confused! suspension/exclusion?

[DeadMansBones]

I was phoned by my sons school today and told that I must collect him due to an emotional outburst and that he couldn't stay at school in the frame of mind he was in.

of course I immediately went to fetch him, not sure what kind of state I was going to find him in. he was actually sitting calmly in a chair a bit tearful. it seems he had been asked to read out his homework to class and had refused and been rude and uncooperative. obviously this is unacceptable and we will be dealing with his behaviour.

i asked if he would be able to stay at school as he had calmed down and were told no the decision had been made that he was to go home.

what I am confused about is the school have said that this is not a suspension/exclusion, my husband spoke to the school when he got home from work and they said that it was agreed with me that it would be best for him to come home, this simply isnt true I specifically asked if he could stay at school.

my feeling is that they had lots going on today (school panto etc) and just didnt want to deal with things properly.

can they just send kids home without formally suspending them?

Update... first day back at school today, the school have proposed putting ds on a pastoral support plan, just waiting for them to confirm a time for a meeting. The headmistress has also spoken to childrens services to ask them to reconsider the caf.

Apparently the exclusion on the last day of term has been logged as an authorised absence on compassionate grounds.

had gp appointment last week, he basically pointed me back in the direction of the school senco.

ds has been good as gold all holidays.