ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 6

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Cant survive 5 minutes without this thread

baby wipes also do a good job patience

hope you are ok starting give your ds a biiiiigg huuuuggg

hope everyone is doing ok.

My excitement about my haircut is disproportionate for the actual event

it is all autumnal here today ...... love autumn it is my fave season

Morning all, Hope everyones feeling good and positive today, we wont let the ba**ds beat us down

Morning all. Too bl** right Sov.

AB please feel to email me a photo . No pressure.

Teflon, baby wipes are great . Actually, I've v excited about your haircut too & it's not even my hair . Perhaps, I'll get a copy of photo

Soverign, that should be our new motto............."we wont let the ba**ds beat us down"

Happy, big waves.....

Well ds woke me up with cuddles & looking to get his new book I confiscated y'day as a punishment back . Book was returned & promised of good behaviour, we're having a ds day so I'm off to an open farm for the day......

Waves to all.....

bluerghhhh

having a rubbish night ... thinking about what it will be like when i have to move out of the home that both my children were born in

, horrible to have to do that AB, but this too will pass. When you move you will move away from some bad memories too also and onto some new good ones.

PMSL at 'Norm' poor sod

" " Willingandable.....in his dreams

Teflon......it will be sad but can I suggest that every few days you casually go round taking photos of your house, the kid's rooms,

garden, front door, kitchen, etc and put them in an album. I don't mean it in a morbid deppressing way. It'll just be lovely to have

all the memories to look at.

Every few months I take pictures of my DCs bedrooms because, especially DD because she's always rearranging it. The other day I bought her a little album and filled it with pictures of her room from the last year, plus Easter, xmas, flowers in the garden in spring etc.I even took photos of the xmas dinner I made in all it's splender on the cooker. I was so proud of myself. She was so pleased with it.

Photo albums are so precious.

Wonderful idea Pink you are so clever !Will do a whole album of wee house b4 we go .No further forward re moving dates or places to go but sure it will all work out.Sorted business premises today ,cant believe it ,in definate shock now

i don't understand why it has hit me so much tonight. it is after all just a building, just bricks and mortar. i am taking the most precious things with me to the new house and they are the dcs.

the house embodies my dreams, i always wanted to have a happy family and i suppose the sale now makes everything so very very real.

Tef I know exactly what you mean ,had a bit of a dip today thinking of how i loved my life b4.Went another amazing walk in the forestry ,spoke to a RL friend for an hour on the phone {never do that since dcs}Went to view premises then more number stuff tonight ,just home ,very emotional time of new beginings just now for me and letting go of the old,all i can say is sit and feel your emotions ,dont hide them ,have a weep and a cup of tea ,good things ahead for you,if its a huge haircut chop for you wait til next week when you feel more yourself ,i wouldnt do anything radical if your a bit wobbily ,if its meant to be you will still do it next weekend .Think I have to look on my life as an adventure just now ,I'm scared shitless but seem to gain strength from that

Fantastic news about business premises Patience !

Very EXITING

Thanks Pink,very low key, but it will be mine ,just need to find a house now x

will take your advice pink and take photos of the dcs rooms and keep them somewhere safe.

great news patience on the business premises - wishing the very very best of luck. nerves are a good thing it is just your subconscious making sure you do things to the very best of your ability.

Will remember that Tef hope your feeling a bit more relaxed ,need to eat a proper meal tomorrow feeling a bit whacked tonite,take care everyone x

morning all

feel back to normal again this morning - i think i am hormonal tbh (that time of the month)

chin up ....tits out.....

I keep getting that too Teflon. Great one day, really low the next. I'm good today too, but then I could 'drop' for a few hours this afternoon and then be ok a few hours later.

That's when "this too shall pass" is so helpful.

Does anyone know how Kitty is ???

And Getting....you ok ?

It rained so hard last night but now everything looks lovely and sunny and shiney.

Hope we all have a lovely day x

Teflon, the ups & downs are all part of it. Glad you're feeling better today.

Patience, that's fab news, way to go dumpling!

Pink, I used to swing up & down too. Love that shiney newness after the rain . Any mention of Kitty needs to be off of thread

Oh ok.

Certainly know about ups and downs, was having a great day up until XP calls to say he cant make the visit today GRRR, i cut him short with a "fine, call tomorrow and let me know when ur coming" had to hang up or i'd have screamed
It's DS3 birthday tomorrow and i had planned to use the time they were with XP to go get pressies now im going to have to take them all with me
Why is it fine for them to do whatever they like but we cant, in the words of my inner child "it's not fair!!"

Rant over, hi everyone hope ur all ok

Well done on getting off the phone quickly Sov.I can truly say no my most stressful times are all when i have to deal with X ,still feel like my heart is ripped out each time.Anyway not seen him for nearly x2 weeks nor spoken to him when he calls dcs .Tai chi again this morning and feeling better for it ,waves to getting and lc x

sov - someone has to be the grown up and step up and it is us lot in our cases. The thing that riles me is that the men in our situation expect this to be the case.

It is not fine for them to do this of course. If we make them think we are ok with them chopping and changing arrangements then they will continue to do so, you are therefore right to set your firm boundaries.

summer is over it seems in my part of the world - it is cloudy and blustery.

we have all the lamps on and it is lovely and cosy in the house - could do with one of your lovely candles now patience. btw you know those dowe and egbert (sp) coffee jars with glass lids ? Well aren't they just like the Yankee candle jars, I am starting to save them and will get a candle kit and make some scented candles for xmas.

LC - are you ok?

waves to all.

Hello all. Sorry I've been AWOL. Been looking for a holiday. Looks like XP will be coming with us. We're not reconciled by a long stretch but we're going to have this holiday to see if there's anything left between us or as a last family holiday together - make or break, I suppose. IF we get on ok and IF we both agree we will take it from there. The plan is that he will get a flat when we get back and we will take it slowly, slowly, very slowly. Unfortunately, I'm not a slowly, slowly type of person. I am impetuous and impatient but I am realising that this can't be hurried whichever way it goes. 7 weeks on now and I'm feeling so tired of it all.

Hope you are all ok. Can't believe the turn-around in you, Soverign. Just like armbow. Such strength in all your posts. This thread does good things to people. Chins up, tits out.

LC !!!!

this thread does do good things to people - wishing you the best of luck in the world on this one. If its meant to be all will be well. xxxxxxx keep us posted won't you?

keep the strength

Thanks armbow. I really do wonder how people in our position coped before there was this sort of support. My rl friends are great but they are not going through this right now whereas everyone on this thread truly understands what it is like in these moments of anguish and confusion.

Goodness, I sound down but I'm not really. Just tired. Looking forward to the holiday and we are going to plan lots of time on our own. Don't want to be had up for murder abroad! Nice for ds if we can have a civilised fortnight together too.