I now live in SE London. Initially moved to be nearer my late DM and to get a slightly larger place in a more central area and also nearer to where I was working at the time, not specifically because I didn’t like Essex. I’m far from being what you might think of as a stereotypical Essex girl and, while those types do exist, I found a fair amount of people who shared my interests. You don’t mention DC but, if schools are a factor, I believe Coopers Company and Coborn is well thought-of and gets good results. If you want to know the main thing that I objected to about Dagenham though, it was the fact that, at the time I was there, ww had several BNP councillors!