I thought that, OddFodd.
Re emotional abuse: it's not just the Mumsnet jury that's worried about Rob. On The Archers blog on the BBC website a few weeks ago the summary of the social media comment included these bits:
'After Helen dropped a bombshell over at Bridge Farm, listeners were on tenterhooks waiting to hear Pat’s reaction and omnibus listeners tuned in early. Many berated Pat about her “judgmental” comments – but most think she’s right about Rob...The debate about Rob and Helen’s affair rages on: Is Helen walking into a relationship with a controlling “Menace”? Or will it be happy ever after…? Almost everyone raised an eyebrow when Rob told Helen that Jess knew about their relationship...'
These summaries are put together by Taylor Cresswell, who was the Host on the BBC's TA messageboard latterly, but who also monitors the BBC blog, Facebook and Twitter for them. (Nice work if you can get it!) As far as I understand it, she publishes this summary every week on the blog and it also goes to the production team. So even if they didn't start off by intending Rob to come across this way, they should know now that that's the effect he's having on many listeners. In the past knowing how listeners are reacting to a character or storyline has occasionally nudged the production team in a different direction from their original plan. So I think there are some grounds for optimism that Rob will be an out and out monster!