Daughter's teacher called her a numpty

[Ottermum23]

Hi all,
We have a lovely little daughter, in year3.
She is a very enthusiastic learner, who always loved school and loves academic challenges.
This year, she had a new teacher, who is not the nicest, but nevertheless, We thought, just give her the benefit of a doubt.
Our girl been contstantly saying, that the teacher shouts, and today, she said, she called her a numpty, as she accidentally started to do her writing on someone else's book.

I find this very frustrating and just would like to hear others opinions.
Thank you.

I don't agree with the shouting though...

Have you offered to go in and train the teacher on how to control 30 little children without raising their voice?

I wonder if you are over sensitive as time goes on she'll react to things that more resilient children (with less sensitive parents) would laugh off or cope with more effectively.

This.

I think it’s unprofessional and derogatory.I wouldn’t like it either,you’ve got to give out respect to receive it.

And? For heavens sake my DS2 is in year 3, and we call him "Numpty" as an affectionate term for being dizzy!

Get a grip OP

Don't be a numpty Steph

We call Tiger mums "those parents"

How do I build resilience though?

• Minimise drama. Talk though feelings in a measured way. Ask questions about why a child feels that way and gently challenge incorrect assumptions.

• Let them fail. Let them do something wrong and it not be a big deal. Encourage them to keep going until they succeed. Sometimes that means pushing a little when they are unsure.

• Aim high. Encourage them to try stuff which stretches and discomforts them a bit, because it's ok to fail.

• Praise effort and genuine achievement. Praise specific outcomes, not vaguely. Praise what they did, not just for being them. Praise valiant failure.

It takes a long time to build real resilience, and it's hard to resist indulging kids (which can be corrosive to resilience), because we love them so much.

OP,in my first 2 years at school I had the same teacher. She was excellent and quietly spoken but had control. When I moved into the next year I struggled because the header shouted quite a bit and had rather a loud scratchy voice. According to my mother

Wouldn't you respect a teacher because they used an affectionate friendly term whilst pointing out you did something daft? Would you rather a serious criticism like "you just did something wrong"?

Sorry my comment was aimed at Steph not OP.

Sorry didn't mean to post that so soon. It took me a while to get used to her but I eventually do and got on fine for the rest of the year. Your dd probably will too. Just keep an eye on it.

I think it’s unprofessional and derogatory.

Don't be a numpty Steph :-)

Part of professionalism is having a good relationship with kids- that means speaking like a normal person.

People whose threshold for feeling derogation is hearing colloquialisms like 'numpty' suck the joy and humanity from life.

Numpty isn't affectionate to me. It is an insult. It means idiot!

YANBU OP the teacher sounds like a numpty

ProfessorMoody, I'm really happy to be called "those parents". Our child education is extremely important for us.

Yes it does mean idiot. I suppose I think of it like I'd say "oh mummy has been a numpty and spilt tea all over the floor as I wasn't looking where I was going". Lighthearted, friendly tone etc.

Donquix,
How can I possibly offer such a "service" to teachers, I had this idea, that our tax goes towards improving public services...but that's a completely different issue.

I don't like it or anything like that in the learning environment.

One man's numpty is another man's twat.

PipGoesPop, thank you. Exactly my thoughts.

PFB?

Not round here it isn’t. It’s affectionate and not an insult.
“Those parents” are the ones that make a fuss over nothing. They don’t support the school and generally make more work for staff. Their child is a special snowflake and must be handled accordingly.
You don’t want to be “that parent” and your child doesn’t need you to be either.

Yes, boomtish, her sister (year1) is completely different. Attitude and treatment wise

Seems like a non issue to me

No, wolfiefan, I don't make a fuss over nothing. not at all. I just try to keep a close eye, as our school has a rather large percentage of kids with very different background to ours.

Our child education is extremely important for us

Funnily enough, it's important to us teachers too. "Those parents" don't seem to understand that.

ProfessorMoody, maybe that's why I have to pay so much money for private tutoring, to get our kids to grammar?! Got nothing to do with a system.

So now it’s the other kids and their “different backgrounds” that are the issue?
Stop looking for problems. Develop your child’s confidence and resilience, unclench and who knows? She may even enjoy school and do well.