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My dd's 10 yr old friend has deliberately pissed on her laptop in her bedroom

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 21:35

Out of jealousy or something..god knows.Its a boy.He has pee'd in it on monday while she was downstairs.It was on her beanbag and that got pee'd over too.Am bloody furious but dont know what i could/should do about it!!!

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:06

yes i suppose thats an option bigbrassband.he has no real friends at school.

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JeanSeberg · 12/02/2014 22:06

Poor lad, I hope you can find a way to still keep contact with him.

EBearhug · 12/02/2014 22:09

Does your household insurance cover accidents? Like cats peeing on the laptop...

AwfulMaureen · 12/02/2014 22:15

Op that's a real shame. Not just the laptop but the fact that your poor DD has had this happen from someone she thought was a mate. Oxfam online sell very good cheap reconditioned laptops.

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 12/02/2014 22:19

I would cool the friendship completely if I'm honest.
Be done with visits.

ListenToTheLady · 12/02/2014 22:20

God yes even if you can't be sure it's him (and it does sound like it was) I would not be leaving them alone together ever again. I'm sorry for him but he sounds as if he could be pretty unpleasant to her.

I think you could either contact SS or school and raise concerns about him in confidence, he could really need help. You can make clear you don't have 100% proof and you are just a bit concerned.

LynetteScavo · 12/02/2014 22:22

Op, I think you know if it was the cat or the boy...

I would let him into the house, but would ban him from being alone in DD's bedroom (with or without her)

Going to his parents will probably do no good.

What do you think would happen if you brought it up with him?

Googling "penis" does seem a bit immature for a 10yo.

hmc · 12/02/2014 22:23

He sounds very troubled. That is way outside normal behaviour.

ListenToTheLady · 12/02/2014 22:26

I know a 10yo who would definitely google penis, has left me and DP obscene messages on post-its when visiting, and is still bedwetting. (NB it's definitely not the same boy! - as from a different background.) It looks to me like a pattern of disturbed behaviour that is not normal for 10, but fits together IYSWIM. I would be worried about him.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:28

i think if i bring it up with him he will stare at the floor and deny it,or possibly start crying.i am basically a bit scared of his mum,who talks and acts like a bloke.

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Helpyourself · 12/02/2014 22:28

You sound lovely OP Flowers
I hope you can claim (cat pee) on insurance.
As an aside, isn't a 10 yo with an iPad but no wifi Sad
Speaks volumes about that household.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:31

its quite mad really..dd is top of the class in alot at school and loves being teachers pet.and this boy is always in trouble,at bottom in most areas and tries every day to distract dd from her work.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:32

i was so angry earlier,but now i just feel so sad for him :(

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:33

i cant imagine dd will be able to stop herself saying something to him at school.she is so disgusted at having had his pee on her!

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5OBalesofHay · 12/02/2014 22:33

I wouldn't encourage a friendship between a teen and a 10 year old anyway (assuming your dd is at least 13 as on Facebook) I'd try to help her make friends her own age.

JeanSeberg · 12/02/2014 22:38

I assume they are the same age?

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:42

yes she is.most of her 10 yr old friends are also on facebook so i relented and let her join.

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anothernamechange111 · 12/02/2014 22:42

she is 10 i mean.she is v nearly 11.

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TheOriginalSteamingNit · 12/02/2014 22:45

Helpful, 50bales Confused

JeanSeberg · 12/02/2014 22:49

And a not so subtle dig about you letting your daughter have FB at the age of 10...

5OBalesofHay · 12/02/2014 22:57

Not a dig, I didn't think Facebook allowed them to register if under 13. Have got it wrong (but got away with refusing so not all bad).

JeanSeberg · 12/02/2014 22:59

Apologies 50.

colditz · 12/02/2014 23:04

Facebook doesn't allow children of ten to register, and facebookbis inappropriate for ten year olds. However, the issue here is not Facebook.

I would advise that you tell his teacher what has happened, and don't leave him alone with your daughter.

MuttonCadet · 12/02/2014 23:07

I'd definitely want him away from my daughter. He does sound troubled.

bexincornwall · 12/02/2014 23:07

There will be a child welfare officer allocated to the care of children at your child's school - you can raise your concerns with them & even if they don't take action it will help them in future interaction with the child (which sounds likely!). Very disturbed behaviour, I wouldn't leave him unsupervised again if you are kind enough to let him back in your house (I'm not that nice - kids don't get invited back to mine after much more minor misdemeanors!).

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