A Valentines disco? For Reception?????

[nearlythree]

The school PTA have organised a Valentines disco - well, two in fact, one for 4-7 year olds and the other for the rest of the school. Apart from the fact that it finishes after dd1's bedtime, I am furious that the school thinks this is appropriate for such young children. I know that Michelle Elliot of Kidscape has spoken out about this trend and I am shocked that dd1's school aren't more clued up. Dh is backing me on this and wants me to see the head about it. Whatever happens dd1 won't be going.

You said:

My mum had me wearing make-up and heels at 7 and it wasn't clever, it just meant that as I got older I had nothing to look forward to as a way of being treated any more grown-up. So I just acted like the grown-up I wasn't.

I feel that this may have coloured your judgment.

I can't be sure, but I rather suspect I am older than you, and my DM did not allow or encourage us to jettison our childhood.

I just don't see why it has to be a disco. A party and she'd be going.

It seems very unfair on her unless dh and I compromise something that we feel strongly about. And as I said earlier, the founder of Kidscape has spoken out on this, and as an expert in her field I think she should be listened to.

what problem does Michelle Eliott have about it? it is just pop music and dancing. it's a party, really.

SWMNBN is considered an expert in her field it does not make her right for everyone.

Ditto Michelle Elliot.

Sherlock, my mum thought it was just fun. It hasn't coloured my judgement, I think it has made it clearer b/c I can see the pitfalls ahead. In many ways I managed to hang on to my childhood longer than a lot of my peers, but I know this in one area I have to be careful with for my dcs, esp. my dds.

Sobernow - totally agree that a disco for the older children is fine, although from what I remember of my one and only junior school disco virtually everyone was 'snogging' (ugh at that word!).

Part of me would like to talk to the PTA head, but as this is such a small school and everyone knows everybody else's business it'd be round the parents in no time, and not all of them are very pleasant - in fact there can be a bit of bullying, and I don't want my opinions or actions to have an impact on dd1 with other children isolating her or talking me down to her.

My DD, nearly 5, would love a little disco at school. She knows a bit about Valentine's day but also that it is really for older peole, not little children. Besides she isn't interested in all thats tuff yet - she still very little! But it wouldn't stop her having a fab time, dancing and playing with her friends.

I would imagine it would be on a Friday night, so the later finish wouldn't bother me. How late is it finishing?

I think the school are just making it all fair to the children - one groups gets a disco party, why not the rest?

I'd definitely let my DD go - she is still into party dresses, but with a bit of jewellery nowadays too as she gets a bit older. Never dresses like a mini tart for sure! She loves to dance to thinks like Pop Jr CDs and other pop music. And she loves to party with her friends. If all her other friends were going, it would be the talk of the classroom before and after and she'd want to be part of it.

However, it is your DD here - you have to do what is right for her and yourselves, not anyone else.

Snogging.

Dear God...........how vile.

Our biggest problem is stopping the children bringing squash and crisps into the hall.

I'm 31 and my school had a disco every year. All I remember is dancing to Thriller and Frankie with my friends, and drinking blue Slush Puppy.

Not the healthiest of evenings, but hardly corrupting.

Have to say that we did have disco type parties at primary school but there was definitely no kissing activity at that stage, not till we were a fair bit older. As others say it was the gils dancing and the boys running about and skidding on their knees.

No, I was commenting on sobernow's junior disco - we were all 10 and 11 at mine - of course I don't think the Reception class will be snogging! (trying to think what we danced to - I remember we all had ra-ra skirts - and no-one snogged me which broke my heart at the time but fills me with relief now!)

nearlythree your experience of snogging - junior school ?
im very shocked. This doenst happen in the majority of junior schools. why dont you go along an help out and see for yourself what goes on.
What are you going to do when there are school trips. Most Junior schools organise trips away for 1 or 2 nights before they leave Junior School.
You need to trust your dd.which I am sure you do, but i think your own experiences are clouding your views.

People with nasty minds can see bad every where, children are innocent and the school has planned an innocent occasion for them to enjoy. If you have a fundemental objection to this don't bring your child to it but please don't try to inflict your hangups on others.
It is extremely unlikely that anything untoward is going to occur with a crowd of 4-7 yr olds.

I'm not saying you have a nasty mind but just try not to see badness where there isn't any.

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Cod mind your manners please.

right i know cods not going to answer but what the feck does parp mean?

I'm racking my brains to remember wether our school does a Valentines disco or not....................am sure I have left a few brain cells somewhere today.

I don't think they do one for KS1 but possibly for KS2.

IMO any disco is great fun for the kids and a break for me so I have no complaints.

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LOL

@Cod