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My dd's 10 yr old friend has deliberately pissed on her laptop in her bedroom

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 21:35

Out of jealousy or something..god knows.Its a boy.He has pee'd in it on monday while she was downstairs.It was on her beanbag and that got pee'd over too.Am bloody furious but dont know what i could/should do about it!!!

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JeanSeberg · 12/02/2014 21:38

Bit stumped with that one, have you just found out? Have you spoken to his parents?

CocktailQueen · 12/02/2014 21:39

Tell his parents?? Are you sure it was him? Is it still working? Ask his parents to pay for repairs?

VivaLeBeaver · 12/02/2014 21:39

Omg. Did he admit it? Have you told his parents? I'd be asking his parents to buy a new laptop.

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2014 21:41

Yes, ring the parents. Why would he do that?

WeekendsAreHappyDays · 12/02/2014 21:41

Speak to parents - it's a s sign of abuse - inappropriate soiling at this age.

AnyFucker · 12/02/2014 21:44

what ?

KoalaFace · 12/02/2014 21:45

That's terrible. For your DD, you and for the boy who has behaved so shockingly. Has there been any issues like this in the past?

frugalfuzzpig · 12/02/2014 21:47

Fucking hell. I would worry what the hell is going on in his mind to make him even imagine doing that.

Could just be amazingly crap discipline/parenting or it could be worse :(

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 21:49

No thats the bloody problem.
Dd was out after school yesterday so never used it.
The last time it was working was 4.20pm mon when he was in her room(i can see the internet history for it from my laptop)when he googled "penis"!
Dd had commented when she went back up to her room that day he suddenly said he had to leave and went.She commented to me at the time she thought he was feeling jealous of her.
Then dd picks up her laptop off her beanbag for first time since then this afternoon,and it is soaking wet,and so is the area around the beanbag.
She went nuts blaming our female cat...but when she has done anything the cat wee smell is unmistakable ..very pungent ammonia smell.
This smells like human urine(boke).
I can't bloody believe it.His parents arent particularly bright and are aggressive to other people in the neighbourhood.
I always felt a bit sorry for him,we've taken him on lots of trips(eg legoland,and york a couple of weeks ago)
But i cant really prove anything can I?!

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Beamur · 12/02/2014 21:51

Oh dear, I think you're right, how could you prove it and it's not very likely that he'll 'fess up presumably.
I guess he won't be terribly welcome in your house anymore? Hope you can get it fixed.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 21:52

And no its not working..its not even 12 months old!!!

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VivaLeBeaver · 12/02/2014 21:52

I suppose you're never going to be 100% sure it wasn't the cat???

But I'd be sure enough to not let him in the house again. But not sure enough to insist his parents pay for it.....especially if they're not very nice.

gilliangoof · 12/02/2014 21:53

Omg. It maybe was the cat.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 12/02/2014 21:53

I would be seriously considering a call to SS. Unless he had additional needs, that is in no-way normal behaviour and is a bit of a red flag.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 21:54

but doesnt cat pee always smell like cat pee??

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JeanSeberg · 12/02/2014 21:54

Lots of red flags there OP, could you speak to him in confidence in a 'you're not in trouble' kind of way then consider your next move.

Approaching the parents may not be right at this stage.

Wilding · 12/02/2014 21:55

No, cat pee has a very distinctive smell, you would definitely know if it was the cat.

I don't know whether you can say anything though? Maybe just say he had an accident to suss out whether this has happened before? V odd.

VivaLeBeaver · 12/02/2014 21:56

www.digitaltrends.com/computing/how-to-save-your-laptop-from-liquid-damage/

I followed this once to rescue a laptop following a hot chocolate spill. Still had to buy a new keyboard for it but only cost £20.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 21:57

his dad takes him shooting rabbits apparently,and has a gun in the house.His parents keep splitting up just lately too.
Dd says he is very jealous of her as although he has an ipad they dont have wifi in their house..so cant really use it.

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Joules68 · 12/02/2014 21:58

Grasping at straws here but if the laptop was warm it might have 'burnt away' the cat urine smell ??

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 21:59

am more worried about him and dd and his friendship than the laptop,but thanksx

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MauriceMinor · 12/02/2014 21:59

I don't think you should pursue that. You have no idea why the laptop is wet. Just suppositions.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:02

about a year ago we had an incident where he used her laptop to send abusive messages(swearing) to her facebook schoolfriends when she was out on her trampoline.She didnt think for one minute it could be him until i showed her the history and times of the entries.
We forgave him though.Although he never fully admitted it.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:03

Maurice,sorry but i think i would know the difference between yellow urine and water or juice.And very coincidental that the last entry on it was his.

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Bigbrassband · 12/02/2014 22:05

He sounds like a troubled young lad. I wouldn't ban him from the house completely but would confine him to family rooms when he comes over. So just pops in for a glass of coke or whatever, rather than spending time in your DDs room unsupervised.

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