010 10:25

Im a bit nervous about joining in, think its talking to lots of people I can't see all at once. Also you have all become weirdly familiar and famous to me,so actually joining in is daunting. That'll teach me to lurk!
Venus What is it about teenagers and Come Dine With Me. my oldest DS watches them, one after the other.
Moomin A strategy I find helps comes from MIFLAW's play the whole scene through, I find I fast foreword to the hideous hangover. Now if I see a big beautifully photographed glass of wine, I immediately associate it with headache, nausea, puffy faced misery!
Hello eveyone else Blush

jesuswhatnext · 06/08/2010 10:26

moomin - i have only ever sat in one 'bad' meeting, it too was so awful, mainly because the main sharer was nasty selfish and unpleasant. it didnt put me off going again htough, i figure you get arseholes in every walk of life.

us, cliquey bitches, no way!! come one come all!! i say!!, i find that the more experiences i hear, the more it helps my own sobriety.

Mouseface · 06/08/2010 10:28

Moomin

Your poor newcomer! Talk about in at the deep end! I'm sure you'll have defused the situation with your kindness and words of wisdom.

I agree that we need a list of some sort, I have a written list of names for the last 2 threads..... somewhere!

I wrote everyone down before I posted this morning and still managed to miss off MissP!! Shock

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jesuswhatnext · 06/08/2010 10:28

missp - my dd likes come dine with me aswell, i wouldn't mind if it inspired her to do bit of cooking!, it just brings on wails of 'im hungrey' Angry

MissPerrier · 06/08/2010 10:32

Actually add to that lethargy,bad breath foul temper, carb binging, deep regret and generally feelin like a f*ked up forty something who should know better!
Phew! I think ive popped my MN cherry, never posted before now.xx

MoominMags · 06/08/2010 10:36

MissP - post away! All welcome! Great strategy re the hangover, MIFLAW will be pleased Smile

JWN - I think we managed to get across to her that the meeting was not your 'usual' meeting. Everyone was so low afterwards! Off to my home group tonight - unfortunately the newcomer can't make this one. But I will feel better!

MoominMags · 06/08/2010 10:37

"Actually add to that lethargy,bad breath foul temper, carb binging, deep regret and generally feelin like a f*ked up forty something who should know better!"

Change that to 30-something and you are describing me after a night on the booze, ha ha!

MoominMags · 06/08/2010 10:39

And thank you mouse for saying that I am kind and wise! Aw shucks Blush

Mouseface · 06/08/2010 10:41

I heart CDWM - Dave Lamb is genius!

I could watch it all day if CBeebies didn't pull rank!! Grin

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