Old Bags No More - The Brave Babes & the Battle with the Booze

[MoominMags]

Well, here we go ladies (and MIFLAW)! The new thread to follow on from JWN's 'me and alcohol have ruined my family'. I hope no one minds that I decided to go with 'brave'? I just think that it describes us!

As a quick recap, I am 33 and on day 22 of sobriety (on this occasion!)

oh, so you like diet coke then

I'm thinking that maybe, just maybe, I have an addictive personality! (Just popping out for a fag!)

I drink V8 juice - it is so good with a wee touch of lee & perins, that it could almost be a bloody mary.

Now I am drinking herbal tea (cherry and cinnamon flvour). Goes very well with a kit-kat.

Glad to hear you managed not to pick up a drink moomin (apart from perhaps a diet coke).

Hope everything is going well for Wasindie.

Yes, I have indeed enjoyed a diet coke or 10 today. God, I just can't do anything by halves can I??! Your drink suggestion sounds good venus. The KitKat sounds very good!

Yes, I wonder how things are for wasindie and dp!

Think I will head off to bed soon... Thank God it's Friday tomorrow!

just virtually spent £400 filling my baskets on-line!

better go to bed before i buy something

night night

i like slimline tonic, with cranberry, or pomegrante, or a squeeze of lime - has to be icy cold! right now am drinking a cup of pg tips tea, weak, with one!

glad you didn't pick up moomin! well done you!!

having a bit of a stressful evening, dd has been out with a friend all day, and is now stranded on a broken down train with very minimal phone signal - i have been worried for the past couple of hours as she was not answering, she has finally found a spot where the phone works and tells us that the train will be towed to a remote country station where they will all be put on a bus, so am expecting to go and meet her very late from the main station. oh the joys of owning a teenager!

i have had a really good day, am feeling very positive, yoga was great, i enjoy it so much, i have always had trouble with a, my back, and b, relaxing - so im finding it is good for both.

wonder is wasindie is a mum yet?

hope everyone else is ok?

hmmm - now i fancy a kitkat!

I have had a caramel rocky - it was yum!

JWN - at least you are sober and are therefore able to go get dd! (Glad she's OK.)

yes moomin! i thought that too! before now i would have been nagging dh to not drink so that he could go, or i would be paying a taxi fare once she got here! (as im quite certain she will have spent-up today!)

that is one of the very shaming things i now have to face - i have to admit that i have put my drinking ahead of dds safety - i makes me feel physically sick to think what a selfish, irresponsible bitch i have been! thank god dh has more moral fibre than me, or i dread to think what could have happened over the years!

anyway - i am off to bed now, dh has been playing football this evening so is really wired, he couldn't sleep if he tried, so he is going for dd - what a lovely man!, im dead on my feet tonight. i have noticed that i am doing soooo much more in the office now, im a regular powerhouse! , i almost feel like i did 20 years ago in that i have my enthusiasim back for business, i like the thril of it all again!

Hi peeps

love the new title

My friend is now waiting for internet connection, she really is a technophobe,i think i will drive down there (400 miles) soon and spend a day showing her whats what. Her dh has his own laptop for work but doesnt bring it home

Was wondering, going to weddings, nights out and so on sober, do they seem less fun? I mentioned before i seldom drink due to meds, but noticed i sort of found my friends nights out a bit dull and now prefer a movie, show or dinner than a pubby night. Does that happen to you? Do you find the pub culture a bit boring sober?

Didnt express myself very well there. What i mean is, i dont know if i ever had as much fun drunk as i thought i did. I think my social life and the people in it was uninspiring and that i drank to liven it up/make it feel more fun.

which is a bit tragic when you think about it.I'm surprised at how much nicer life feels with no high jinks/deep shame( i called who?,,, I said WHAT?

Morning everyone,

JWN - at least you are now able to see what you nearly lost through the drink and you can put it right. It's horrible to remember but all you can do now is do your best to ensure it doesn't happen again.

rupert - I get bored if I go to the pub now. I have a certain limited tolerance for a couple of soft drinks (diet coke!) but then I just want to go home. I don't mind people being a bit drunk for a short while but then it becomes tedious! Which I am aware is incredibly hypocritical! I would rather go for a nice meal and then go home and read a good book! I do like looking around me though and thinking (smugly), 'Thank God I won't have a hangover tomorrow - unlike half of these people! Ha ha!'

Hope we all have a good day. (Hope we hear from wasindie too!)

Morning everyone, how are we all doing. Have we seen curryeater over on this new thread? Let us know how things are going.

My lovely sister is coming to stay this weekend and I am really looking forward to a weekend of shopping, eating and gossiping. But I spoke to her about 3 weeks ago on the phone and we made lots of plans for the weekend - unfortunately that was before I'd been sober, and now I can't remember all the plans and I know that I must have been really slurred on the phone .

I have been feeling so much healthier and I thought I'd lost weight so I was a bit disappointed to find that I haven't. I really thought that with the amount I'd been drinking previously, there would have been a big difference. Must be all those kit-kats - ha!

Important thing now is not to get dispondent and think that if I'm not going to lose weight I might as well have a drink. Don't panic, I am not really thinking that in a serious way, but the devilish alcoholic in me did put that thought into my brain. Anyway, I am going to go for a swim instead, a much more positive thing to do. And I know that I am looking better and healthier than I did 3 weeks ago, so that is nice. MIFLAW will probably come along and tell me to deal with one thing at a time, i.e. concentrate on being sober for now, but it would have been a boost if I'd been able to see another sign of progress. Ah well, maybe in another couple of weeks.

Hope all is well with indie, her dp, and her dts. (not the kind of dts an alkie usually has )

You are funny venus! Nearly laughing at my desk - would be interesting to explain, 'Yes, I was laughing about alkies have the DTs, ha ha.'

curry - where are you? Everything OK?

Can't wait to hear about the babies! (Am guessing we are quite far down the list of people wasindie and dp have to contact and all that... but still!)

Don't worry about the weight loss - it will come and, as you said, you will already be looking loads better. Clearer skin, shinier hair, brighter eyes etc.

And I can't believe how far the 'housekeeping' money goes

I keep thinking, Oh I should probably go to the cashline, but when I look in my purse there is still money in there. God I was spending a fortune.

I know exactly what you mean about cash! It's great! Another happy by-product of stopping.

morning everyone, nice to see you all so cheerful!

venus - in the last 6 weeks (nearly 7 ) i think i have lost about 9lbs, it has been fairly gradual but i look sooo much better its not true! my eyes are bright and clear, skin lovley and fresh, my teeth are becoming lovley and white (i have been using blanx) no more red wine stains and i sort of look less bloated iyswim? aal good stuff in my book!

my purse is fuller longer aswell!

as for nights out, i have been to several parties, a couple of dinner parties and lots of meals out - i can honestly say i have had more fun than i did when i was drinking! im very lucky that my friends tend not to drink huge amounts, although they all have a bit of a 'blow-out' now and again (thats the difference between us, i did it all the time)
if anything its my side of the family i have avoided a bit, all heavy drinkers, and although supportive of me i find it quite difficult to be in their company atm.

so, today i am going to meeting at lunchtime, then back home this afternoon - i have my bf and family coming over on saturday for a meal, so there will be 9 of us inc 2 boyfriends, so i have to make some cakes and stuff to help fill them up!, feeding teenage boys comes as a bit of a shock after weight conscious girls!

love to all, back later!

I have just been flicking through other threads this morning and bloody hell, there are are so many threads at any one time about alcohol and the problems it causes. It's mental. I am just so grateful that I have admitted that I have a serious problem and that I am trying to deal with it. At least denial is a thing of the past.

That's it. Mini-rant over!

Jesuswhat, some of my family are alkies heavy drinkers too, we went to the pub my first sober weekend, and i had becks blue (0.05%) so i still felt part of it, having a beer, but not an alcoholic one?

I too have noticed my skin looking better, last month i had coldsores and red patches

And manys the time ive made arrangements and dont know what exactly

All power to us, and will check back later

Hello lovely computer fairies... small window of internet access, sort of flicked through, seen a couple of new faces, hello!...but most of all, saw wasindies post...hope that when I manage to get back on, there will besome happy news!

Liking the new thread title. I'm missing access to you all, but still sober. Day 7 yesterday. Had a bit of a moment, you know, "ah well that's it then, I've proved I'm not an alchie, just a small one to celebrate, then I'll moderate" but I thought of you all and the things I've confessed or half confessed, and resisted. Really glad now that I watched the thread for as long as i did before posting, 'cos I can't even tell myself that I jumped in on a whim. God it's any excuse isn't it, but loning the odaat mantra.

Long dh chats. Think he's 'concerned' that we won't be able to enjoy a sociable drink ever again, but I said I was just taking it one day at a time. He's even noticed my better humour and receding eye bags.

Meeting new mums at dd new school and finding myself thinking about how I won't feel the need to cover my mouth when I speak to them...

Gosh long post. Really missing you but glad to be able to check in even if only to ground myself. Week two underway. Going to do my usual of posting without reading, hope it makes some sense.

Love to you all lovely sober computer fairies, see you in few days

Hiya algee! Great to hear from you. And well done - for reaching day 7 and for getting through your wobble! I had a bit of a wobble myself yesterday but managed to get past it. Thank goodness.

We miss you lots too! Can't wait for wasindie's update (for the 54,000th time )

curry - are you out there??

Hi to you too kate. I hated knowing I had made arrangements but having no idea what they were

Well ladies and MIFLAW I am off on holiday tonight so wont be online till next week sometime. I will be thinking of you all and keeping my fingers crossed for you. I know you can all do it. Hopefully the babies will be here soon and Curry give us a nod.

I mis-read the start of your post deste and thought it said you were off on holiday with MIFLAW!!

Anyway, thanks for your good thoughts. Hope you have a lovely holiday. Going somewhere nice?

Hello all, I am not sure when I will next get to post - might be Monday morning Have been house-sitting over the past week so I've had internet access in the evening but back home now. I have also got loads on so won't be able to get elsewhere to get on line. I hope that everyone has great weekends - sane, sober and serene! I will be dying to know if wasindie has been back with news - and hoping that curry has been about. If the opportunity arises I will be on here in a flash!

Keep safe everyone!