Old Bags No More - The Brave Babes & the Battle with the Booze

[MoominMags]

Well, here we go ladies (and MIFLAW)! The new thread to follow on from JWN's 'me and alcohol have ruined my family'. I hope no one minds that I decided to go with 'brave'? I just think that it describes us!

As a quick recap, I am 33 and on day 22 of sobriety (on this occasion!)

Hi Trinity
I'm here! Have been doing cross stitch (it's worked very well atually to keep my hands and brain busy!) but now it's too dark to see properly unless I put the big light on and then DH & DS will moan, so I'll call it a night.
How are you doing?

I've haven't drunk anything
I'm feeling fidgety though

I'm going to eat a kit kat though

cat

here you go lovely

Hello, are you feeling tired Trinity? I've been sleeping so deeply since not drinking (though having really weird dreams, very vivid).

Trinity- now you've mentioned chocolate I'm going to have to go and hunt for some, think there's a packet of jaffa cakes if DS hasn't found them!

I am very tired

Trinity - how are you doing ?
Just think ,not too long now and you'll be asleep ...
You can tell encouraging /positive words are not my forte !
I've developed a taste for Malt drinks - Supermalt and all that .
They come in brown bottles and are great cold ,nice satisfying bite .
And they have loads of B vitamins which are great for fatigue , depression etc .
Other than that my top tip is a book .
I'd love to be able to say my top tip was exercise ,as I sure need to loose weight and I know it would perk me up no end .
But then if I did what I knew was best for me ,I wouldn't be an alki .
Not drinking at the moment though .

Trinity ,even if it goes wrong ,we still want you on here .
Sending positive vibes .
My vibes are better than my encouraging words -)

hi everyone - i have just had a bit of a drama with a young woman from aa - too long a story and too private from her pov i suppose, for me to go into it - it has really upset me though, soem people lead a life that is totally unimaginable - she was horribly drunk, had a plastic juice bottle full of rum that her FATHER had given her - i have put her on a train into london, spoke to a person who says he will meet her at liverpool st (says he is her partner but who knows!) - fuck knows if i have done the right thing. im sat here blubbing now, so worried about her, she must weigh all of 6st, spotty, smelly and dirty, oh bloody hell!

does anyone know if miflaw is about?

Trinity

Can you not go to bed and read for a bit? Or do soduko? A crossword?

Do you think that you could switch off?

gingeroots

Hello

Not sure I've said hello to you yet, being a newbie. (me not you)

JWN

What else could you have done? Really? I assume she gave you this guys number? And told you where so lived?

cant find my kitkat

but me and rach are playing wii fit plus

loving it

Oh JWN ,that's a tough one .
Can you CAT ( is that what it's called ) MIFLAW .
You can't do any more tonight ( and I suspect you shouldn't try even if you could ) .
At least she was at the meeting .

Hi Mouse ,I'm not too good at regonising people .
Forget who it was ( of course ) who said that they were going to take notes while reading this and think I should too !
Trinity - thinking of you .

Physical activity Trinity - respect!
Right ,I'm off to my book .
Night everyone

no mouse - very itinerant lifestyle, some of what she says is plainly lying, guy i spoke to sounded pretty out of it, god knows what half the truth of what is going on with her - she didnt want to go anywhere except the station, i have just called someone else from aa, they said given the circs i couldnt really have done much else.

i was sitting in the car racking my brain for somewhere safe i could take her that she would find acceptable, apart from A&E, which she said no to, i didnt know of anywhere else

i know it sounds awful, but shhe hasnt got a ticket, so i am almost hoping she will be arrested, then at least she would be safe.

no, she wasnt at the meeting, she called and asked to speak to me.

giner

Night, sleep well.

JWN

I don't think you could have done more that wasn't against her will.

A friend once said to me 'you can't save everyone' because I always try. And I now have to save myself.

I'm reading your OP. What an amazing journey you are on.

Hi JWN,
Sounds like you did everything you could. Try not to dwell on it through the night (that sounds very trite, sorry).

ginger - sorry, not giner

i will try not to dwell on it, but, oh my goodness, what a bloody mess! she can only be about 25 or so.

now this really will make me sound horrible - i have to go and have a shower, she has made me smell, i was hugging her while she was crying and now my clothes and hands smell of her and booze and 'unwashed-ness' poor poor kid, she looked so little and helpless

mouse - yes, it is an amazing journey, all the more so because i had no idea i could make it iyswim?

compared to a lot of people i still had a great deal left to lose, but it didnt feel like that to me - without my family i really dont think i would survive - i need to 'keep on keeping on' not just for me, but for them aswell - to love and be loved is the most important thing in the world for me.

sorry, must go and have that shower.

JWN

Oh, poor you. I really don't see what else you could've done. You tried to help.

Which is more than most.

I have had 4 drinks tonight and I have just put my glass in the sink, filled with suds and brushed my teeth.

Night all.

Tomorrow is a whole new day of shit for me. But also my wedding anniversay. So one bonus.

jesus your kindness has planted a seed. when she is ready to stop there is help.
you have helped.
dont feel bad for a moment, you did a good thing

thanks for the kind words girls - i am off to bed now, i feel shattered. apart from the last couple of hours, this has been a good day and

I HAVE NOT HAD A DRINK!

see you all tommorrow!