A Valentines disco? For Reception?????

[nearlythree]

The school PTA have organised a Valentines disco - well, two in fact, one for 4-7 year olds and the other for the rest of the school. Apart from the fact that it finishes after dd1's bedtime, I am furious that the school thinks this is appropriate for such young children. I know that Michelle Elliot of Kidscape has spoken out about this trend and I am shocked that dd1's school aren't more clued up. Dh is backing me on this and wants me to see the head about it. Whatever happens dd1 won't be going.

My son's school usually do disco's two or three times at year. Usually at xmas, easter and end oy year maybe. (They did not do it this xmas but had xmas parties during school time.)

I don't see anything wrong in it, as all the kids do is buy a drink, a few sweets(you dictate how much they can spend) and run around the school hall with music playing in the at the same time.

It helps with them with social skills outside of school and gives them abit of indepenence from yourselves, while being supervised at the same time.

Go for it and don't regret it.

lostinfrance - you have summed it up for me... I had been very good up till now and resisted the temptation to say that out of all the teenagers I know, the ones who have gone right off the rails are the ones with the over protective parents.

I thought St Valentine was about love, not underage sexual permisiveness.
What on earth is wrong with a Valentines disco? Surely no one in their right mind thinks the school will be inciting the children to behave inappropriately.

Blimey, I'm amazed that anyone would be offended at the idea of a valentines disco!

can i ask a sneaky quick question?

would you be offended if your 5 year old child made a valentine card at school?

Ohhhh, sparkly tops you say? Goodness me, don't people know that sparkly tops can lead to other depraved things like sequins! Whatever next?

SEA, I wouldn't if it was for me or dh/ex dh.

Don't see the problem here.

The kids won't be snogging will they? 'Dancing' (and I use that term loosely for 5-6 year olds ) to naff pop songs and buying some sweets at the tuck shop probably - great!

We are planning a halloween one for our infants. Exactly the same but in October instead of Feb!

LOL, Batters of course I forgot the sparkley tops! Thank heavens killer childhood diseases & starvation are no longer a threat, gives us all more time to worry about shocking events like the primary school Valentine disco.

thanks www i was wondering if i could do them for my after school club, i did last year and it didn't really occur to me that it could cause probs.

A year 6 girl once came to one of our discos with a clingy dress slit right up the side and criss crossed laces holding it together. And she had no knickers on underneath! But she's 17 now and very sensible - unlike some of the ones who were kept on a ridiculously tight rein until they were old enough to rebel.

'As for being on the PTA, I have three children under five and for the past week I've been in bed by half eight some nights. Chance would be a fine thing.'

Me too and I'm the secretary of the PTA - I don't buy any 'excuses'. If you don't want to part of it, fine, but don't make excuses.

lostinfrance - x posted. Bet you weren't allowed clingy slit dresses

SodWork - I think I love you
Funny how the ones with the 'opinions' never actually do anything, isn't it?

I think you are all wasting your breath now.. N3 has abandoned the thread!

Did you see the Head about it N3? (if you are here.) Not asking snidely, just wondering how you got on and whether he/she was able to reassure you.

Am off to look up the Kidscape stuff and see exactly what they could be concerned about.

She's in with the Head trying to explain why her dd was pushing crack cocaine to the other kids at break time

Sorry, I am 6 years late to this thread. Ignore me

I can't actually find anything on the net relating to what Michelle Elliot of Kidscape has said by way of suggesting that primary school (or any school) discos are a bad idea and why.. all I can find are some references to her views on how some children get into drugs... and her protests on a poster used to adertise nightclub disco night, which featured a woman wearing a school uniform. These are not relevant! Can anyone else find anything?

A 'disco' has definately been a party for kids for decades. They won't know that 'Valentines' day is about 'sexual pairing' unless you tell them that. We have Xmas parties and Divali discos and lets face it these are kids that are too young to know what belief system they are going to belong to - so what's the difference.
The thing I find insidious is that no one seems to have an issue with kids so young already being gender stereotyped as manic knee sliders or 'pretty princesses'. Forget the inappropriateness of sparkly tops and nail polish - the horse has already bolted.