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I don't want her to go. My confidence in the school and in my ability to shield her and protect her is shaken. I don't want her to go. I want to play snap all day, like I didn't today.

Oh dear

I put off the ironing until tomorrow - there's still one new polo shirt in the wardrobe.

I dread the costume making fandangle - dh will have to do that.

There's a gap in the market for a laxative banana. A real mised opportunity.

MUST leave the house a bit earlier this week - really struggling to get there on time.

Class photo this week. Nothing's ever so simple is it? This will involve me in negotiations with dd and school as dd is seriously photo-phobic (especilly the flash type) but would like to have a class photo - so if there is a flash is it OK if she closes her eyes throughout and don't be alarmed or surprised if she just has a total melt down.....

Must be the day for class photo's as DS has got his today as well. He also doesn't like having his photo taken so can see that being an interesting picture when it appears lol! He also absolutely hates his school jumper which is extremely thick sweatshirt thing and so far has just been wearing his polo shirt with a coat on for lunchtimes etc...but literally every one had the school jumper on today apart from him. Oh well at least I'll be able to see him clearly on the photo lol!

Aww the poor little things re toilet trouble luckily we've never suffered in that department with DS but I have IBS so know how horrible constipation can make me feel so can't imagine what its like for a little one.

Good grief native american headdress thats very difficult to do I should think-Im dreading all that stuff and think I will give MIL the task of costume making!

Well we've done our homework over the weekend and we changed the story book today to another one...which looks equally boring lol!

I had to leave her crying with the TA again today

Morning everyone

Paisley - Poor you & your lo, it is monday though & if it's any consolation loads of lo's were crying this morning. Dd was very upset as teacher asked them to line up outside & go in without mums, my dd just dissolved into tears at this point. She's started this thing now that she just becomes silent if upset, as if the shutters have come down, won't speak, avoids eye contact, she's done it a few times over the weekend, once at a disco where she found it too noisy & they were playing a bizarre party game with a wig??? & then yesterday at my friends house when my friend suggested she try some totellini with a spinach filling in it. DD was horrified by the filling but whereas she normally would say no thank you or it looks horrible I don't think I'd like it she just shuts down. Anyway that's my rambly way of saying not just my dd in tears this morning as before loads of lo's & they all looked so tired bless them & it's only monday!

Newspaper - hope your dd gets on ok. We've all got colds at the mo & I just wanted to spend the day snuggled up woth my dd on the sofa, I'm sure she'd have got bored before me!

Acinonyx - Good luck with the photo, my dd's is in a few weeks, hopefully she'll have stopped crying all day by then.

Norfolklass - my dd won't wear a sweatshirt as she doesn't like the it round her neck, luckily this year they've started doing school cardigans too, she was so relieved about that.

Morning all - my twins started reception a few weeks ago and I could do with some more hand holding!

Totally agree with so many comments and experiences here - especially the feeling of being left with the grotty mechanics of hassling reluctant small children into clothes and cars in morning and then dealing with tired reluctant children in evening!

My two have settled reasonably well especially as they used to sob when left at nursery - but am a bit worried they will make no friends with rest of class and just stick together. Teacher has started gently splitting them up for short periods in the classroom so hopefully that will help. They have been adopted by a group of older girls who look after them at break time which is so sweet!

My two are struggling with pe kit and putting coats on at lunchtime..how on earth they will cope with hats and gloves as well I don't know!

Last week all the class were too hot as the teachers didn't seem to think to prompt them to take off the jumpers they had come in - the morning was cold and then turned sunny!

Please tell me our little ones will eventually start to suss out things and not sit forlornly picking at their lunch in a scary dinner hall sweltering in their coat!

got dd1 to school today ok finding timing ok we go out the door @ 8:15am have an 8mnth old too. dd1 luved it again today she cant wait to go all day and have lunch
she came home covered in paint again they wear tabards manage to get it on her collar

DH is taking DS to school now as I start work at 8.30. Had a text from DH to say he was ok (DS not DH!) but have since found out he cried again this morning. (Poor DH, trying to do thre right thing and not upset me!) I have turned in to a needy, over-analytical, guilt ridden pain in the arse!

I have no doubt that my colleagues are sick of the sound of my whingy voice!!!

It's so hard to switch off and forget about them isn't it! I work from home so the temptation to get distracted is overwhelming - now I can stare out of the window and bite my fingernails nervously worrying about them..

I think the wierd thing is going from having them at home or at nursery where you know a lot about their day - what they had for lunch/who they played with etc - to really knowing nothing..

I ask my two what they've been up to and I get random bits from their day but for most of the week now I just have no idea what really goes on..sob..I used to know exactly what they had for lunch and where we'd been that day..

Their teachers are very nice but they obviously don't have the time their nursery staff did to sit down and ramble at great detail about your child's day..

Today I met dd's English teacher (at her bilingul school) for the first time. She told me it was a big day for dd because it is the first time she has spoken English at school....(English is her Mother-tongue and strongest language???)

"REALLY???" I squalked "It has taken two weeks for her to speak to you in English???" Then without thinking I turned to dd and giggled "You really are one daft banana!!!"

The teacher suddenly realised the level of English dd is used to on a daily basis and we all had a really big belly laugh!!!

... but I do wonder if she is pretending to be not too strong in English to 'fit in' ... would a three year old do this?

[Oh how I wish I could be fly on the wall emotion]

Not oing well here. Am a squishy bit of cotton wool with emotions.

My dd1 got lost today after lunch and couldn't find her way to the playground! It's the kind of thing I was so dreading happening to her, but she seems to have been completely fine. She found someone to ask, and they asked her if she was in reception. She said, 'I'm not sure, I think I might be. Take me to the reception playground, and I'll see if I recognise it.' Am gobsmacked by her coping skills. I asked her if she was worried, and she said no, she was fine as she 'had her bravery'.

Did something happen today, newspaper?

I would love to be a fly on the wall. I have no idea what goes on, apart from the odd snippet of information that suddenly pops out at mealtimes. Although then I think I'm perhaps better off not knowing!

Son took a banana in his packed lunch today, it came back uneaten because he "couldn't open it". He says there isn't enough time to eat lunch (not sure how that works, because I'm sure lunch break is an hour) - although oddly there is enough time to eat the marmite rice cakes, just not enough for the sandwiches.....

Newspaper - hope tomorrow goes better for you both.

Oh Newspaper. It's not easy is it? I'm ready for a half term holiday or something now. I feel DD could do with a bit of a break already. I'm tempted to give her a sickie and have a duvet day. I won't - it's just how I feel just now.
Did your DD do okay today?

Tea, that's so funny about you little daft banana - I'd like to have seen that teacher's face.
You could well be right about the pretending to fit in though

My DD was smiling when she came out. Which was a relief as she was so upset in the morning. I think because they want parents to not come in the classroom now and have the children line up and go in on their own now.
They have quite a bit of stuff to carry in though (lunchbag,bookbag,drink, sometimes coat) and it is manic and awkward around the pegs, really crowded. Quite off putting for DD. Don't know how she'd mnage if she had to change out of wellies too.

golgi, I've not sent DD in with a banana yet as I know she can't open them.

Today - she was crying by the time we got in the car. Hysterical by parking.

I had to pull her along the pavement. SHe threaded her fingers through my belt buckles so I couldn't be seperated. We lined up and I told the teacher/TA/someone ot other I got here by promising I would go in cloakroom with her. She was ok about it, but I think I felt the eyes rolling in the others. Head in particular.
When it was time to hang up coat she lost ot and hung onto the baby sling. The head took her at this point. SHe peeled/dragged/manhandled her and carried her away. DD had both arms reaching back to me screaming.

Arse. I was frank with the next memeber of staff I saw. Said she hated it, needed more help and a few issues. I felt uncomfortable indeed.

Slunk off and took dd2 to bed to shut out the wory. So nothing bad or out of the ordinary. Fromt he child who has never had a tantrum and is very reasonable and sensible, this is mega!

Excuse terrible typos! Off to bed ready for morning. Could cry thinking of it.

hello, sorry late to thread but also have a dc who has started reception this sep. Anyone's else's dc ill yet? Ds had bad cold and cough week 2 and then projectile vomiting all weekend. Feel a bit crap about it all.

Oh newspaper how awful. That is my worst nightmare, I have thought so much about whether to let them banish me if dd cries. Thank god on the one morning she did cry, they let me sit with her till after register and then dd was OK to let me leave. I was so nervous they were going to do that, 'you just have to leave, she'll be fine as soon as you've gone' thing. It feels like such a betrayal - I let myself get talked into it once at nursery and it was just awful, it felt so wrong for our relationship.

Do you know why your dd hates it so much?

Sorry to hear that newspaper. It really is a rock and a hard place when dc is so distressed and yet they have to go to school. This is exactly what I dreaded after this happened at our settling in session. I psyched myself up to allow her to be taken by the TA but of course it doesn't feel at all right does it? Never mind the head rolling her eyes - it's your dd.

Can your dd explain what is the most distressing thing - is it leaving you or something about school itself?

i couldn't bear the head to drag my ds in crying - that sounds pretty awful.

pofaced - dd has a cold which she has generously shared with me I have taught her the art of stuffing a hanky up her cardigan sleeve.

newspaperdelivery - My guess is that it is built up tiredness from trying so hard all the time since starting school + Monday morning blues. I really feel for you and would be beside myself too if my dd reacted like that... but, if it is any help... I feel it probably isn't going to be like this for very long - hopefully nothing more than a one off infact. [hopeful]

Sleep well - you really deserve it!

.... and do report back tomorrow!!!!

I will teafortwo. Maybe tomorrow will be a revolution. Bring it on! Either way I feel she will be ruined on her up and coming birthday and party. I have never loved her more.

Thank you all for understanding so well, and for hearing how hard I am finding this, and for not underplaying it.

Will report back.