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hi ladies here is our new thread

newspaperdelivery - You have brought a tear to my eye. Look after you and look after comicdelivery too!!! x

Good night

newspaper how was it today?

hope it was ok today newspaper. Ds really didn't want to go today, he is as white as a sheet, wiped out by the bug he had. Feel under pressure to send him though, felt awful making him.

good luck for today tree

Hatty yellow - I find it hard to switch off too as am at home, am trying to keep myself busy though!

poface - your poor ds looking so pale. It's hard isn't it, my dd has a cold & a really nasty cough, if she was at preschool I'd keep her at home for the day but she's not ill ill & if it was friday I'd probably keep her off school but mid week it'd just be harder for her to get back into the routine.

teafortwo - I wish I could be a fly on the wall too although it'd probably turn me into an emotional wreck seeing all those tears!

Areana - Well done on your dd not being phased by getting lost, that's really good.

Paisley - ours are meant to be going in on their own now too, yesterday dd wouldn't do it & today parents went in too as was raining. There's so much for the lo's to carry though, what with coats & book bags etc they don't have enough hands!

Newspaper - Thats awful, poor you & your dd. Eyes shouldn't be rolled should they when lo's are distressed & they're so little & haven't yet settled in. I really think more of an effort should be made to settle lo's in & cater for their personalities.

Well my dd had a slightly better day y'day & she told me she ate some of her dinner & was a bit happier although tears at lunchtime. I felt really positive by this, this morning took dd in, there were tears but not as many as yesterday. Spoke to teacher & dd only ate 2 potato wedges & a slice of apple, & the teacher sat with her all the time. She is still very quiet & frequently upset & that she feels the tears are genuine. She says dd seems to be tryin to be brave, this made me feel even more upset as the thought of my dd desparately trying to be brave & not cry & yet still dissolve into tears makes me feel so sad. Teacher is confident she will settle in though & there's always one in teh class every year & it's my dd - lucky me - not!

nice of the teacher to sit with her roundabout. Ds's teacher is nice but called him by the wrong name on Friday [after two weeks of school] i know it isn't easy for her but it did make me wince!

It's so hard isn't it?
My dd is struggling a bit at the moment with settling in, she doesn't like me leaving her and at the moment i seem to be the only mum who is still going in to the classroom with her which i feel a bit about but she's not ready for me to just drop her off and leave yet.

loads of parents still doing that at ds's school [me included] lemon don't worry!

loads of parents going in here too, & more lo's upset than last week. I think they all were a bit worried when they wereasked to go in by themselves yesterday, don't think most are ready for that yet.

I know what you mean about not being ready, it's only been 10 days and dd's reception class are already expected to line up in the playground and then go in just with the teacher which I have to say most of the class do seem to be coping well with, but dd looked horrified when i told her this and i just know she would get even more upset if i just left her in the playground.

Oh well, only five weeks and counting till half term!

Newspaper - your poor DD - that must have been awful. Am moved to tears in my eyes just thinking about it so I dread to think how you must be feeling!

And Aranea, am welling up at your brave little girl - and as for the little boy who couldn't eat his banana as he couldn't open it - one of my girls can't open her bananas either.

It's so emotional - I really hope our school doesn't start making them line up. At the moment we can take them into classroom, help them put book bag away, change shoes etc, kiss goodbye all very peacefully.

Completely agree re the peg area overcrowding,it's impossible to get to ours - am having to lob their coats over peoples heads to get to the pegs!

Afternoon everyone-can I just send huge hugs all round (apologies if thats a very un MN thing to do but I think its needed by all! so (((()))). I can't believe so many of you are having to leave your DC in the playground to line up...I thought all the schools let the parents come into the classroom with them.
At DS's school the bell goes at 8.45 and then we all go in with the children and there is 10 mins to get them in,hang up coats etc,sort out water bottles and every morning there is a question the children have to answer on the table and if they can do it they have to put the answer in the correct box (they are nice questions like what colour is the mouse on the table etc). Apparently its supposed to bridge the transition between home and school cause parents etc are supposed to help them with it which is nice.
I feel awful for saying it because so many of us are having a hard time but at the moment my DS seems to be taking to it like a duck to water and Ive never seen him so happy which is lovely. Think his teacher has got him sussed already which I am very pleased about.
No colds etc her yet but I am sure its only a matter of time before he comes home with something lol!

Hello everyone

So glad things are getting a bit better roundabout - the teacher sounds more helpful now.

newspaper - how was today? Thinking of you.

I'm feeling horrible today as I've just had a meeting with the SENCo. She was really nice and friendly and has said she will put dd1 on school action plan (I think?) and on SEN register so people will be aware that she may find some things difficult. Rationally I think this is all great and I want her to get all the support and attention she can get. But it makes me feel that I and everyone else are defining her in terms of shortcomings and it is horrible. I feel really tearful and miserable. I've bitten my mother's head off because I thought she was being insensitive, and she didn't really accept my apology and now doesn't seem to be answering the phone to me.

Aranea - Sounds like you've had a heavy day today, I don't know the background but from what you've just posted I would think you're emotions are completely understandable & natural. Just concentrate on the rational side of things, all the support will make life easier for your dd & that's what's important. Hope you sort things out with your mum, perhaps she's popped out? I fell out with my mum last week, I was saying about dd being so upset at school & all my mum kept saying was "she's just like you" now I think she's right but that just makes me feel worse as if it's my fault she's finding it so hard & as I can remember it quite clearly many many years later that makes me feel sad. Think my mum was just trying to see the funny side of it but it made me really cross. Yes I feel the teacher is being more helpful now, seem to get the impression that last week she thought my dd's distress wasn't genuine, think she may be starting to understand my dd a bit more now.

Norfolk lass - so pleased your ds is having such a good time at school. My dd's have to find their name & post it into a box & then find a picture of themselves & put it on either the school dinners or packed lunch board. Last wk we did it with them but not any more

Yes, Norfolk, I think my dd's teacher is also being more helpful now and I think she also thought that dd's quirky difficulties weren't genuine but now understands that there is in fact a pattern - all related to group activities.

Loads of parents in the classroom here too which is why those of us who comfortably can don't go in - so the others can have room. Peg area is pretty cramped and dd sometimes has 3 bags to sort out (bookbag, CM's dinner bag, PE bag) and I am a bit paranid about losing her dinnner!

Aranea, I can imagine having very mixed feelings about those arrangements even knowing they were to behefit your dd.

Hope you have a better day Newspaper.

roundabout - you were right, she was out. Phew. Isn't it funny how mothers have the power to upset us so much? I find that a very worrying thought in my role as a mother!

I'm becoming increasingly convinced that dd1 has mild dyspraxia, and I'm not sure how much that matters.

Just got both girls to bed. Dd1 has done her first full day and she seems exhausted, mentally but not physically, which is strange. She can't seem to follow any instructions or concentrate on anything she's doing, like getting undressed for example. It's a bit difficult to handle! And now she doesn't seem able to get to sleep. She's too cold, thirsty, hungry...

Aranea - Glad you've sorted it out with your mum! Glad the full day went ok, my dd has been finding it hard to wind down after school, think it's because she's too tired.

My dd seemed to have a better day, according to here she ate lots of her dinner & didn't cry at lunchtime & her teacher was very proud of her. Unfortunately I don't know for sure that this is the case - the problem with lack of communiaction in school compared to nursery. Anyway dd has had stickers on her chart & a treat so hope it's the case! Think dd is being expected to eat all her lunch by the dinnerladies despite me telling teacher & teacher agreeing that this was unreasonable given the circumstances. They get clean plate stickers but dd told me tonight they're not for her because she doesn't eat enough & perhaps by the time she's 9 she might get one!

... and now she needed a wee! Aaargh, she will be so tired tomorrow.

Glad your dd had a good day, roundabout. Stickers and a treat sonds good!

Mine didn't like her lunch so didn't eat it, and when I collected her she ate two bananas and an apple on the way home so she must have been absolutely starving, especially getting through her first afternoon at school!

Newspaper? How did it go today?

Aranea, hope she's asleep by now....

Mine have both got colds, I realised that they've been snot-free for the whole summer, then as soon as they get back into the plague-pit they come down with something. My classes are all sniffing as well, so I'm just as likely to bring back lurgy.

I seem to have a happy one at the moment - when I asked him today how it went he said "I had a lovely time mummy, and I got two more stickers, one from the dinner ladies and one for being good".

He is soooo tired in the evenings though, we usually have a meltdown by bathtime.

Pacing the floor so pacing through the thread - today waaaaay better. Tears at lunch time and various others but no hysterics this am. DD2 is very unsettled again [up till 3am....eagain] so must keep walking with her.

Haven't read but hope all is ok, and thank you for asking after me.

x

WAAHOOO - Newspaperdelivery - I am glad things went better today. I really feel things are on the up now.

Slowly slowly catch the monkey... she will be running into school top speed and taking ages coming out of school because there is just one more thing she needs to tell her freind/teacher/the TA!!!!

I am really happy for you!!!

Aranea - SEN paperwork or even informal chats with the SENco can feel like that but in order to get any pennies sent your daugher's way (even TA time or extra planned acivities) thems der hoops that need jumping. Try and think of it as nothing aaaaabsuuurrr-bleeery-lutely nothing but hoop jumping if you feel bad about it again. No-one can be defined by a form or a label but children need labels and they need forms filling in to get needs met in a big place like school.

On another note completely I was wondering...

Is anyone else really enjoying the 'exiting school messy munchkin embrace'? My dd rushes out completely flushed and smiling which is lovely with dough in her hair and shoes, snot over one sleeve, one sock up and one sock down, paint on one leg and a really grubby face - and I find her so charming and lovely it is delicious so I hug her and kiss her and sniff her lots and ask her many quesions that she frowns at and doesn't answer and I don't really care because her 'messy end of school look' fills me with such delight and wellness that in itself it is like a really interesing and unusual question thrown at me that I want to spend my whole life slowly answering.

newspaper - so glad today was better for you

Tea - you made me laugh as when dd came home & took her school cardi off I was sniffing it. My dd has the one sock up one down - never both - hows that happen & a mucky face but hardly ever food down her clothes. She's gone all clean & was saying how messy school dinners were last week as the children get all dirty. Tried telling her I want to see her messy as it shows she's had fun but she doesn't believe me!

What a lovely description of your dd, tea. Very poetic.

Teafortwo - are you a writer? If not I think you should be. What a beautiful description.

Ds had been skipping straight into school so far but almost had a wobble today about it, saying I miss you and asked me to go in with him. I think he wants to be handed over to the teacher rather than just shoved into the classroom iyswim. Problem is at some stage with 30 in the class that won't be possible presumably?