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I'm giving birth to a very poorly 29 weeker tomorrow, any advice?

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Alb1 · 01/04/2017 19:47

I won't go into too much detail as it can be a little quiet on here and I don't want to pour my heart out to no replies Blush

Il be exactly 29 weeks tomorrow, the baby is very poorly and it's been made clear her chances arnt great if they deliver her. But we also don't have any options to help her if we leave her in utero, so she's clearly going to get more sick and die anyway. The doctors arnt giving an opinion of what they think is best so it's all been left down to us, although they said if I was past 32 weeks they'd deliver. So we feel we need to deliver as surly even a tiny tiny chance is better than no chance. Our last baby was stillborn to the same condition (we were told these things don't happen twice, we had absolutely no idea, and nither did the doctors, that it could reoccur) but we didn't find out until hours before she died last time so we couldn't do anything, this time we've been trying for over 4 weeks and have exhausted all options other than delivery.

Don't no what advice I'm looking for, has anyone else had a baby against the odds and how did it go? I think with the doctors not being able to offer an opinion I want to feel like I'm not making a selfish or wrong decision somehow Confused

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stayathomegardener · 02/04/2017 15:28

Thinking of you and your family.

Wombletor · 02/04/2017 15:37

Flowers love to you x

legoagain · 02/04/2017 15:47

You and your family are in my thoughts today.

From our experience, birth of a baby with flutter will give the doctors the best chance to control it with medication or other treatment.

hippogriffwobble · 02/04/2017 15:48

Thinking of you Flowers

Longji · 02/04/2017 15:52

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holygold13 · 02/04/2017 15:55

Thinking of you Flowers

MimsyBorogroves · 02/04/2017 15:55

Wishing you all the best today.

sprinklesofweirdness · 02/04/2017 16:00

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Introvertedbuthappy · 02/04/2017 16:02

Thinking of you and your family today Flowers

dailymailarecunts · 02/04/2017 16:02

Thinking of you too Flowers

rhodes2015 · 02/04/2017 16:07

Also thinking of you Flowers

wtffgs · 02/04/2017 16:11

Best wishes for you and your baby Flowers

Badgertastic · 02/04/2017 16:17

Wishing you, your DP and your baby all the best x

ineedwine99 · 02/04/2017 16:19

Hope all is ok OP

LunaticFringe · 02/04/2017 16:21

As the mother of a stillborn baby girl I would do exactly as you have chosen. You have to grab this chance of life.
I hope she's here and fighting hard Flowers

Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 02/04/2017 16:24
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MrsBobtonTrent · 02/04/2017 16:35

Thinking of you and your beautiful daughter.

Mooey89 · 02/04/2017 16:44

Hope it goes as well as possible today OP and you get some time to enjoy her first moments in the worlds. She is in the best place and has you fighting for her.

Sending love and positive thoughts to you and your baby girl.

Semiurban · 02/04/2017 16:48

Thinking of you and hope you have had a chance to meet your little girl.

ScoobyDoosTinklyLaugh · 02/04/2017 16:49

Thinking of you Flowers

CherriesInTheSnow · 02/04/2017 16:52

You have been on my mind all day OP. I hope, as do all the other women on here supporting you from afar, that you get to meet your lovely little girl and that there is a positive outcome for your family.

I wish positive vibes alone could bring you all through this safely, we are all thinking of you Flowers

ShutTheFridgeUp · 02/04/2017 17:19

Thinking of you today Flowers

BigApple11 · 02/04/2017 18:19

Lots of love OP x

LuchiMangsho · 02/04/2017 18:33

I have been thinking of you and your brave little girl today. I hope that both of you are doing well. Best wishes from my family to yours.

Pandamanda3 · 02/04/2017 18:51

Good luck op my heart goes out to you both 💐
I think your making a wise decision and your quite honestly amazingly brave, be kind to yourself, sending love & hope for your baby girl thinking of you all your in my prayers x