One of the parents has been in jail for drugs and bribery

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Shall I inform the school and other parents?
The person spent 4 years in jail and I don’t feel comfortable that my child Is in one classroom as the convict’s son.
I know school probably just cares about their money but isn’t it a bad look for them to have a convict within their community?

The person has served their sentence, and as its not one with a life licence, that's it - they have paid their dues and are free to do what they want.

Although it would show on a DBS this would not even bar them from becoming a teacher!

So you are being unreasonable.

Not a chance. There are also reasons people do it such as not wanting to show school fees going through bank accounts, so as not to adversely affect mortgage entitlements etc.

I bet you sent to a very very nice outstanding state school in a very affluent area? Heavily over subscribed. Correct @OMGitsnotgood ?

Most politicians, billionaires and business elites send their kids to private school.

I would wager my home on their being parents who have done MUCH worse having their kids at you child's school

You're ridiculous

So definitely no tax dodgers, no money launderers, nobody employing illegal workers, nobody involved in organised crime? Must be a squeaky clean school definitely nowhere near my leafy suburb...

Private schools might be pretty empty if they took that approach.

The child attends the school not the parents. Were you background checked before your child attended the school?

Well, they are 🤷‍♀️

If the school cared, there would be a background check on the parents.

Er, is this a serious OP? 1) it's not the kid's fault and 2) if the parent has served their sentence, then it's time to forget and move on. Grow up, OP.

I’d prefer if my DC’s private school didn’t admit the children of handwringer parents who join, then complain about their little sweet sensitive boy not wanting to play contact rugby, play fixtures outside in all weathers, have too much homework, and try to stop all of the above for everyone.

We can’t all have what we want, is it how it is.

That’s exactly where I’d expect them to be, not that this is real of course

When you commodify education, you make it a matter of who can pay, and their money is as good as yours.

To clarify: OP's concern seems to be that the parent has a record, not that the money being used now is illegitimate. So my point is not that it's ok to engage in crime to pay the fees, but that once a person has done their time and is now on the straight and narrow, despite being an ex con, if they can pay then they've got as much right to buy education as anyone else.

Many politicians are criminals and they send their darling children to private school 😅😅😅😅

seriously though OP you sound unhinged and should think twice before you target an innocent child!

Nope

this makes me sick with sadness for the child

It is already a huge disadvantage to have a parent in prison - and you want to shame and blame the child???

Well you weren’t going to come back and say otherwise.

So the school your children went to wasn’t outstanding?

At my son’s private school the father of one of my son’s classmates was sent down for 25 years for drugs. Turns out he was the lynchpin of a drugs running gang. There was an order made to seize his assets but they allowed school fees to be paid for his final year. Even before his conviction it was clear they were dodgy so not a massive surprise. He was actually very pleasant. His wife was like a fish wife and I used to call her the gangster’s moll in my head as she tottered in to the playground in her hooker heels with every designer brand emblazoned across every item of clothing and accessory. The very caricature of a gangster’s moll whilst tge old money stood around in shabby jackets and wellies. I would still invite her child to parties but she generally never responded and often didn’t turn up which she did with everyone so people were more pissed off at that than where they got their money from.

A friend who worked at another private school said they knew all the gangster children because their parents would always pay the fees in cash.

Another gangster lived in a council house on a very rough estate so it was very incongruous to see his children in their straw boaters being driven to their private school

To be honest, even though their money was obtained through crime, I thought at least they were trying to give their children a better life through education.

Where should the children of criminals and former criminals be educated then, in your opinion? Should there be special schools for the kids of villains and dodgy geezers?

Sounds like blaming a child for the action of their parents to me.

Not sure makes the OP think the school won’t already know, anyway.

OP seems to think it’s some kind of gross misconduct which would break the signed terms; it isn’t.

Your being ridiculous.

Go ahead, tell the school.. so they can mark your card as 'that person'.

How is that the child’s fault?

How do you know this about them?

Presumably you don't believe in the justice system? People make mistakes, serve their sentences and move on. If they're lucky and get the chance. I know someone who was in jail for large scale fraud. He is very open about having made a huge mistake when young and in a dark place in his life. He now works for a charity helping prisoners and ex-prisoners to turn their lives around. A high percentage of released prisoners reoffend because they don't get the support they need and people write them off just like OP is doing to this parent (and their innocent child)

I work in the private school sector and this sounds pretty tame to the children ive met…I’ve taught the children of war criminals!! but they pay their bill on time.