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Worried my husband’s aggression will lose us our rental.

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OrchidPetalsFalling · 10/11/2021 13:56

Sorry if this should be in a legal section.

My husband has been having a hard time and has been drinking late at night and has made a lot of noise plus damaged some property. He’s good at fixing stuff so has sorted out damage he causes but our land lord let himself in the other day and must have noticed one of the kitchen doors was on the floor! He didn’t mention it but this combined with our neighbours threatening to complain to our landlords about shouting and banging noise late at night is making me fear we’ll be evicted. I love where we live and mentally at the moment don’t feel in a position to go through any changes. I’m going through some bad anxiety issues at the moment.

Obviously written down he sounds unhinged but he’s been on medication that has made him very aggressive. He’s not violent to us just to be clear and he’s making a real effort not to drink excessively at the moment.

Where do I stand if the worst happens?

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MojoJojo71 · 15/11/2021 23:08

To be honest OP, if I was your neighbour I’d be reporting you to social services not your landlord. It’s positive that he has acknowledged he had a problem and is working on it but the best thing would be for him to work through his issues away from the family home and return once it is safe for him to do so, currently your children are not safe and they must be your priority

lazyakita · 16/11/2021 06:07

By being forced to remain in a violent and dysfunctional home environment, you are causing your children psychological and potential physiological damage. Children who grow up under threat of violence can end up with chemical imbalances (excessive cortisol and adrenaline production), and I have witnessed first hand how this trauma affects people for the rest if their lived. There is no undoing it. If you love them, you will reread what is written here, and take them away before further damage is inflicted on them. You are not gding them any favours by keeping them in a dangerous and volatile situation. Just because you are willing to suffer through it doesn't mean they should have to.

lazyakita · 16/11/2021 06:09

Annoying typos, but hopefully my point is clear regardless.

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