OMG I am seething....
my 4 year old charge has recently started reception in a TINY private school. (It 'is' a house, not even a particularly big house, just a 4 bed detached house on a street with loads of other hosues that are similar)
Anyway the children hang the coats in the 'hallway'. Given that it was a house the hallway is not that massive, but that is where ALL the children in the school hang their coats / sort out their book bags, and remove snack box and reading folder, and then take off hat and put in their bag before hanging coat / balzer and book bag on peg and carrying snack box and reading folder into class room.
My 4 year old has been there for 3 weeks now.... Today i went in as usual (with the phil and teds buggy with my 2 year old strapped-in in). I made my 4 year old take off his coat HIMSELF, (and find the hook and hang it up on the peg) and take off his hat himself, and pass his hat to me to hold while he took his snack box and reading folder out of his bag himself , and then passed him back his hat so he could put it in his bag and hang the bag on the peg
(he was going on a play date today so also had another bag of home clothes)
The miserable old bag teacher then said to me "Now he's in reception dont you think he should be doing it himself" I said yes, he HAS done it himself (He is only just learning to undo his stiff blazer buttons and cause its a new blazer sometimes genuinely CANT do it, though i always make him try)
She said "No, i dont think YOU need to come IN here now, i think next week you should wait at the door and watch him do it"
I couldnt belive my ears.... he has only been there 3 weeks, he NEEDS me at the moment...
also he is the only boy on his class (7 children 6 girls and a boy) so mb wants me to have close contact with the teacher at the moment, because tbh he may wellbe changing schools (anoterh issue altogether)
Anyway i ALWAYS then walk through with him to the class room and say hi to the teacher, see what they are doing today, then we have a hug and kiss good bye etc and i go back out and collect the buggy from the hall and off i go.
Are any other schools expecting the 4 year olds who have been there just 2.5 weeks to go in by themselves, completely sort them selves out and then go in?
(In the other schools that my old charges have gone to it has been completely normal for mums etc to help hang up the coats / bags etc them settle the child into the classroom for the WHOLE of reception, with it being discourged in years 1, and then not allowed after the 1st half term of year 1 (when mums were still allowed in cloakroom, just not actually IN the classrom)
I told my mb who said that on Monday the same teacher had said the same to her.
She also said please ignore her and take him in as usual!
(I will)
This is the same teacher who last year when my charge was in the nursary (a 'building' in the 'back garden') and i left my then one year old in the cloackroom asked me "if i would mind leaving him alone in the buggy in the 'new shelter type thing'?" built for leaving buggies and bikes and car seats in duting the day! (The i told her actually i DID mind as i refused to leave my 1 year old in a 'bus stop with a door completely unsupervised, and that also he would cry his eyes out and hate it... and I continued 'parking' him in the buggy in the hall way as usual)
Woudl love to know if anyother recption chidlren are supposed to be going in COMPLETELY alone yet!