Have we actually heard what MW or consultant said to H? I missed some episodes.
I know that's not being serious, but Stockholm syndrome is something else. It's where someone knows from the start they were a hostage, and never forget that, but quickly decide to adopt their captor's perspective on what is right or wrong and become loyal to their captor (alternative too scary).
Helen is something else. I don't know if there is a name for Helen's stubborn need to maintain a facade that she is in charge and everyone is against her if they question any choice she makes. What Pat said was entirely reasonable.