Old Bags No More - The Brave Babes & the Battle with the Booze

[MoominMags]

Well, here we go ladies (and MIFLAW)! The new thread to follow on from JWN's 'me and alcohol have ruined my family'. I hope no one minds that I decided to go with 'brave'? I just think that it describes us!

As a quick recap, I am 33 and on day 22 of sobriety (on this occasion!)

PS not fattist just 'ist' against fat lecturing nurses!!! Thought I'd just clarify...now being a stone over

algee - I was just the same as you about doc's. I got over that (didn't have much choice as my poor dm - at the end of her tether - dragged me to my doctor when I was pissed and again!) Anyway, my doctor has been amazing, she knows about AA and is very interested in it. I got everything tested and although my liver function test was normal the gamma thingy test was outside the normal range. I always feared that my liver was about to pack up. It's now back to totally normal! It didn't take long either.

I totally understand feeling weird about it though.

venus - I too have tried a local alchol service ,went to loads of appointments .I found it really tough and though I " got on " with the first counsellor I saw ,she moved and I didn't manage well with the next .
And the next step was to be sitting chatting with other attendees in a group.
But ," ducks and dons tin helmet " I wanted to talk to people who had things ,other than the alchol ,in common with me .

katerum - where are you ,hoping you're ok .
Apolgies to other people , best wishes to all ,just tricky to remember all.
Must take notes .

Ha algee, sometimes when I post things on here that have details of my own life recognisable to others, I half expect the next post to be a big "Ha VENUSANDMARS, we knew it was you!"

Now I too must go and do some more work - I've been doing it in 20 minutes slots and I need to focus a bit more or I'll be in trouble with the real world.

Mouse

In a weird way, he's just another reason to stop altogether.

all the time you are drinking, he will be unable to 2see2 any difference. You are drinking moderately; he (in his head) is drinking moderately. What could be more civil and convivial than to offer you a top-up?

Whereas, if you are not drinking at all, there will be a very clear difference. He won't like it, and will probably still offer you a drink - but the offer will then look like what it is, which is a desperate need for a partner in crime, whatever the cost to that partner.

"see"

Hi,

I dodn't want my negative posting about my experience on an alkie forum to put people off looking at something that might help, so I've been having a bit of a look on the wonderful interweb thingy for alkie forums that might be useful.

There is a forum here that includers an "SOS Post here if you need help topic". It all looks pretty active, so maybe if no-one is around on this thread, then that is another option. The site is run by brighteye counselling who offer online alcohol couselling for £32 a session. Their main site www.brighteyecounselling.co.uk have some good factsheets and information including interesting stuff on coping with alcohol cravings.

One of the posters suggested this site as a distraction from having a drink. It is an online jigsaw site. I did a couple and I think it could be addictive Certainly not helping me to get on with my work.

morning all

daaaaay 7

no alcohol today

keep going everyone

Hi everyone. And happy anniverasry mouse.
Thanks to all of you I managed my first day without drinking yeterday. Fuck it was tough.
I did cheat a little though. I started feeling very uptight and anxious at @ 7pm so I took a valium and that chilled me out.

Not going to do that today.

Well done for all staying sober for so long. It seems such a long way way for me at the moment.

Hi Trin, well done you you - almost a whole week.

Hi cat. I hope you feel proud of yourself, it's quite an achievement to win that battle.

Ha ha venus, you did not manage to stay away for long I am exactly the same with this thread!

trinity - well done on day 7!

cat - I have heard people say at meetings that we are all just sober for one day. The person who got up the earliest has been sober the longest! Yes, some of us have strung a length of time together but it's a temporary reprieve, one day at a time. You made it through the first day. Bloody well done, so pleased for you. Onwards and upwards!

Hello Trinity, hello cat...well done both. Cat if it can be of any consolation, today is day 21 for me, and I still find most days difficult though it is getting easier (if 'easy' is really an appropriate concept) One day at a time...

Well done to you too algee! Day 21 is no mean achievement. It does get easier in general but then there are just days where it's so bloody hard. I think sometimes we just have to remember that although it's hard and shit and boring and unfair at that moment it will get better. (This too shall pass...)

No doubt MIFLAW will be along to kick my ass - "No matter how shit it is it would be more shit if you were drinking. What's more boring than being a pisshead?" or similar! (But better put than me!)

Three weeks. I can't believe it really...I NEVER expected to be here when I first posted...

Yet, here you are. Fantastic!

kick your arse? Whatever for? Not only is it not my place, but you're doing great.

The only thing I would say is that, because we drink to escape from life, we tend to forget that life sometimes IS boring, shit, hard and unfair. Now we have chosen to live it, rather than run away from it (in some sad cases, of course, permanently), that side of things is par for the course.

That's kind of what I meant MIFLAW - I certainly need my backside kicking now and then to remind me that life can be negative and boring and dull and I can't expect it to be all shiny and happy all the time. And it's no reason to drink!

How is everyone this afternoon?

Hello.

Christ my physio was hard today. My pelvis is killing me.

Keeping busy by reading JWN OP still.

Hi mouse,

That sounds horribly painful for you. Is this an ongoing situation? (Sorry if this is something you have talked about before or I have missed a post on this thread.)

Glad you are being kept busy with the OP!

Moomin

This stems from severe SPD when I was pg with DS (now 15m) and in simple terms, my pelvis, hips and legs are weak. My pelvic halves aren't in-line so they are trying to force them into the right position. And my sacroliac (sp?) joint is wonkey too!!

I'm always bad for a few days after physio but I had a fall at the weekend - not drink related - and landed hard, face first. This is my third fall in as many months. Really not drink related although I'm sure that might be hard to believe.

My legs just don't work some days. I'm on crutches a lot and am officially classed as disabled as I can't walk far unaided, sit or stand for long either. Car journeys are hell!

Whinge over, sorry, back to a coffee and the JWN thread.

How are you MM?

Hi ladies,

Just to wish you all a very nice and safe evening.

Thanks for all the support again today. As always I look forward to catching up in the morning!

Sorry mouse, just cross posted! I am OK thanks. Well, I am actually a bit pissed off with my dh. He is a heavy drinker and not especially supportive of me at times(although he sees that I am an alcoholic and cannot drink) and he's gone to the pub and taken money from the joint account to pay for it as he doesn't have any and GRRRRR. We don't have much money! Makes me so mad at times.

Anyway, sorry to hear about your troubles. I have no experience of what you are talking about but it sounds scary with the falling. (I know what SPD is though.) It must be very difficult for you. I wish I could offer some words of wisdom x

Mouse that sounds awfully harsh, hope the pain eases a little once a few hours are between you and the appointment.

Moomin, thank you for today. Bearing in mind i was queen wuss this morning, feeling ok now and it's and hour and a half past my danger time. Thank you. Don't kick dh arse too hard, you might bruise your foot!!

See you tomorrow...