Anyone NOT ALLOWED to escort there recpetion children (aged 4) who have been there less than 3 weeks to the class room then?

[NannyL]

OMG I am seething....

my 4 year old charge has recently started reception in a TINY private school. (It 'is' a house, not even a particularly big house, just a 4 bed detached house on a street with loads of other hosues that are similar)

Anyway the children hang the coats in the 'hallway'. Given that it was a house the hallway is not that massive, but that is where ALL the children in the school hang their coats / sort out their book bags, and remove snack box and reading folder, and then take off hat and put in their bag before hanging coat / balzer and book bag on peg and carrying snack box and reading folder into class room.

My 4 year old has been there for 3 weeks now.... Today i went in as usual (with the phil and teds buggy with my 2 year old strapped-in in). I made my 4 year old take off his coat HIMSELF, (and find the hook and hang it up on the peg) and take off his hat himself, and pass his hat to me to hold while he took his snack box and reading folder out of his bag himself , and then passed him back his hat so he could put it in his bag and hang the bag on the peg

(he was going on a play date today so also had another bag of home clothes)

The miserable old bag teacher then said to me "Now he's in reception dont you think he should be doing it himself" I said yes, he HAS done it himself (He is only just learning to undo his stiff blazer buttons and cause its a new blazer sometimes genuinely CANT do it, though i always make him try)

She said "No, i dont think YOU need to come IN here now, i think next week you should wait at the door and watch him do it"

I couldnt belive my ears.... he has only been there 3 weeks, he NEEDS me at the moment...

also he is the only boy on his class (7 children 6 girls and a boy) so mb wants me to have close contact with the teacher at the moment, because tbh he may wellbe changing schools (anoterh issue altogether)

Anyway i ALWAYS then walk through with him to the class room and say hi to the teacher, see what they are doing today, then we have a hug and kiss good bye etc and i go back out and collect the buggy from the hall and off i go.

Are any other schools expecting the 4 year olds who have been there just 2.5 weeks to go in by themselves, completely sort them selves out and then go in?

(In the other schools that my old charges have gone to it has been completely normal for mums etc to help hang up the coats / bags etc them settle the child into the classroom for the WHOLE of reception, with it being discourged in years 1, and then not allowed after the 1st half term of year 1 (when mums were still allowed in cloakroom, just not actually IN the classrom)

I told my mb who said that on Monday the same teacher had said the same to her.
She also said please ignore her and take him in as usual!

(I will)

This is the same teacher who last year when my charge was in the nursary (a 'building' in the 'back garden') and i left my then one year old in the cloackroom asked me "if i would mind leaving him alone in the buggy in the 'new shelter type thing'?" built for leaving buggies and bikes and car seats in duting the day! (The i told her actually i DID mind as i refused to leave my 1 year old in a 'bus stop with a door completely unsupervised, and that also he would cry his eyes out and hate it... and I continued 'parking' him in the buggy in the hall way as usual)

Woudl love to know if anyother recption chidlren are supposed to be going in COMPLETELY alone yet!

In our school reception children are expected to be line up in the playground and this is where you say goodbye... they then go in to school in their lines with the teacher and sort themselves out

I think that's right personally

settling a child into a reception class for the whole year rather shocks me to be honest although I can accept particularly 'needy' (wrong word not meant badly but can't think of the right one atm) children might need weaning off in first half term

Parents in the classroom delay the start of the day and tbh can sometimes cause their children not to settle well.

I think that they should be able to say goodbye to mum at the door. It tends to be more of an issue for the mum than the child in my experience.

Yes, ours go in by themselves. But then there are 60 of them, plus the other 400 odd so it would be pretty chaotic if parents went in as well

After the first week in school our reception children line up and go in without parents, hang up their coats and sort their water bottles and lunch boxes out. The assistants will help out if absolutely needed, but they are pretty much encouraged to do it all themselves after the first week of parents escorting into school.

When I say "ours" I mean reception children, not "ours" as in mine and dh's 60 children...just to make that clear.

i agree with Twiglett . When DS1 started last year it was after 1-2 weeks that i stopped going in and he got on with it and it helped his confidence. Some parents spent the whole of reception taking there children in and sorting them out and have had a shock now Year 1 has arrived and they are not allowed in at all.

yes ours do lining up pretty much straight away

v big school though (3 class entry, infants and juniors and a nursery) so no space for faffing

let alone your other 400 marthamoo

my ds was left in the playground from the first day.

I left my 5 yr old, who btw has Down's syndrome, at the door of her classroom from day 1. It's a mainstream school and she is the only child with SN's. Never stepped a foot into the class. Kissed her goodbye at the door and handed her over. Same with the same DD when she went to nursery aged 2.5.

My ds is in year 2 and parents have always been allowed into the classroom to settle them and say goodbye. When they go up to junior school parents are asked to say goodbye in the playground. Personally I think it's a bit cruel to leave them in reception but then I'm an old softie

Ours have lined up since recpetion. Seems the norm in other schools round us as well

At my dd's school, they stagger intake over a week and the child only gets escorted in on the first day, as this is later than the usual start time. They line up after that.

I took my dd in on her first day - that's all.

however, with my older 2 children who are in a private school, I have been able to take them in up to year 4!

Ours also line up in playground. DS usually goes to the front and holds teachers hand to walk in as he is struggling abit (few tears). But the last thing he needs is me telling him he needs me. He is growing in confidence all by himself.

I just bet the OP was expecting a whole raft of 'OMG that's awful' posts ..

I drop ds off for before school care - 20 mins before registration - we go to cloakroom, hang up his blazer, then go to the room where all 'before school care' reception children gather; he puts his bookbag in the box and races off, never looking back! So, yes, I can and do go in but only to do the safe handover thing - he wouldn't notice if I didn't, tbh!

our school, parents can go into the school with reception, yr1 and yr2. you then say goodbye to the child at the quiet area, then teachers sort line up time and entry to school

Same here - dropped at the porch. You can see the hooks where they hang their stuff but it's kiss and goodbye outside the building.

i ALWAYS then walk through with him to the class room and say hi to the teacher, see what they are doing today,

This sounds very irritating for the teacher TBH

First thing in the morning is 'rush round like a mad woman time in my classroom'. Not a good time to touch base IME

DD is Y1 year and we still go into the classroom with her in a morning. We go into cloakroom and drop off satchel, then up to classroom to put reading books and message folders in baskets in classroom. Teacher is alost always about so a good chance for a chat with her should I wish. Then, so long as not raining, we goback down into playground, and leave DD there.

What is an mb?

And why is she telling you to ignore the teacher?

Ours also go in unaccompanied because the cloackroom in reception is actually part of the classroom and tbh it would have to be either a very quick comment or something very urgent for me to try to speak to the teacher first thing in the morning which as MB said is a really busy time for teachers.